MrsStranahan

I've recently stopped taking Zoloft and some OCD tendecies that I have came
right back.

I found this page, http://www.ocdhope.com/selfhelp.htm .. maybe it will be
help some of you.

Lauren

On 12/30/06, Karen Smith <mkbsmith@...> wrote:
>
> Hi Tami,
>
> I understand how you feel. I have had to work hard to let go of
> "perfectionism" myself. www.flylady.net has helped me tremendously! My
> house stays fairly straightened. I just have to be careful to do ONLY what
> she tells me to do daily and not go way overboard and try to do everything
> perfectly. Hope you find this helpful.
>
> Karen
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Tami
> To: [email protected]<unschoolingbasics%40yahoogroups.com>
> Sent: Saturday, December 30, 2006 9:00 AM
> Subject: [unschoolingbasics] Help for my OCD-like characteristics re:
> clutter
>
> Hi all,
>
> New question here...
>
> I am the grown daughter of an obsessive-compulsive parent. OCD is funny
> when you
> watch it on MONK, but in real life, its horrible. You've heard the phrase
> "a place for
> everything, and everything in its place", but with my dad, this was taken
> to a new level. I
> remember more than one occassion being jerked out of bed in the middle of
> the night
> because something was a couple of inches out of place and it was my
> responsibility to
> align it PERFECTLY before being allowed to go back to sleep.
>
> Althought *I* do not have OCD, it has been ingrained in me that things
> have to be
> cleaned/picked up/put away PERFECTLY. I have worked very hard to overcome
> this part of
> my upbringing, and I've done quite well in a lot of areas. I've lowered my
> standards on
> cleanliness to a point I never thought possible (for instance, I can't
> remember the last time
> I cleaned the bathrooms - hows that for lowered standards!). But...I have
> 3 young children
> (5.5, 4, 2) with 3 seperate interests and the clutter is tearing me apart
> on the inside. I've
> gone thru the archives, but have only seen stuff on picking up/cleaning
> relating to "have
> to vs. choose to", which I don't feel applies to me. Because of my
> upbringing, mentally
> "letting go" of the mess is not something I feel I can do. It causes such
> incredible anxiety
> in me that sometimes I have trouble breathing! I have come to understand
> thru reading
> Sandra Dodd's site that if something bothers me, then it is *my*
> responsibility to clean it
> up. But...I feel I like I am *always* picking up and sacrificing time with
> my kids in order to
> do this. I don't wont to sacrfice my time/relationship with them, but I'm
> not sure how to
> overcome something that has been so deeply ingrained in me.
>
> Anyone have any suggestions?
>
> Thanks,
> Tami
>
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