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From: "Robyn Coburn" <dezigna@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Friday, July 16, 2004 3:26 AM
Subject: RE: [unschoolingbasics] help letting go
> <<<< But I would get embarassed if I was with a child with snarly hair or
> something. Whatever you think is good, like matching clothes or combed
hair,
> you can show your child using yourself as an example.>>>>
>
> Oh well, I guess you won't want to be around Jayn.
This is too funny :-D. Jayn could model for me of not to be uptight about
such things. There was a time when someone I know could've had animals
living in her hair, and we wouldn't have known it. I always felt like a
neglectful Mom when we were seen in public when her hair was like that. But
really, I think my insisting she sit on the stair every morning so I could
fix her hair, led to the snarls when I "let" her own her own head. Same
thing with hair washing. Once I let it go, she eventually started to do it
herself. Because it was an enjoyable thing for her while playing mermaid or
whatever in the tub--and 'cause it felt good. For kids, grooming likely has
to be a part of playing and must feel good.
>
> Sometimes modeling takes a looooooooong time to be effective, but I do
agree
> that it is the only thing that is, if being happy is the foremost goal.
>
> Robyn L. Coburn
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