difference between unschooling and antiauthoritarian approach
Solé
Hello List,
what is the difference between Unschooling and Antiauthoritarian?
I know it is different, but have you ever heard people say
Unschooling doesn't work because it's the same as the
antiauthoritarian approach and that "didn't work"? What did you say?
I guess I'm not quite sure, what the antiauthoritarian approach
actually covered. My parents used to say they were "quite
antiauthoritarian", but I feel they kinda weren't.
Greetings
Johanna
what is the difference between Unschooling and Antiauthoritarian?
I know it is different, but have you ever heard people say
Unschooling doesn't work because it's the same as the
antiauthoritarian approach and that "didn't work"? What did you say?
I guess I'm not quite sure, what the antiauthoritarian approach
actually covered. My parents used to say they were "quite
antiauthoritarian", but I feel they kinda weren't.
Greetings
Johanna
Michelle Leifur Reid
On 10/9/06, Solé <solelokuai@...> wrote:
have to question whether antiauthoritarian (or better thought would be
non-coercive) parenting "doesn't work." I've seen some great results
from being "non-authoritarian."
Michelle
> Hello List,Unschooling works because parents are quite mindful. And one would
>
> what is the difference between Unschooling and Antiauthoritarian?
>
> I know it is different, but have you ever heard people say
> Unschooling doesn't work because it's the same as the
> antiauthoritarian approach and that "didn't work"? What did you say?
>
have to question whether antiauthoritarian (or better thought would be
non-coercive) parenting "doesn't work." I've seen some great results
from being "non-authoritarian."
Michelle
Joyce Fetteroll
On Oct 9, 2006, at 7:43 AM, Solé wrote:
theories of the 1970s when children could find out for themselves
what was good or bad for them; some enjoyed this, some didn´t and
envied their mates who were told what to do and what not."
Which pretty much sums it up.
So antiauthoritarian would be letting the kids figure it out for
themselves.
Unschooling parents do let kids figure things out when they want to
but are there to help them when they want help.
The unschooling philosophy isn't focused so much on an ideal -- let
them figure it out -- but on meeting the kids' needs. We walk along
beside them being there when they need us there and backing off when
they need us to back off. Some kids need more backing off to figure
it out for themselves, which would look like antiauthoritarian
parenting. But some kids need more help or like being with someone as
they explore to talk about it and antiauthoritarian wouldn't meet
their needs at all.
I think most parenting theories would claim to meet kids' needs. But
with most the parents feel they know what's best and decide what the
kids' needs are. Unschoolers treat each child as an individual and
trust children's feelings about themselves. If they act as if they
want more of our time we need to trust their actions rather than
referring to some authority to tell us how much of our time our kids
should need.
There's something missing from that explanation, though, because it
causes parents to think we mean stay up until 2AM with a 3 yo because
they don't lay down to sleep earlier and I'm not quite sure how to
get that concept in neatly without tacking it on like this. ;-)
Joyce
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> I guess I'm not quite sure, what the antiauthoritarian approachI found a quote: "Gone are the times of the antiauthoritarian
> actually covered.
theories of the 1970s when children could find out for themselves
what was good or bad for them; some enjoyed this, some didn´t and
envied their mates who were told what to do and what not."
Which pretty much sums it up.
So antiauthoritarian would be letting the kids figure it out for
themselves.
Unschooling parents do let kids figure things out when they want to
but are there to help them when they want help.
The unschooling philosophy isn't focused so much on an ideal -- let
them figure it out -- but on meeting the kids' needs. We walk along
beside them being there when they need us there and backing off when
they need us to back off. Some kids need more backing off to figure
it out for themselves, which would look like antiauthoritarian
parenting. But some kids need more help or like being with someone as
they explore to talk about it and antiauthoritarian wouldn't meet
their needs at all.
I think most parenting theories would claim to meet kids' needs. But
with most the parents feel they know what's best and decide what the
kids' needs are. Unschoolers treat each child as an individual and
trust children's feelings about themselves. If they act as if they
want more of our time we need to trust their actions rather than
referring to some authority to tell us how much of our time our kids
should need.
There's something missing from that explanation, though, because it
causes parents to think we mean stay up until 2AM with a 3 yo because
they don't lay down to sleep earlier and I'm not quite sure how to
get that concept in neatly without tacking it on like this. ;-)
Joyce
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