Mom in law's influencing
Sara
I have a question.. My son tends to sometimes run around himself and
talk to himself. It looks a little like autistic behavior. He is like
that all of his life. Now mom in law blames it on unschooling. She
says she has over 70 grandchildren and nobody of them is doing this.
She claims if he was with other kids in school he won't do it. But I
remember when he was in school he always did it sometimes. My son
plays with friends well. This is frustrating that my husbnd 's mom is
trying to find 'reasons' for worry and trying to influence my husband
's mind and making him afraid of homeschooling.
My husband is doubtfull and says I don't know if you can manage
homeschooling. its so hard. you have to take him to friends and places
everyday, and manage housework, and laundry. I see it clearly that
his mom is influencing his mind too much!! And that my husband is
trying to find 'reasons' to back off unschooling.
talk to himself. It looks a little like autistic behavior. He is like
that all of his life. Now mom in law blames it on unschooling. She
says she has over 70 grandchildren and nobody of them is doing this.
She claims if he was with other kids in school he won't do it. But I
remember when he was in school he always did it sometimes. My son
plays with friends well. This is frustrating that my husbnd 's mom is
trying to find 'reasons' for worry and trying to influence my husband
's mind and making him afraid of homeschooling.
My husband is doubtfull and says I don't know if you can manage
homeschooling. its so hard. you have to take him to friends and places
everyday, and manage housework, and laundry. I see it clearly that
his mom is influencing his mind too much!! And that my husband is
trying to find 'reasons' to back off unschooling.
c. blanton
Hi Sara
First of all, congratulations on making the decision to homeschool. I think it is the best thing you can do for your kid.
I have a few questions for you. How long has your son been behaving this way?
Has your husband supported you in the beginning? If yes, what was his reasoning behind that? Remind him of those original views he had.
I know it is hard having to listen to a family member, specially a mother-in-law, who undermines your decision. Mine told me a few years ago, that once my children hit high school -age, I would not be smart enough to homeschool.
I am a college educated woman, a ordained minister, with my own business, and speak four languages, so you can see, that statements from others are not based on facts, or your truth, but more from the fact, that they are defending their own truth. Go with your gut feeling. Do you feel, that your son is going through a stage? Do you feel there is something wrong with him? Quiet yourself for a moment, and see to what conclusion your intuition brings you.
If you want, you can e-mail me privately, and I can answer some of your questions in more detail. But most importantly, believe in yourself. I believe in you.
Have a blessed day.
Rev. Claudia Blanton
Homeschool Coach/Life Coach/ EFT-Practitioner
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Sara <nurturinghome@...> wrote:
I have a question.. My son tends to sometimes run around himself and
talk to himself. It looks a little like autistic behavior. He is like
that all of his life. Now mom in law blames it on unschooling. She
says she has over 70 grandchildren and nobody of them is doing this.
She claims if he was with other kids in school he won't do it. But I
remember when he was in school he always did it sometimes. My son
plays with friends well. This is frustrating that my husbnd 's mom is
trying to find 'reasons' for worry and trying to influence my husband
's mind and making him afraid of homeschooling.
My husband is doubtfull and says I don't know if you can manage
homeschooling. its so hard. you have to take him to friends and places
everyday, and manage housework, and laundry. I see it clearly that
his mom is influencing his mind too much!! And that my husband is
trying to find 'reasons' to back off unschooling.
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First of all, congratulations on making the decision to homeschool. I think it is the best thing you can do for your kid.
I have a few questions for you. How long has your son been behaving this way?
Has your husband supported you in the beginning? If yes, what was his reasoning behind that? Remind him of those original views he had.
I know it is hard having to listen to a family member, specially a mother-in-law, who undermines your decision. Mine told me a few years ago, that once my children hit high school -age, I would not be smart enough to homeschool.
I am a college educated woman, a ordained minister, with my own business, and speak four languages, so you can see, that statements from others are not based on facts, or your truth, but more from the fact, that they are defending their own truth. Go with your gut feeling. Do you feel, that your son is going through a stage? Do you feel there is something wrong with him? Quiet yourself for a moment, and see to what conclusion your intuition brings you.
If you want, you can e-mail me privately, and I can answer some of your questions in more detail. But most importantly, believe in yourself. I believe in you.
Have a blessed day.
Rev. Claudia Blanton
Homeschool Coach/Life Coach/ EFT-Practitioner
cjblanton123@...
Sara <nurturinghome@...> wrote:
I have a question.. My son tends to sometimes run around himself and
talk to himself. It looks a little like autistic behavior. He is like
that all of his life. Now mom in law blames it on unschooling. She
says she has over 70 grandchildren and nobody of them is doing this.
She claims if he was with other kids in school he won't do it. But I
remember when he was in school he always did it sometimes. My son
plays with friends well. This is frustrating that my husbnd 's mom is
trying to find 'reasons' for worry and trying to influence my husband
's mind and making him afraid of homeschooling.
My husband is doubtfull and says I don't know if you can manage
homeschooling. its so hard. you have to take him to friends and places
everyday, and manage housework, and laundry. I see it clearly that
his mom is influencing his mind too much!! And that my husband is
trying to find 'reasons' to back off unschooling.
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Brian & Alexandra Polikowsky
Don't you ever talk to yourself???? Aloud or not?
I still do it from time to time and did a lot as a child.
Alex
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I still do it from time to time and did a lot as a child.
Alex
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From: Brian & Alexandra Polikowsky <polykow@...>
Don't you ever talk to yourself???? Aloud or not?
I still do it from time to time and did a lot as a child.
Alex
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Yeah---I'm a regular walkie-talkie! <g>
I have long and involved conversations with myself about all sorts of
things. I play *both* roles (sometimes three or four, depending on the
conversation! <g>).
It's a way for me to work out what I'm thinking about. I examine things
better when I can see it in my own handwriting and when I can hear my
voice. So I write and talk a LOT! <G>
When I'm with my animals (and years ago when I was with my babies),
it's easy to claim that I'm just talking to them. <g> But mostly, it's
just *me*!
Maybe ask your son what he's talking about. He may (or may not) have a
direct answer for you. But it helps me to concentrate and not lose my
train of thought. Keeps the "voices" clear! <bwg>
~Kelly
Kelly Lovejoy
Conference Coordinator
Live and Learn Unschooling Conference
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From: Brian & Alexandra Polikowsky <polykow@...>
Don't you ever talk to yourself???? Aloud or not?
I still do it from time to time and did a lot as a child.
Alex
-=-=-=-=-
Yeah---I'm a regular walkie-talkie! <g>
I have long and involved conversations with myself about all sorts of
things. I play *both* roles (sometimes three or four, depending on the
conversation! <g>).
It's a way for me to work out what I'm thinking about. I examine things
better when I can see it in my own handwriting and when I can hear my
voice. So I write and talk a LOT! <G>
When I'm with my animals (and years ago when I was with my babies),
it's easy to claim that I'm just talking to them. <g> But mostly, it's
just *me*!
Maybe ask your son what he's talking about. He may (or may not) have a
direct answer for you. But it helps me to concentrate and not lose my
train of thought. Keeps the "voices" clear! <bwg>
~Kelly
Kelly Lovejoy
Conference Coordinator
Live and Learn Unschooling Conference
http://www.LiveandLearnConference.org
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Sharissa13
Your son could be on the autistic spectrum... but that
has nothing to do with homeschooling. Sometimes people
look for something to complain about when things don't
go as they wish. You MIL obviously doesn't want you to
unschool (or homeschool at all), so she's found
something to nitpick and raise a fuss about. I'm sorry
to hear that it's influencing your husband.
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has nothing to do with homeschooling. Sometimes people
look for something to complain about when things don't
go as they wish. You MIL obviously doesn't want you to
unschool (or homeschool at all), so she's found
something to nitpick and raise a fuss about. I'm sorry
to hear that it's influencing your husband.
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