Re: [unschoolingbasics] making it work was: intro
[email protected]
In a message dated 12/9/2007 9:36:57 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:
What if I did that? Or Dh? What if I got up tomorrow and decided to
do just what I wanted? No breakfast today kids,no clean clothes
either. I'm going to enjoy myself,not do anything useful
whatsoever.Everbody fend for yourself now.BTW, Dh lost his job
because he's just doing what is fun now, and we no longer have a
house or car,or electricity<<<<<<<<<<
This may have already been said, if so just delete. I am in the middle of
reading responses. But there is a middle ground. I know several moms who do
not enjoy cooking big meals. But still love their children and their
children are fed, not starving. Since one mom's son was little he has been cooking
his own eggs, and enjoys it. I make a double batch of bagels every week and
stick them in the fridge so that in the mornings there is something already
done, either they or I can pop them in the toaster. I do not like cooking
first thing in the morning. We have cereal around that they like so they can
get it for themselves. To tell you the truth really we graze, eat small stuff
all day. We never eat together as in a "meal" because we are never hungry
together. So we have lots of snack type foods in the fridge where the boys can
get at them. They know how to prepare their favorites like mac and cheese,
or make a sandwich. etc. So just because you do not get up and cook
breakfast does not mean that the kids will not have breakfast. And if you do not
enjoy cooking breakfast I would encourage you to all brainstorm and figure out
a way to make it work. It can be done.
I enjoy myself every day, and I think that is plenty useful. But if there
are things you are doing that you do not enjoy I personally would not be doing
them. I would brain storm to see that things happen though. Like laundry,
you can do a chore exchange with a friend. She brings her kids over and she
does your laundry and you make a supper type meal for her to take home and
pop in the oven at her house. Etc. Have to think outside the box.
If Jackson, he's my dh, did not enjoy his job we would brainstorm about that
too. I know people who have made that change in life as well. I know one
dad who did not want to work, he wanted them to all be together as a family
all the time. He didn't want to miss out on the unschooling, the house, the
family at all. So they saved up money for a year, sold everything they had,
bought a piece of land in BC, Canada, and are homesteading right now. They are
building their own house, well right now they are on hold for the winter,
just keeping warm. But they are doing it, they made the leap. They still have
a car, no electricity except a small generator they use when they want to
make a phone call (longer story...LOL). Eventually they will have a wind
generator and electricity. They are loving it. And no one is working outside
the home for money.
I am not saying that you have to do that. LOL. I am just saying to
consider everyone's wants and needs, your's as well, and brainstorm about these
things. Don't just assume that it can't be done. Don't assume that if you
didn't cook breakfast the kids would go hungry.
OK I am rambling now, but anyway, it can work.
Pam G
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[email protected] writes:
What if I did that? Or Dh? What if I got up tomorrow and decided to
do just what I wanted? No breakfast today kids,no clean clothes
either. I'm going to enjoy myself,not do anything useful
whatsoever.Everbody fend for yourself now.BTW, Dh lost his job
because he's just doing what is fun now, and we no longer have a
house or car,or electricity<<<<<<<<<<
This may have already been said, if so just delete. I am in the middle of
reading responses. But there is a middle ground. I know several moms who do
not enjoy cooking big meals. But still love their children and their
children are fed, not starving. Since one mom's son was little he has been cooking
his own eggs, and enjoys it. I make a double batch of bagels every week and
stick them in the fridge so that in the mornings there is something already
done, either they or I can pop them in the toaster. I do not like cooking
first thing in the morning. We have cereal around that they like so they can
get it for themselves. To tell you the truth really we graze, eat small stuff
all day. We never eat together as in a "meal" because we are never hungry
together. So we have lots of snack type foods in the fridge where the boys can
get at them. They know how to prepare their favorites like mac and cheese,
or make a sandwich. etc. So just because you do not get up and cook
breakfast does not mean that the kids will not have breakfast. And if you do not
enjoy cooking breakfast I would encourage you to all brainstorm and figure out
a way to make it work. It can be done.
I enjoy myself every day, and I think that is plenty useful. But if there
are things you are doing that you do not enjoy I personally would not be doing
them. I would brain storm to see that things happen though. Like laundry,
you can do a chore exchange with a friend. She brings her kids over and she
does your laundry and you make a supper type meal for her to take home and
pop in the oven at her house. Etc. Have to think outside the box.
If Jackson, he's my dh, did not enjoy his job we would brainstorm about that
too. I know people who have made that change in life as well. I know one
dad who did not want to work, he wanted them to all be together as a family
all the time. He didn't want to miss out on the unschooling, the house, the
family at all. So they saved up money for a year, sold everything they had,
bought a piece of land in BC, Canada, and are homesteading right now. They are
building their own house, well right now they are on hold for the winter,
just keeping warm. But they are doing it, they made the leap. They still have
a car, no electricity except a small generator they use when they want to
make a phone call (longer story...LOL). Eventually they will have a wind
generator and electricity. They are loving it. And no one is working outside
the home for money.
I am not saying that you have to do that. LOL. I am just saying to
consider everyone's wants and needs, your's as well, and brainstorm about these
things. Don't just assume that it can't be done. Don't assume that if you
didn't cook breakfast the kids would go hungry.
OK I am rambling now, but anyway, it can work.
Pam G
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Ren Allen
~~I know people who have made that change in life as well. I know one
dad who did not want to work, he wanted them to all be together as a
family all the time. He didn't want to miss out on the unschooling,
the house, the family at all. ~~
My sister's husband felt that way a couple years ago. He was working
at a soul-sucking job that paid really well but left him little time
for his family or himself. They planned out their "escape" and
eventually he quit (had to sell his shares even, as he was a part
owner) and left Alaska in an RV. They spent a lot of time travelling
the U.S. and eventually went back to Alaska where he now works as a
realtor, setting his own hours and spending a lot of time with his family.
Our lifestyle and income making is a choice. It might take a lot of
planning and work to change that but if a person doesn't like some
aspect of their lives, they really should change it! That simple.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
dad who did not want to work, he wanted them to all be together as a
family all the time. He didn't want to miss out on the unschooling,
the house, the family at all. ~~
My sister's husband felt that way a couple years ago. He was working
at a soul-sucking job that paid really well but left him little time
for his family or himself. They planned out their "escape" and
eventually he quit (had to sell his shares even, as he was a part
owner) and left Alaska in an RV. They spent a lot of time travelling
the U.S. and eventually went back to Alaska where he now works as a
realtor, setting his own hours and spending a lot of time with his family.
Our lifestyle and income making is a choice. It might take a lot of
planning and work to change that but if a person doesn't like some
aspect of their lives, they really should change it! That simple.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
John Buxcel
work is for people who can't fish for a living.
On Dec 9, 2007 10:02 AM, Ren Allen <starsuncloud@...> wrote:
> ~~I know people who have made that change in life as well. I know one
> dad who did not want to work, he wanted them to all be together as a
> family all the time. He didn't want to miss out on the unschooling,
> the house, the family at all. ~~
>
> My sister's husband felt that way a couple years ago. He was working
> at a soul-sucking job that paid really well but left him little time
> for his family or himself. They planned out their "escape" and
> eventually he quit (had to sell his shares even, as he was a part
> owner) and left Alaska in an RV. They spent a lot of time travelling
> the U.S. and eventually went back to Alaska where he now works as a
> realtor, setting his own hours and spending a lot of time with his family.
>
> Our lifestyle and income making is a choice. It might take a lot of
> planning and work to change that but if a person doesn't like some
> aspect of their lives, they really should change it! That simple.
>
> Ren
> learninginfreedom.com
>
>
>
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[email protected]
<<Our lifestyle and income making is a choice. It might take a lot of
planning and work to change that but if a person doesn't like some
aspect of their lives, they really should change it! That simple.>>
This is true. I am in the planning stages right now. I can't just quit without some serious consequences, but I am hoping to have things sorted out early next year. And then I will quit. I can't wait.
Kathryn
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From: "Ren Allen" <starsuncloud@...>
~~I know people who have made that change in life as well. I know one
dad who did not want to work, he wanted them to all be together as a
family all the time. He didn't want to miss out on the unschooling,
the house, the family at all. ~~
My sister's husband felt that way a couple years ago. He was working
at a soul-sucking job that paid really well but left him little time
for his family or himself. They planned out their "escape" and
eventually he quit (had to sell his shares even, as he was a part
owner) and left Alaska in an RV. They spent a lot of time travelling
the U.S. and eventually went back to Alaska where he now works as a
realtor, setting his own hours and spending a lot of time with his family.
Our lifestyle and income making is a choice. It might take a lot of
planning and work to change that but if a person doesn't like some
aspect of their lives, they really should change it! That simple.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
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planning and work to change that but if a person doesn't like some
aspect of their lives, they really should change it! That simple.>>
This is true. I am in the planning stages right now. I can't just quit without some serious consequences, but I am hoping to have things sorted out early next year. And then I will quit. I can't wait.
Kathryn
-------------- Original message --------------
From: "Ren Allen" <starsuncloud@...>
~~I know people who have made that change in life as well. I know one
dad who did not want to work, he wanted them to all be together as a
family all the time. He didn't want to miss out on the unschooling,
the house, the family at all. ~~
My sister's husband felt that way a couple years ago. He was working
at a soul-sucking job that paid really well but left him little time
for his family or himself. They planned out their "escape" and
eventually he quit (had to sell his shares even, as he was a part
owner) and left Alaska in an RV. They spent a lot of time travelling
the U.S. and eventually went back to Alaska where he now works as a
realtor, setting his own hours and spending a lot of time with his family.
Our lifestyle and income making is a choice. It might take a lot of
planning and work to change that but if a person doesn't like some
aspect of their lives, they really should change it! That simple.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
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