Working Question
Kristi Nelson
Hello everyone!
I have enjoyed reading the posts for the last several months. I have a
question for everyone. We have been homeschooling for 3 1/2 years,
mostly school at home. We have been unschooling since April of this
year. My dd is 13. She is very independent and still in the process of
deschooling. Me too! I would like to further my education, but have
put if off in order to be available for my daughter. I would like to
get my real estate salesperson's license which means I would be in and
out of the house a lot once I get it. I am sure some of you work
outside of the home. I am curious how it works for you? Are your kids
ok with it? Do family members ask when you homeschool? Should I feel
guilty for doing this now? Should I just wait until my dd is older?
I appreciate all of your advice in advance.
Thank you,
Kristi
I have enjoyed reading the posts for the last several months. I have a
question for everyone. We have been homeschooling for 3 1/2 years,
mostly school at home. We have been unschooling since April of this
year. My dd is 13. She is very independent and still in the process of
deschooling. Me too! I would like to further my education, but have
put if off in order to be available for my daughter. I would like to
get my real estate salesperson's license which means I would be in and
out of the house a lot once I get it. I am sure some of you work
outside of the home. I am curious how it works for you? Are your kids
ok with it? Do family members ask when you homeschool? Should I feel
guilty for doing this now? Should I just wait until my dd is older?
I appreciate all of your advice in advance.
Thank you,
Kristi
Meredith
If you can afford it, I would wait. Even independent kids need a lot
of support, and the knowledge that someone is *available* is
priceless.
Would your dh (if you have one, I don't recall) be available for
times when you would be out? That would be a way for you to eat your
cake and have it, if you're just *itching* to get out and be a
realtor.
main "breadwinner" of the family. Over the years I've cut down the
amount that I work outside the home - now its about three days a
month. Being available and supportive takes a lot more time and
energy than is obvious on the surface, and everyone in the family
notices when I'm gone for a day. That's something I have a hard time
communicating to non-homeschoolers for the most part. I've found
that I *can't* do any kind of venting about wanting to get some of
my own needs met to friends and family who have never homeschooled.
I save that for the message boards and my "play dates" with other
home/unschoolers.
routine in terms of when we're more likely to be home vs out. If I
need to stave off nosey family or neighbors I'll refer to those
times as "our homeschool time". I just don't tell them how much
Spongebob is involved in "homeschooling" in our house ;)
---Meredith (Mo 6, Ray 13)
of support, and the knowledge that someone is *available* is
priceless.
Would your dh (if you have one, I don't recall) be available for
times when you would be out? That would be a way for you to eat your
cake and have it, if you're just *itching* to get out and be a
realtor.
>I am sure some of you workkids
> outside of the home. I am curious how it works for you? Are your
> ok with it? Do family members ask when you homeschool?George and I are both self-employed, but he is the
main "breadwinner" of the family. Over the years I've cut down the
amount that I work outside the home - now its about three days a
month. Being available and supportive takes a lot more time and
energy than is obvious on the surface, and everyone in the family
notices when I'm gone for a day. That's something I have a hard time
communicating to non-homeschoolers for the most part. I've found
that I *can't* do any kind of venting about wanting to get some of
my own needs met to friends and family who have never homeschooled.
I save that for the message boards and my "play dates" with other
home/unschoolers.
>Do family members ask when you homeschool?We don't have a schedule, per se, but we do have a fairly regular
routine in terms of when we're more likely to be home vs out. If I
need to stave off nosey family or neighbors I'll refer to those
times as "our homeschool time". I just don't tell them how much
Spongebob is involved in "homeschooling" in our house ;)
---Meredith (Mo 6, Ray 13)
kel9769
I am sure some of you work
if I could do anything I wanted I would be home with her most of the
time but that's not an option for us right now. I do get the
surprized looks from people who learn we homeschool and some people
ask about when we do things. I usually skirt around it by saying she
is old enough to be self directed and that I monitor what she does in
the evenings. That's true enough but they probably see it in a
different way than what really happens. In reality we talk during the
day at least once & send e-mails especially if one of us finds
something cool. She just came back from Not Back to School Camp so
now she has friends to talk to during the day. In the evenings we
hang out, cook, play games, go out & talk about stuff. I've found
some really coool lecture/discussions at a local college we want to
check out. She's also teaching herself to play guitar. We tried to
learn to crochet but neither one of us could figure it out from the
book so we need someone to show us. On the weekends she likes to
spend time with her friends, do fun stuff and work (she does child
care at church). My mom usually has one day off during the week and
they spend time together. I know she would be happy to have me at
home with her more but we do make it work. Bottom line is whatever
you decide to do, don't feel guilty about it. If it doesn't work for
your family then do something different.
Kelly
> outside of the home. I am curious how it works for you? Are your kidsMy daughter is 14 and I do work full time outside the home. I guess
> ok with it? Do family members ask when you homeschool? Should I feel
> guilty for doing this now? Should I just wait until my dd is older?
if I could do anything I wanted I would be home with her most of the
time but that's not an option for us right now. I do get the
surprized looks from people who learn we homeschool and some people
ask about when we do things. I usually skirt around it by saying she
is old enough to be self directed and that I monitor what she does in
the evenings. That's true enough but they probably see it in a
different way than what really happens. In reality we talk during the
day at least once & send e-mails especially if one of us finds
something cool. She just came back from Not Back to School Camp so
now she has friends to talk to during the day. In the evenings we
hang out, cook, play games, go out & talk about stuff. I've found
some really coool lecture/discussions at a local college we want to
check out. She's also teaching herself to play guitar. We tried to
learn to crochet but neither one of us could figure it out from the
book so we need someone to show us. On the weekends she likes to
spend time with her friends, do fun stuff and work (she does child
care at church). My mom usually has one day off during the week and
they spend time together. I know she would be happy to have me at
home with her more but we do make it work. Bottom line is whatever
you decide to do, don't feel guilty about it. If it doesn't work for
your family then do something different.
Kelly
Kristi Nelson
--- In [email protected], "Meredith" <meredith@...> wrote:
Meredith,
Thank you for your advice! Our budget is extremely tight and extra
money would be great. But, we do manage and dd is more important.
>
> If you can afford it, I would wait. Even independent kids need a lot
> of support, and the knowledge that someone is *available* is
> priceless.
> We don't have a schedule, per se, but we do have a fairly regular
> routine in terms of when we're more likely to be home vs out. If I
> need to stave off nosey family or neighbors I'll refer to those
> times as "our homeschool time". I just don't tell them how much
> Spongebob is involved in "homeschooling" in our house ;)
Since we are fairly new at unschooling, I usually answer that she does
her work in the evening. Which is true. She is a night owl and does
her reading, drawing and computer work in the late hours. With me
working though, I just wonder how many more questions I would get.
Kristi
rpindc04
I am interested in this, too. I have always worked part-time, and
hope to continue, even though we have just started homeschooling. I
can arrange my work so I am occupied just 2-4 hours at a time, 1 or 2
weekdays a week, then a little more on weekends. I usually work out
of my home. I'm curious to hear if others think this is taking too
much from the family. My son is pretty good about keeping himself
quietly occupied while I work when dh is not home. When dh is home,
they usually go out on errands or adventures when I work.
Robbin
--- In [email protected], "Kristi Nelson"
<knelson732003@...> wrote:
hope to continue, even though we have just started homeschooling. I
can arrange my work so I am occupied just 2-4 hours at a time, 1 or 2
weekdays a week, then a little more on weekends. I usually work out
of my home. I'm curious to hear if others think this is taking too
much from the family. My son is pretty good about keeping himself
quietly occupied while I work when dh is not home. When dh is home,
they usually go out on errands or adventures when I work.
Robbin
--- In [email protected], "Kristi Nelson"
<knelson732003@...> wrote:
>wrote:
> --- In [email protected], "Meredith" <meredith@>
>lot
> Meredith,
>
> Thank you for your advice! Our budget is extremely tight and extra
> money would be great. But, we do manage and dd is more important.
> >
> > If you can afford it, I would wait. Even independent kids need a
> > of support, and the knowledge that someone is *available* isI
> > priceless.
>
> > We don't have a schedule, per se, but we do have a fairly regular
> > routine in terms of when we're more likely to be home vs out. If
> > need to stave off nosey family or neighbors I'll refer to thosedoes
> > times as "our homeschool time". I just don't tell them how much
> > Spongebob is involved in "homeschooling" in our house ;)
>
> Since we are fairly new at unschooling, I usually answer that she
> her work in the evening. Which is true. She is a night owl and does
> her reading, drawing and computer work in the late hours. With me
> working though, I just wonder how many more questions I would get.
>
> Kristi
>
Mara
Hi,
we took my stepson out of school when he was 13, my
husband would often be gone during the day and I would
often be out with the little ones but he really
enjoyed the time to himself and would not have minded
at all to be alone for a good part every day. I would
say that really depends on your daughter. I would talk
to her about what you would like to do and how she
feels about it, what she would like to do in that time
etc. Is there someone she could reach/call if need be,
friends she could be with, grandparents, etc. ? Maybe
she is like my son and would love it - maybe she
would want to come along with a book...
All the best,
Mara
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we took my stepson out of school when he was 13, my
husband would often be gone during the day and I would
often be out with the little ones but he really
enjoyed the time to himself and would not have minded
at all to be alone for a good part every day. I would
say that really depends on your daughter. I would talk
to her about what you would like to do and how she
feels about it, what she would like to do in that time
etc. Is there someone she could reach/call if need be,
friends she could be with, grandparents, etc. ? Maybe
she is like my son and would love it - maybe she
would want to come along with a book...
All the best,
Mara
--- Kristi Nelson <knelson732003@...> wrote:
> Hello everyone!____________________________________________________________________________________
>
> I have enjoyed reading the posts for the last
> several months. I have a
> question for everyone. We have been homeschooling
> for 3 1/2 years,
> mostly school at home. We have been unschooling
> since April of this
> year. My dd is 13. She is very independent and still
> in the process of
> deschooling. Me too! I would like to further my
> education, but have
> put if off in order to be available for my daughter.
> I would like to
> get my real estate salesperson's license which means
> I would be in and
> out of the house a lot once I get it. I am sure some
> of you work
> outside of the home. I am curious how it works for
> you? Are your kids
> ok with it? Do family members ask when you
> homeschool? Should I feel
> guilty for doing this now? Should I just wait until
> my dd is older?
>
> I appreciate all of your advice in advance.
>
> Thank you,
>
> Kristi
>
>
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carenkh
--- In [email protected], "Kristi Nelson"
<knelson732003@...> wrote:
"We've worked out a nice schedule" is plenty. :)
Caren
<knelson732003@...> wrote:
> her reading, drawing and computer work in the late hours. With meQuestions that you're under no obligation to answer! An answer like,
> working though, I just wonder how many more questions I would get.
"We've worked out a nice schedule" is plenty. :)
Caren
[email protected]
I am sure some of you work
I have had to deal with the attitudes of people and family members but basically, I have a policy of silence on the issue. I am not out to convert anyone at this stage, so with the parent's of her conventionally schooled friends I just never mention it. I let them assume whatever they want. I am suitably vague with concerned family members. I just tell them I am "keeping records and complying with state standards."
Kathryn
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> outside of the home. I am curious how it works for you? Are your kidsI would not wait. I have a daughter now aged 15 who left school after 8th grade at age 14. I also had to work full time, and still do. Her Dad had back surgery that summer and during his "recuperation" he was directing the rehab of the house we now live in, so he was largely unavailable during the day also. It was not exactly easy "deschooling" and I felt bad for not being able to be around, and for her being "left to her own devices." But in spite of the boredom and isolation she felt, she was in no way compelled to go back to school. Now, 16 months later, she has tons of friends, many of whom she met at Not Back To School Camp as well, and is very much occupied all the time with a variety of activities. So despite the situation, it was a good decision overall for us.
> ok with it? Do family members ask when you homeschool? Should I feel
> guilty for doing this now? Should I just wait until my dd is older
I have had to deal with the attitudes of people and family members but basically, I have a policy of silence on the issue. I am not out to convert anyone at this stage, so with the parent's of her conventionally schooled friends I just never mention it. I let them assume whatever they want. I am suitably vague with concerned family members. I just tell them I am "keeping records and complying with state standards."
Kathryn
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Meredith
--- In [email protected], "rpindc04" <robbin_mp@...>
wrote:
making the best of less-than-ideal situations when "enough" of their
needs are being met, and that can fake us (parents) out a bit. They
*seem* to be doing just fine.
Ray is really great about "keeping himself occupied" when I'm out.
At the same time, though, I'm not there to offer him the last
cookie, look at a cool new trick he can do, or chat about whatever
catches his interest on Runescape or Mythbusters. Those are all as
much a part of supporting his autonomy (and other needs) as making
sure he can get himself some food and find things to do on his own.
Its true that he doesn't really *need* me to be around every second
to do these things, but there's also no way of knowing when those
moments will happen. So there's a degree of juggling needs and
finding solutions that leave everyone feeling supported, not
just "occupied".
the extra money? Does the work fill some of your personal needs?
Which ones? Then brainstorm if there are other ways to "get" the
same things *and* be more available to your kid. Sometimes we don't
see other options bc we haven't looked yet ;)
When I first had kids it never occurred to me that I would do
anything but continue working. I had to do a lot of thinking about
my own values and needs and how those intersected with my family and
individual family members - I still have to think about those
things, too. Its not a one time decision, its a continuing process
as my kids grow and their needs evolve.
---Meredith (Mo 6, Ray 14)
wrote:
>> I'm curious to hear if others think this is taking tooI think its more important to ask that of yourself and your family.
> much from the family.
> My son is pretty good about keeping himselfThere's sort of a catch here - kids are generally pretty good at
> quietly occupied while I work when dh is not home.
making the best of less-than-ideal situations when "enough" of their
needs are being met, and that can fake us (parents) out a bit. They
*seem* to be doing just fine.
Ray is really great about "keeping himself occupied" when I'm out.
At the same time, though, I'm not there to offer him the last
cookie, look at a cool new trick he can do, or chat about whatever
catches his interest on Runescape or Mythbusters. Those are all as
much a part of supporting his autonomy (and other needs) as making
sure he can get himself some food and find things to do on his own.
Its true that he doesn't really *need* me to be around every second
to do these things, but there's also no way of knowing when those
moments will happen. So there's a degree of juggling needs and
finding solutions that leave everyone feeling supported, not
just "occupied".
> I am interested in this, too. I have always worked part-time, andIts worthwhile to think about *why* you want to keep working. Is it
> hope to continue, even though we have just started homeschooling.
the extra money? Does the work fill some of your personal needs?
Which ones? Then brainstorm if there are other ways to "get" the
same things *and* be more available to your kid. Sometimes we don't
see other options bc we haven't looked yet ;)
When I first had kids it never occurred to me that I would do
anything but continue working. I had to do a lot of thinking about
my own values and needs and how those intersected with my family and
individual family members - I still have to think about those
things, too. Its not a one time decision, its a continuing process
as my kids grow and their needs evolve.
---Meredith (Mo 6, Ray 14)
rn9302000
For those of you that do continue to work for whatever reason, and
there are many........please check out Marji's group
Working Radical Unschoolers............
its awesome!!!
Diane
there are many........please check out Marji's group
Working Radical Unschoolers............
its awesome!!!
Diane
Nicole Willoughby
Ive heard there is a way to go to reg web sites from your wii........not just the news channel and weather channel but for example www.starfall.com
Can anyone tell me step by step how to do this?
Thanks,
Nicole
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Yahoo! Small Business gives you all the tools to get online.
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Can anyone tell me step by step how to do this?
Thanks,
Nicole
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Yahoo! Small Business gives you all the tools to get online.
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Melissa
Use the internet channel, which you have to download by going to wii
shopping channel and buy the internet channel for zero points. This
is what I remember from Josh's explanations.
Good luck
Melissa
Mom to Josh (12), Breanna (10), Emily (8), Rachel (7), Sam (6), Dan
(4), and Avari Rose (19 months)
share our lives at
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shopping channel and buy the internet channel for zero points. This
is what I remember from Josh's explanations.
Good luck
Melissa
Mom to Josh (12), Breanna (10), Emily (8), Rachel (7), Sam (6), Dan
(4), and Avari Rose (19 months)
share our lives at
http://360.yahoo.com/multimomma
On Sep 29, 2007, at 11:15 PM, Nicole Willoughby wrote:
> Ive heard there is a way to go to reg web sites from your
> wii........not just the news channel and weather channel but for
> example www.starfall.com
>
> Can anyone tell me step by step how to do this?
>
> Thanks,
>
> Nicole
>
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> Building a website is a piece of cake.
> Yahoo! Small Business gives you all the tools to get online.
>
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>
>
>
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