tetonicfork

My name is Angel and I need some help and advice. I have an 11yr old
boy who has always been homeschooled. He spent one year in preschool
when he was 4 but didn't like it.

My trouble is that he was home outside playing in our front yard (we
live in a subdivision on a cul-de-sac street) on Thursday late
afternoon when a girl and two other children we don't know came along
riding thier bikes thru our court. The story from my son is that the
girl came up to him and asked him if he wanted to fight. She started
to kick at him and he punched her in the face and she fell down and
then got up and kicked him again and ran home. The police were
called and a report was filed. I think the girl ended up at the
hospital for a checkup to see if she was alright.

Here is my question. When you have a homeschool/unschooled child
when do they learn to get along with others. This is not his first
time in a fight but he is not going around looking for one either.
They seem to come to him. He is 5 feet 2 inches tall and weighs
about 150-160lbs. He is very big for his age and I think that
intimidates alot of kids.

How do I help him get along with others when we don't usually meet
with too many people? We do belong to a homeschool group and meet
once a month for park day. Any suggestions would be great and anyone
who has raised a teenage boy with helpful tips would be appreciated.

Thanks, Angel

wisdomalways5

it seems implausible that a girl he did not know simply came up to
him and wanted to fight- Do you live somehwere that this routinely
happens?

If you do think that this is what happened I would MOVE somewhere
where people did not do this

I would think that there was more to the story like- i called her
this and she said that and we went back and forth and then we
decided to fight- or the other person started it and he continued it

I would discuss that fighting is called assult and you can go to
jail for it and he needs other options for dealing with his
emotions.

Are you homeschooling or unschooling?

Julie
--- In [email protected], "tetonicfork"
<tetonicfork@...> wrote:
>
> My name is Angel and I need some help and advice. I have an 11yr
old
> boy who has always been homeschooled. He spent one year in
preschool
> when he was 4 but didn't like it.
>
> My trouble is that he was home outside playing in our front yard
(we
> live in a subdivision on a cul-de-sac street) on Thursday late
> afternoon when a girl and two other children we don't know came
along
> riding thier bikes thru our court. The story from my son is that
the
> girl came up to him and asked him if he wanted to fight. She
started
> to kick at him and he punched her in the face and she fell down
and
> then got up and kicked him again and ran home. The police were
> called and a report was filed. I think the girl ended up at the
> hospital for a checkup to see if she was alright.
>
> Here is my question. When you have a homeschool/unschooled child
> when do they learn to get along with others. This is not his
first
> time in a fight but he is not going around looking for one
either.
> They seem to come to him. He is 5 feet 2 inches tall and weighs
> about 150-160lbs. He is very big for his age and I think that
> intimidates alot of kids.
>
> How do I help him get along with others when we don't usually meet
> with too many people? We do belong to a homeschool group and meet
> once a month for park day. Any suggestions would be great and
anyone
> who has raised a teenage boy with helpful tips would be
appreciated.
>
> Thanks, Angel
>

Faith Void

I don't find it implausible. We lived in an area where my dd was
confronted by the same thing at a much younger age. We were unable to
move immediately and had to deal with it, Even where we live now,
which is a "nice" area our next door neighbors would beat my (then) 4
y/o up (they were 11 and 12) for no reason. So we just don't go out
when they are out anymore. And I can't let him out with his sister,
w/o me in our own backyard. We are moving but things take time, We
just talk to our kids a lot. Anyway, it is definitely not implausible,
nor is it easy or practical to just pack up and move.
Faith

On Dec 1, 2007 11:30 PM, wisdomalways5 <wisdom1133@...> wrote:
>
>
>
>
>
>
> it seems implausible that a girl he did not know simply came up to
> him and wanted to fight- Do you live somehwere that this routinely
> happens?
>
> If you do think that this is what happened I would MOVE somewhere
> where people did not do this
>
> I would think that there was more to the story like- i called her
> this and she said that and we went back and forth and then we
> decided to fight- or the other person started it and he continued it
>
> I would discuss that fighting is called assult and you can go to
> jail for it and he needs other options for dealing with his
> emotions.
>
> Are you homeschooling or unschooling?
>
> Julie
> --- In [email protected], "tetonicfork"
>
>
> <tetonicfork@...> wrote:
> >
> > My name is Angel and I need some help and advice. I have an 11yr
> old
> > boy who has always been homeschooled. He spent one year in
> preschool
> > when he was 4 but didn't like it.
> >
> > My trouble is that he was home outside playing in our front yard
> (we
> > live in a subdivision on a cul-de-sac street) on Thursday late
> > afternoon when a girl and two other children we don't know came
> along
> > riding thier bikes thru our court. The story from my son is that
> the
> > girl came up to him and asked him if he wanted to fight. She
> started
> > to kick at him and he punched her in the face and she fell down
> and
> > then got up and kicked him again and ran home. The police were
> > called and a report was filed. I think the girl ended up at the
> > hospital for a checkup to see if she was alright.
> >
> > Here is my question. When you have a homeschool/unschooled child
> > when do they learn to get along with others. This is not his
> first
> > time in a fight but he is not going around looking for one
> either.
> > They seem to come to him. He is 5 feet 2 inches tall and weighs
> > about 150-160lbs. He is very big for his age and I think that
> > intimidates alot of kids.
> >
> > How do I help him get along with others when we don't usually meet
> > with too many people? We do belong to a homeschool group and meet
> > once a month for park day. Any suggestions would be great and
> anyone
> > who has raised a teenage boy with helpful tips would be
> appreciated.
> >
> > Thanks, Angel
> >
>
>

tetonicfork

We live in a very nice area. Nothing like this has happened before.
He got into a tousle with a boy a couple of days ago when this boy
took our ball away from our daughter(7yr). Justin our son, got the
ball back but pushed the kid to do it. I think this boy may have
asked this girl to come into our area and pick a fight.

We are military and awaiting orders to move so that will happen in
the next 6 months or so.

I have told him about jail in the past and I think he always thought
it could not happen to me. Now that the officer has been here he is
more aware that things can happen to him.

We have always homeschooled him eclectic style. We have tried
Charlotte Mason with him and he is loving it. I would love to go the
unschooling route but I get scared they aren't learning enough and
then I start with studies again. I thought that joining this group
may give me the courage to trust them more as well as myself.

Thanks, Angel


--- In [email protected], "wisdomalways5"
<wisdom1133@...> wrote:
>
> it seems implausible that a girl he did not know simply came up to
> him and wanted to fight- Do you live somehwere that this routinely
> happens?
>
> If you do think that this is what happened I would MOVE somewhere
> where people did not do this
>
> I would think that there was more to the story like- i called her
> this and she said that and we went back and forth and then we
> decided to fight- or the other person started it and he continued it
>
> I would discuss that fighting is called assult and you can go to
> jail for it and he needs other options for dealing with his
> emotions.
>
> Are you homeschooling or unschooling?
>
> Julie
> --- In [email protected], "tetonicfork"
> <tetonicfork@> wrote:
> >
> > My name is Angel and I need some help and advice. I have an 11yr
> old
> > boy who has always been homeschooled. He spent one year in
> preschool
> > when he was 4 but didn't like it.
> >
> > My trouble is that he was home outside playing in our front yard
> (we
> > live in a subdivision on a cul-de-sac street) on Thursday late
> > afternoon when a girl and two other children we don't know came
> along
> > riding thier bikes thru our court. The story from my son is that
> the
> > girl came up to him and asked him if he wanted to fight. She
> started
> > to kick at him and he punched her in the face and she fell down
> and
> > then got up and kicked him again and ran home. The police were
> > called and a report was filed. I think the girl ended up at the
> > hospital for a checkup to see if she was alright.
> >
> > Here is my question. When you have a homeschool/unschooled child
> > when do they learn to get along with others. This is not his
> first
> > time in a fight but he is not going around looking for one
> either.
> > They seem to come to him. He is 5 feet 2 inches tall and weighs
> > about 150-160lbs. He is very big for his age and I think that
> > intimidates alot of kids.
> >
> > How do I help him get along with others when we don't usually
meet
> > with too many people? We do belong to a homeschool group and
meet
> > once a month for park day. Any suggestions would be great and
> anyone
> > who has raised a teenage boy with helpful tips would be
> appreciated.
> >
> > Thanks, Angel
> >
>