meghanenos

DH and I are in the process of adopting through DSS. We are focusing
on two particular girls (ages 12 and 14) but since we know that things
can change, we've included an possible age range of 7-15. I'm assuming
the girls currently attend public school. The way it works is after we
all meet and our requirements are fulfilled, they move in for 6 months
to a year before the adoption is legalized. I was thinking that in
that time I would continue to send them to public school (just in case
for whatever reason it didn't work out, that way they would still be
used to the system), then after it was legalized, ask them what they
wanted to do. I figure 12 and 14 years old is old enough to make their
own decision about schooling, even though I would love to unschool
them. Anyone have any thoughts on this? Anyone been through it? My
kids are only 8 months and almost 3, so this would be a whole new
ballgame.

Meghan

Kathleen Gehrke

--- In [email protected], "meghanenos"
<meghanenos@...> wrote:
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> DH and I are in the process of adopting through DSS.


CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!


I'm assuming
> the girls currently attend public school.


That would be a safe bet.;]


The way it works is after we
> all meet and our requirements are fulfilled, they move in for 6
months
> to a year before the adoption is legalized. I was thinking that in
> that time I would continue to send them to public school (just in
case
> for whatever reason it didn't work out, that way they would still
be
> used to the system), then after it was legalized, ask them what
they
> wanted to do.


Depending on which state you live you may HAVE to send them to PS
until you are final.


Our last placement was a nearly seven year old. He had moved and
moved and been in several schools after having big life losses.
Guess what he did not do very well, disruptive and stuff like that.

When he was placed I was very clear that my condition was he be
allowed to homeschool with my other kids. My feeling was he needed
to be surrounded by his family. To feel the security that a small
baby has the luxury of. It worked well for him.He was with us every
moment for the past two years and now can comfortably go with other
folks for a bit without feeling insecure.

I do not think that kids who are in the midst of loss and change as
huge as a new family are really in a place to face schools stupid
expectation. WAIT I am not sure anyone is, different story.

Anyway good luck with your adoption.

Kathleen

Melissa

I wanted to second the congratulations, and wish you luck. While we're not adopting, we've
fostered a couple of children and never have had problems with homeschooling them. Maybe
it depends not only on the state but also your particular caseworker.
Melissa
--- In [email protected], "Kathleen Gehrke" <gehrkes@...> wrote:
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> --- In [email protected], "meghanenos"
> <meghanenos@> wrote:
> >
> > DH and I are in the process of adopting through DSS.
>
>
> CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!