Joni Zander

>> What if I did that? Or Dh? What if I got up tomorrow and decided to
do just what I wanted? No breakfast today kids,no clean clothes
either. I'm going to enjoy myself,not do anything useful
whatsoever.Everbody fend for yourself now.BTW, Dh lost his job
because he's just doing what is fun now, and we no longer have a
house or car,or electricity. <<

But this is exactly what all four of us in our family do everyday. We do
exactly what we want.

The key is in viewing things that were formerly "have-tos" and chores as
things that are enjoyable. I like to cook and clean for my family because I
enjoying caring for people I love.

I like doing laundry because I like to wear clean clothes. I like to make
my bed in the morning because I like to get into a made bed at night.

My house isn't as clean as it used to be because I don't care about it being
as tidy as it once was, and nobody else in our family cares that much about
it being perfect either.

Just because you're enjoying yourself doesn't have to mean that you aren't
doing anything useful. And I hope that everyone in our family is doing what
they love so that going to work is a joyful choice. This is why we started
unschooling in the first place.

Radical unschooling is all about living a joyful life. The doesn't mean
that important things don't get done, they just get done without the
feelings of drudgery that some many people attach to them.

Doing everything with joy will help your kids want to do the things most
parents make their kids do. What I mean is, most parents coerce kids into
doing chores, helping out around the house. In these homes, chores are
unpleasant tasks that parents make you do because they are important to the
parents. In RU homes, household tasks are done by the person who would like
them done, with joy and with no coercion. This is not to say that the
parents do everything, because when you model doing household tasks
joyfully, others want to get in on the action - the kids do see these things
as yucky.
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Joni Zander
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