Rebecca De Hate

Hello unschoolers, I always seem to pop on when I've just had an
argument with my mother.... anyway here's some questions for you...
You have probably had them a half a dozen time but..


First let me explain myself real quick -- I have thought of
homeschooling even before my first child was born (he's 5 now) and
in the process I've still went to school myself for an elementary
education degree -- basically so I would be "qualified" to teach my
kids at home but now that I have been introduced to unschooling I
realize that I don't have to be "qualified". Ok so here's the first
question I was just arguing with my mom about the fact that even
though I'm sending my child to kindergarten this year (my excuse --
because I'm a single parent working and he seemed to reallllly want
to go...) but I kind of feel that school is "optional" for him...
my mom feels that I am teaching him to be irresponsible by letting
him choose when he wants to go ... so today I send him even though
he doesn't want to basically because I don't want to argue with my
mother yet I still did.... Ideas on how to handle this... I'm
thinking I need to just stop worrying about what she thinks and the
school and allow him to stay home when he feels like it...

The second argument with her was that I work and that I can't
homeschool if I do... I feel that it is possible especially since
right now I work at a restaurant and I can work just weekends if
need be plus it seems that the universe will work with me on this if
I just open to the possibilities...

thirdly kind of a funny question but am I a bad mom for letting my
five year old watch that dumb austin power goldmember movie.
Granted it isn't something I let him watch all the time he just
thinks it's funny -- my mom again said it filth and preversion...
etc, etc. and after that he talked about his nuts and stuck his
middle finger up... Now my thoughts are this I can't shield him from
everything and he really doesn't get all those underlying inuendos
the movie has... second he has talked about the middle finger from
the bus ... and third I think all little boys tend to talk about
there body parts!!??? anyway for now I hid the video so we won't
argure ....

Melissa

okay, not much advice about moms, I have enough troubles with my own,
it would be kettle-like of me to offer any advice.

But I am facing the same issues with movies and shows. I know that I
overprotected Josh, Bre and Emily, but for some reason i'm having a
hard time with Sam and Dan watching stuff that seems....mature for them.

Sam loves South Park, but I have a real hard time with him walking
around giggling and saying "Suck my balls!" I mean, sheesh. So that
was something I was going to post anyway, I'm glad you broke the ice.

I did explain to Sam what that meant, because he was saying it in
public and not understanding why other kids thought he was gross. He
*is* six years old. He thought it was disgusting, and hasn't said it
since, but there are a dozen similar things going on. Like when he
told the guy from church the lyrics to Ugly Barbie and said "You too
damn ugly!"

Melissa
Mom to Josh (12), Breanna (10), Emily (8), Rachel (7), Sam (6), Dan
(4), and Avari Rose (19 months)

share our lives at
http://360.yahoo.com/multimomma



On Dec 3, 2007, at 10:46 AM, Rebecca De Hate wrote:
>
> thirdly kind of a funny question but am I a bad mom for letting my
> five year old watch that dumb austin power goldmember movie.
> Granted it isn't something I let him watch all the time he just
> thinks it's funny -- my mom again said it filth and preversion...
> etc, etc. and after that he talked about his nuts and stuck his
> middle finger up... Now my thoughts are this I can't shield him from
> everything and he really doesn't get all those underlying inuendos
> the movie has... second he has talked about the middle finger from
> the bus ... and third I think all little boys tend to talk about
> there body parts!!??? anyway for now I hid the video so we won't
> argure ....
>
>
>



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Karen Buxcel

> I'm thinking I need to just stop worrying about what she thinks and the
> school and allow him to stay home when he feels like it...
>





Yep! How nice for him to learn that his sweet mama is there, on his side,
in this crazy thing we call life!


> thirdly kind of a funny question but am I a bad mom for letting my
> five year old watch that dumb austin power goldmember movie.
>





You'd be a bad mommy if you forced him to watch it, when he really didn't.
But he wanted to, you are right there to help him navigate it, you are
probably laughing together and making great memories. How can that be bad?

Karen
http://www.thewildtribe.blogspot.com

>
>
>


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rebecca de

too funny! Ok I feel better now!! SEE our kids do understand when we explain things to them and your child did stop saying that -- just like mine will too.. thank you

Melissa <autismhelp@...> wrote: okay, not much advice about moms, I have enough troubles with my own,
it would be kettle-like of me to offer any advice.

But I am facing the same issues with movies and shows. I know that I
overprotected Josh, Bre and Emily, but for some reason i'm having a
hard time with Sam and Dan watching stuff that seems....mature for them.

Sam loves South Park, but I have a real hard time with him walking
around giggling and saying "Suck my balls!" I mean, sheesh. So that
was something I was going to post anyway, I'm glad you broke the ice.

I did explain to Sam what that meant, because he was saying it in
public and not understanding why other kids thought he was gross. He
*is* six years old. He thought it was disgusting, and hasn't said it
since, but there are a dozen similar things going on. Like when he
told the guy from church the lyrics to Ugly Barbie and said "You too
damn ugly!"

Melissa
Mom to Josh (12), Breanna (10), Emily (8), Rachel (7), Sam (6), Dan
(4), and Avari Rose (19 months)

share our lives at
http://360.yahoo.com/multimomma

On Dec 3, 2007, at 10:46 AM, Rebecca De Hate wrote:
>
> thirdly kind of a funny question but am I a bad mom for letting my
> five year old watch that dumb austin power goldmember movie.
> Granted it isn't something I let him watch all the time he just
> thinks it's funny -- my mom again said it filth and preversion...
> etc, etc. and after that he talked about his nuts and stuck his
> middle finger up... Now my thoughts are this I can't shield him from
> everything and he really doesn't get all those underlying inuendos
> the movie has... second he has talked about the middle finger from
> the bus ... and third I think all little boys tend to talk about
> there body parts!!??? anyway for now I hid the video so we won't
> argure ....
>
>
>

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rebecca de

thank you -- I guess i need to just get a tough exterior in a way and put my blinders on!! I am going through some major unschooling issues myself !!! like knowing what I want -- a safe, fun, open, free home where my child can learn -- yet learning to step out of the box myself.... I'll get it though!!!

Karen Buxcel <thewildtribe@...> wrote: > I'm thinking I need to just stop worrying about what she thinks and the
> school and allow him to stay home when he feels like it...
>

Yep! How nice for him to learn that his sweet mama is there, on his side,
in this crazy thing we call life!

> thirdly kind of a funny question but am I a bad mom for letting my
> five year old watch that dumb austin power goldmember movie.
>

You'd be a bad mommy if you forced him to watch it, when he really didn't.
But he wanted to, you are right there to help him navigate it, you are
probably laughing together and making great memories. How can that be bad?

Karen
http://www.thewildtribe.blogspot.com

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Faith Void

I think you have the right idea about letting go and letting things
fall into place. You can unschool and work, even as a single parent,
it just might take some extra navigating. I was a single mama for a
few years and managed (somehow!) to keep my daughter home. One option
is lots pf great babysitters! My dd had 5, a different one for each
day of the week. She loved it and so did her babysitters, they were
always "fresh". Another thing I found was another single mama that
wanted to co-house and swap childcare. Not that these will necessarily
work for you but perhaps it can give you a start. Or at least *know*
that is is possible. I remember reading that many of the parents on
here were/are single and that they managed as well.

As for small children watching "mature" themes in TV, I think its all
good. I have seen "objectional" things on pbs kids shows, I just
dialog with my kids about them. My 5 y/o loves Jackass. He also picks
up odd, questionable phrases from his big sister and her friends.
That's life. We work through it. I typically watch things with him, at
least once, and talk about it. It is a fun part of TV watching as I
prefer talking to watching, lol. Keep in mind that if you child had a
big sibling he would have probably been exposed to these things
anyway.

Faith

On Dec 3, 2007 11:46 AM, Rebecca De Hate <rebeccadehate@...> wrote:
>
>
>
>
>
>
> Hello unschoolers, I always seem to pop on when I've just had an
> argument with my mother.... anyway here's some questions for you...
> You have probably had them a half a dozen time but..
>
> First let me explain myself real quick -- I have thought of
> homeschooling even before my first child was born (he's 5 now) and
> in the process I've still went to school myself for an elementary
> education degree -- basically so I would be "qualified" to teach my
> kids at home but now that I have been introduced to unschooling I
> realize that I don't have to be "qualified". Ok so here's the first
> question I was just arguing with my mom about the fact that even
> though I'm sending my child to kindergarten this year (my excuse --
> because I'm a single parent working and he seemed to reallllly want
> to go...) but I kind of feel that school is "optional" for him...
> my mom feels that I am teaching him to be irresponsible by letting
> him choose when he wants to go ... so today I send him even though
> he doesn't want to basically because I don't want to argue with my
> mother yet I still did.... Ideas on how to handle this... I'm
> thinking I need to just stop worrying about what she thinks and the
> school and allow him to stay home when he feels like it...
>
> The second argument with her was that I work and that I can't
> homeschool if I do... I feel that it is possible especially since
> right now I work at a restaurant and I can work just weekends if
> need be plus it seems that the universe will work with me on this if
> I just open to the possibilities...
>
> thirdly kind of a funny question but am I a bad mom for letting my
> five year old watch that dumb austin power goldmember movie.
> Granted it isn't something I let him watch all the time he just
> thinks it's funny -- my mom again said it filth and preversion...
> etc, etc. and after that he talked about his nuts and stuck his
> middle finger up... Now my thoughts are this I can't shield him from
> everything and he really doesn't get all those underlying inuendos
> the movie has... second he has talked about the middle finger from
> the bus ... and third I think all little boys tend to talk about
> there body parts!!??? anyway for now I hid the video so we won't
> argure ....
>
>

wisdomalways5

--- In [email protected], Melissa <autismhelp@...>
wrote:
>
>> But I am facing the same issues with movies and shows. I know
that I
> overprotected Josh, Bre and Emily, but for some reason i'm having
a
> hard time with Sam and Dan watching stuff that seems....mature for
them.
>
> Sam loves South Park, but I have a real hard time with him
walking
> around giggling and saying "Suck my balls!" I mean, sheesh. So
that
> was something I was going to post anyway, I'm glad you broke the
ice.
>


Mostly I talk about what is ok to say around the people who live in
our house and everybody eles. My daughter is almost 5 and
will "catch" herself when she realizes that it is not something that
others want to hear.

I will say "lets just say that around home" - or grandma does not
wan to hear that lets say it in the car.