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In a message dated 12/11/2006 2:18:36 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
kbcdlovejo@... writes:

Any tips or experiences are appreciated. I don't let it show to him,
but it's really wearing on me. I love his hugs and holding his hand.
But the "having an extra body attached to me" is wearing on me...


OH! I miss that time so much!!!! But I remember feeling a little like you
are describing when things were 'crazy clingy' and then feeling guilty! One
thing that worked so well for all three of mine was *getting them* before they
get me :-) so for example, if they were calmly playing on the carpet with
legos at my feet while I was at the computer my thoughts were "oh good I can have
a second to myself" but my actions were to get on the floor for a few
minutes and kiss, hug, hold cuddle and be the instigator of all the mushiness. It
"filled them up" with what they needed and helped them be less clingy. It also
helped for me to assume that EVERYONE was sleeping with me every single
night, then if they didn't want to, they would go out to their own beds on their
own. My 7 year old daughter still sleeps in my bed 90% of the time but she is
always welcome there and encouraged. My boys LAUGH if I ask them if they
want to sleep there (they are 9 and 11) and are totally independent now, but
that wasn't always the case. If something sad happens (like when our dog died)
or if someone feels sick, they always end up with me. It is a really nice way
for them to get comfort and security. I'm so glad they still feel like it is
totally ok to do so! Hang in there - it does get better and then you will
want it all back again!

Adriana




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