Momma

How would you all handle finding out that your 11 year old son was looking at porn on the intenet?
Aubrey

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Zoa Conner

Aubrey,

He is probably curious and has questions. Talk with him. It is possible he
did not realize what he was clicking on. Talk with him. Whether he got there
by searching for it or by accident might give you a guide as to what his
questions might be. Keep your cool. Talk more.

Zoa

On 12/5/07 9:19 AM, "Momma" <southernbelle@...> wrote:

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> How would you all handle finding out that your 11 year old son was looking at
> porn on the intenet?
> Aubrey
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Zoa Conner, PhD
Physicist and Montessori Homeschooling Mother
zoaconner@...



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momma

How would you all handle finding out that your 11 year old son was
looking at
porn on the intenet?
Aubrey

ENSEMBLE S-WAYNFORTH

Simon hasn't yet. He's 10 and he isn't particularly interested, yet. I figure there will come a day. He has had friends over who are quite interested in naked women. And Linnaea, who is 7, has played Barbie doll games that have some adult scenes going on, and has worked really hard to get her Sims to "woohoo" on the Sims2. Oh, and we have Leisure Suit Larry for the PS2, which they haven't played for ages, but which was sort of fun for a little while. Sex and sexual imagery just isn't quite fascinating, yet.

I would be most worried about the computer being vulnerable to trojans <BWG> and other sorts of computer STD's that might be an issue than I would be about the exposure to naked folk. I'd make sure I had really good firewalls and up to date virus software. From my teen years I have some pretty sexually explicit comic books, and some nice books of nudes, I might hunt through all the boxes from move after move and see if I could put my hands on those. I don't know that I would make a big deal out of it, but I'd probably put them somewhere that I know he'd see them and I wouldn't mention it. I would talk to him about Chris Langham and the trouble he got into for downloading images of children to his computer and how there are images that are available via the internet that could get him into seriously hot water. He needs to tread carefully if accessing nudity via the internet. That's what I would point out.

Schuyler
www.waynforth.blogspot.com


----- Original Message ----
From: Momma <southernbelle@...>
To: [email protected]
Sent: Wednesday, 5 December, 2007 2:19:03 PM
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] Kids & Porn

How would you all handle finding out that your 11 year old son was looking at porn on the intenet?
Aubrey

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Melissa

Well, considering it's a pretty typical part of teenage life, I'd be
thankful that I knew, instead of having him sneak behind my back and
never know. I'd much rather him look at honest porn and know that
they are consenting adults, rather than secretive tapes that boys (or
girls) have taken of their partners and posted, or sex slaves from
eastern Europe stuck in the US at a strip club.

I'd wonder what he's getting out of it. Is he curious about sex? Just
about what porn is? Is he actually interested in having a sexual
relationship?

I can say that Josh has looked at porn online. He hasn't been ready
to talk about it. My husband's mother was much the same, and dh says
that it was the best thing, he could talk to her about anything. As a
result, he was able to have access to what he needed, and engaged in
only two relationships, both very serious and both planned out.

My friends son was doing the same thing, and got a bunch of spyware
on his computer, so I can be thankful that we haven't had to deal
with that. Dh upgraded our fire wall just in case. Josh knows that he
can talk to me about anything disturbing, and because we've pretty
much uncovered all the secrets of sex, he knows if/when things are
exaggerated or just wrong.
Melissa
Mom to Josh (12), Breanna (10), Emily (9), Rachel (7), Sam (6), Dan
(4), and Avari Rose (2)

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On Dec 5, 2007, at 9:03 AM, momma wrote:

> How would you all handle finding out that your 11 year old son was
> looking at
> porn on the intenet?
> Aubrey
>
>
>



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momma

Well, as far as the spyware and viruses he is pretty good about that.
He's very computer savvy and does system checks frequently on his
own.
He may be getting more curious about sex than he has been in the
past, or maybe just porn. I'm not sure. We have always had open
discussions about sex and he has asked a lot of questions. I have
never shyed away from the topic. I guess I'm more concerned about
what it is he is seeing. It's pretty explicit stuff. The internet has
no boundaries as far as that stuff goes. It can be down right
shocking.
And actually he didn't come right out and tell me, I'm sorry to say.
I found the websites in the drop box of internet explorer. I'm not
sure whether to even mention it or not. I feel that he has the right
to privacy but I would also like to have an open discussion about it.
Aubrey





[email protected], Melissa <autismhelp@...> wrote:
>
> Well, considering it's a pretty typical part of teenage life, I'd
be
> thankful that I knew, instead of having him sneak behind my back
and
> never know. I'd much rather him look at honest porn and know that
> they are consenting adults, rather than secretive tapes that boys
(or
> girls) have taken of their partners and posted, or sex slaves from
> eastern Europe stuck in the US at a strip club.
>
> I'd wonder what he's getting out of it. Is he curious about sex?
Just
> about what porn is? Is he actually interested in having a sexual
> relationship?
>
> I can say that Josh has looked at porn online. He hasn't been
ready
> to talk about it. My husband's mother was much the same, and dh
says
> that it was the best thing, he could talk to her about anything. As
a
> result, he was able to have access to what he needed, and engaged
in
> only two relationships, both very serious and both planned out.
>
> My friends son was doing the same thing, and got a bunch of
spyware
> on his computer, so I can be thankful that we haven't had to deal
> with that. Dh upgraded our fire wall just in case. Josh knows that
he
> can talk to me about anything disturbing, and because we've pretty
> much uncovered all the secrets of sex, he knows if/when things are
> exaggerated or just wrong.
> Melissa
> Mom to Josh (12), Breanna (10), Emily (9), Rachel (7), Sam (6),
Dan
> (4), and Avari Rose (2)
>
> share our lives at
> http://360.yahoo.com/multimomma
>
>
>
> On Dec 5, 2007, at 9:03 AM, momma wrote:
>
> > How would you all handle finding out that your 11 year old son was
> > looking at
> > porn on the intenet?
> > Aubrey
> >
> >
> >
>
>
>
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>

jane doe

Hi Aubrey! Steven (14) says that it is highly likely
he is finding things while looking for other things.
Some of his suggestions for easily finding porn
included searching for cheat codes, serial numbers to
play games, flash or online games, and how to make a
bomb type instructions.
His other suggestion was to stop using IE because
there is a risk of phishing more predominantly at
websites that have a possibility of having flash or
other porn.
One thing he has seen is while playing a free online
strategy game, he found a banner ad for obscene Cosmo
magazine.
If he is specifically going to porn sites (grayvee.com
or diablobabes.com for example) then its a personal
thing that he WANTS to look at them.
Those are his thoughts, porn is harder to avoid than
find. I even found something looking for rag rug
making instructions once!
ELISA






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