Using the Law of Attraction to Create the Family You Desire
Tyra Olufemi
Peace,
I have just watch The Secret, a movie about the Law of Attraction, for the second time and when I finished I HAD to write the following piece on my blog. It was a blessing for me to write it and I hope that it blesses you in some way.
Much Love
Tyra Olufemi
Using the Law of Attraction to Create the Family You Desire
I have been in a seriously deep spiritual journey over the last year. I began unschooling in September, 2005. I listened to the unschoolers, especially the radical unschoolers on the unschoolingbasics yahoogroup, and just did not know how this would all work. My son learning all kinds of things without my direction? Children dictating when they would sleep, how they would eat, what they watched on TV and how much?! It was a lot for me to grasp initially but I will say that it totally resonated with me.
Fast forward to today. I am living the unschooling life. I do it because it is what is easier for me and what makes my children most happy. PERIOD. I could do all of these things that I THINK I should do to produce happy, well-adjusted, successful children but that has proven to be more work than I am willing to put forth. You see, I am stepping into the realization that I am the creator of my Universe. I write the script of my life. And as I step more fully into this truth by consciously LIVING it, I am realizing just how wonderfully amazing and EASY unschooling is.
What I am studying now is called the science of manifestation or the law of attraction. The essence of this universal law, this universal truth is that we get what we most focus our attention on. So often we have been programmed to believe that certain things are needed in order to produce the perfect children we are taught that we all desire. We, for whatever reason, buy into this hook, line and sinker. You know what I am talking about: "healthy" children only eat........; children NEED 9 hours of sleep every NIGHT in order to function properly; TOO MUCH TV is not good for a child's mind....The list goes on and on and on. Oh, here are a few good ones, too, "You have to teach a child to respect you." "Children are so naive and lack experience to really know."
I bought into these, too, at some point. But as I unfold spiritually, as I begin to paint the picture of my life as I truly want it, as I learn the spiritual truth of the law of attraction, I realize that we see in our children so much of what we don't want because we are focusing on what we don't want rather than what we do want to see in them.
One of my main hang ups is health. I have always had a focus on my health and have even worked to live what I deem to be a healthy lifestyle. My children entered my life at a time when I was beginning to deconstruct my life as I had thought it was supposed to be and began to step into my own inner truth. Needless to say this has been a time of supreme resistance so I have definitely been in the ebb when it comes to having the health and body that I desire. As a result, my children have been exposed to all sorts of foods. Some deemed as very healthy and other as very unhealthy by the community at large. And because I see that my children are pretty smart guys, they have taking a liking to the finer things in life: sugar, chips, desserts, white donuts (that is my 3 yr olds rave right now) and all kinds of foods that I NEVER thought "my" children would eat.
Even though I have been in the ebb, I remained committed to finding my way back to the flow of health. But with my health nut filter, I have been angry, afraid and embarrassed by how and what my children eat some days. It was the unschoolers who first helped me to realize that it is totally okay to let a child decide what, how much and when a child wants to eat. This is actually the first area that I made my greatest unschooling leap in. I decided that I would no longer dictate what my children ate, but instead I would have a nice variety of foods for my children to select from offering no judgment on how and when they eat them. I really did this on faith based on what the unschoolers said. Amazingly I found that it really worked. The less judgment I made of food as bad and good, the less I focused on what they were eating that I did not like, the more I realized that they make really healthy choices in what they eat AND that they were making even more healthy choices than I thought.
I recently have begun to write a new script for my life based on understanding that if I am overweight, it is because I am attracting that into my life. If I am unhealthy, dis-ease is coming my way because I am attracting it. I decided that I want the body that I had before my babies AND I want health. Since setting these intentions, I have begun to naturally and easily adjust my lifestyle to accommodate my sleek, sexy and beautiful body and to create health in my body, mind and spirit. As a result of my own focus on eating healthy and choosing to only eat foods that make my body feel its best, my children are doing the same as well as my husband.
My husband and I have been fasting off and on for various reasons since the beginning of this year. My older son who had proudly proclaimed that he was a carnivore will tell us that he is fasting from meat and including fruits and veggies in his fast. I get amazed because he is serious. I notice that when I fix myself a salad, my younger son will come to me as if I am a magnet and sit and eat most of the salad.
So what I am saying is that whatever life you wish to envision for your family, then what needs to happen is that you need to think about it LOTS! Even if you don't see your vision in physical form, live as if you already have what you want. FEEL IT! Feel the peace, the love, the harmony that you seek to be the very fabric of your family's essence. And the more you do that, the more you focus on what you DO want, the less you focus on what you children are doing that you DON'T want, the more quickly your wishes, dreams and desires for your family will come to you all.
So as I think about new unschoolers, as I think about people who wonder IF unschooling can work, I think, it can work if you only imagine it, only if you dream it. Fear of failure will slow things down. But what I am finding is the most important key is that I am to live that life, the qualities, the morals that I want my children to live FIRST. I believe when I am living my best life, being my best self, then what others do will have no impact on my peace. But, if I can model this for my children, what a gift I will give to them: an example of a person who followed her bliss, lived the life of her dreams and died with a smile on her face having no regrets.
This life, I am finding, is truly unschooling for me and my family. As we continue to create the life of our dreams, as we continue to write the script of our lives to only include that which makes us peaceful, I wish you the same.......
A lotus unfolding in humility with grace and ease.....
I have just watch The Secret, a movie about the Law of Attraction, for the second time and when I finished I HAD to write the following piece on my blog. It was a blessing for me to write it and I hope that it blesses you in some way.
Much Love
Tyra Olufemi
Using the Law of Attraction to Create the Family You Desire
I have been in a seriously deep spiritual journey over the last year. I began unschooling in September, 2005. I listened to the unschoolers, especially the radical unschoolers on the unschoolingbasics yahoogroup, and just did not know how this would all work. My son learning all kinds of things without my direction? Children dictating when they would sleep, how they would eat, what they watched on TV and how much?! It was a lot for me to grasp initially but I will say that it totally resonated with me.
Fast forward to today. I am living the unschooling life. I do it because it is what is easier for me and what makes my children most happy. PERIOD. I could do all of these things that I THINK I should do to produce happy, well-adjusted, successful children but that has proven to be more work than I am willing to put forth. You see, I am stepping into the realization that I am the creator of my Universe. I write the script of my life. And as I step more fully into this truth by consciously LIVING it, I am realizing just how wonderfully amazing and EASY unschooling is.
What I am studying now is called the science of manifestation or the law of attraction. The essence of this universal law, this universal truth is that we get what we most focus our attention on. So often we have been programmed to believe that certain things are needed in order to produce the perfect children we are taught that we all desire. We, for whatever reason, buy into this hook, line and sinker. You know what I am talking about: "healthy" children only eat........; children NEED 9 hours of sleep every NIGHT in order to function properly; TOO MUCH TV is not good for a child's mind....The list goes on and on and on. Oh, here are a few good ones, too, "You have to teach a child to respect you." "Children are so naive and lack experience to really know."
I bought into these, too, at some point. But as I unfold spiritually, as I begin to paint the picture of my life as I truly want it, as I learn the spiritual truth of the law of attraction, I realize that we see in our children so much of what we don't want because we are focusing on what we don't want rather than what we do want to see in them.
One of my main hang ups is health. I have always had a focus on my health and have even worked to live what I deem to be a healthy lifestyle. My children entered my life at a time when I was beginning to deconstruct my life as I had thought it was supposed to be and began to step into my own inner truth. Needless to say this has been a time of supreme resistance so I have definitely been in the ebb when it comes to having the health and body that I desire. As a result, my children have been exposed to all sorts of foods. Some deemed as very healthy and other as very unhealthy by the community at large. And because I see that my children are pretty smart guys, they have taking a liking to the finer things in life: sugar, chips, desserts, white donuts (that is my 3 yr olds rave right now) and all kinds of foods that I NEVER thought "my" children would eat.
Even though I have been in the ebb, I remained committed to finding my way back to the flow of health. But with my health nut filter, I have been angry, afraid and embarrassed by how and what my children eat some days. It was the unschoolers who first helped me to realize that it is totally okay to let a child decide what, how much and when a child wants to eat. This is actually the first area that I made my greatest unschooling leap in. I decided that I would no longer dictate what my children ate, but instead I would have a nice variety of foods for my children to select from offering no judgment on how and when they eat them. I really did this on faith based on what the unschoolers said. Amazingly I found that it really worked. The less judgment I made of food as bad and good, the less I focused on what they were eating that I did not like, the more I realized that they make really healthy choices in what they eat AND that they were making even more healthy choices than I thought.
I recently have begun to write a new script for my life based on understanding that if I am overweight, it is because I am attracting that into my life. If I am unhealthy, dis-ease is coming my way because I am attracting it. I decided that I want the body that I had before my babies AND I want health. Since setting these intentions, I have begun to naturally and easily adjust my lifestyle to accommodate my sleek, sexy and beautiful body and to create health in my body, mind and spirit. As a result of my own focus on eating healthy and choosing to only eat foods that make my body feel its best, my children are doing the same as well as my husband.
My husband and I have been fasting off and on for various reasons since the beginning of this year. My older son who had proudly proclaimed that he was a carnivore will tell us that he is fasting from meat and including fruits and veggies in his fast. I get amazed because he is serious. I notice that when I fix myself a salad, my younger son will come to me as if I am a magnet and sit and eat most of the salad.
So what I am saying is that whatever life you wish to envision for your family, then what needs to happen is that you need to think about it LOTS! Even if you don't see your vision in physical form, live as if you already have what you want. FEEL IT! Feel the peace, the love, the harmony that you seek to be the very fabric of your family's essence. And the more you do that, the more you focus on what you DO want, the less you focus on what you children are doing that you DON'T want, the more quickly your wishes, dreams and desires for your family will come to you all.
So as I think about new unschoolers, as I think about people who wonder IF unschooling can work, I think, it can work if you only imagine it, only if you dream it. Fear of failure will slow things down. But what I am finding is the most important key is that I am to live that life, the qualities, the morals that I want my children to live FIRST. I believe when I am living my best life, being my best self, then what others do will have no impact on my peace. But, if I can model this for my children, what a gift I will give to them: an example of a person who followed her bliss, lived the life of her dreams and died with a smile on her face having no regrets.
This life, I am finding, is truly unschooling for me and my family. As we continue to create the life of our dreams, as we continue to write the script of our lives to only include that which makes us peaceful, I wish you the same.......
A lotus unfolding in humility with grace and ease.....
Vanessa
Tyra,
Thank you for this. As I am new to unschooling/homeschooling, this
was a huge help. In your writing, you are getting me to think about
the life I want to have, and what I should be doing with/for my
kids. My hope is to have the Family We All Desire. I really
enjoyed reading this, and have come away with alot to think about.
Thanks again, and I hope you have a peaceful happy life with your
family.
Vanessa
--- In [email protected], Tyra Olufemi
<motherspirit@...> wrote:
piece on my blog. It was a blessing for me to write it and I hope
that it blesses you in some way.
unschoolers, especially the radical unschoolers on the
unschoolingbasics yahoogroup, and just did not know how this would
all work. My son learning all kinds of things without my
direction? Children dictating when they would sleep, how they would
eat, what they watched on TV and how much?! It was a lot for me to
grasp initially but I will say that it totally resonated with me.
happy. PERIOD. I could do all of these things that I THINK I
should do to produce happy, well-adjusted, successful children but
that has proven to be more work than I am willing to put forth. You
see, I am stepping into the realization that I am the creator of my
Universe. I write the script of my life. And as I step more fully
into this truth by consciously LIVING it, I am realizing just how
wonderfully amazing and EASY unschooling is.
universal truth is that we get what we most focus our attention on.
So often we have been programmed to believe that certain things are
needed in order to produce the perfect children we are taught that
we all desire. We, for whatever reason, buy into this hook, line
and sinker. You know what I am talking about: "healthy" children
only eat........; children NEED 9 hours of sleep every NIGHT in
order to function properly; TOO MUCH TV is not good for a child's
mind....The list goes on and on and on. Oh, here are a few good
ones, too, "You have to teach a child to respect you." "Children
are so naive and lack experience to really know."
want it, as I learn the spiritual truth of the law of attraction, I
realize that we see in our children so much of what we don't want
because we are focusing on what we don't want rather than what we do
want to see in them.
lifestyle. My children entered my life at a time when I was
beginning to deconstruct my life as I had thought it was supposed to
be and began to step into my own inner truth. Needless to say this
has been a time of supreme resistance so I have definitely been in
the ebb when it comes to having the health and body that I desire.
As a result, my children have been exposed to all sorts of foods.
Some deemed as very healthy and other as very unhealthy by the
community at large. And because I see that my children are pretty
smart guys, they have taking a liking to the finer things in life:
sugar, chips, desserts, white donuts (that is my 3 yr olds rave
right now) and all kinds of foods that I NEVER thought "my" children
would eat.
filter, I have been angry, afraid and embarrassed by how and what my
children eat some days. It was the unschoolers who first helped me
to realize that it is totally okay to let a child decide what, how
much and when a child wants to eat. This is actually the first area
that I made my greatest unschooling leap in. I decided that I would
no longer dictate what my children ate, but instead I would have a
nice variety of foods for my children to select from offering no
judgment on how and when they eat them. I really did this on faith
based on what the unschoolers said. Amazingly I found that it
really worked. The less judgment I made of food as bad and good,
the less I focused on what they were eating that I did not like, the
more I realized that they make really healthy choices in what they
eat AND that they were making even more healthy choices than I
thought.
that into my life. If I am unhealthy, dis-ease is coming my way
because I am attracting it. I decided that I want the body that I
had before my babies AND I want health. Since setting these
intentions, I have begun to naturally and easily adjust my lifestyle
to accommodate my sleek, sexy and beautiful body and to create
health in my body, mind and spirit. As a result of my own focus on
eating healthy and choosing to only eat foods that make my body feel
its best, my children are doing the same as well as my husband.
proclaimed that he was a carnivore will tell us that he is fasting
from meat and including fruits and veggies in his fast. I get
amazed because he is serious. I notice that when I fix myself a
salad, my younger son will come to me as if I am a magnet and sit
and eat most of the salad.
about it LOTS! Even if you don't see your vision in physical form,
live as if you already have what you want. FEEL IT! Feel the
peace, the love, the harmony that you seek to be the very fabric of
your family's essence. And the more you do that, the more you focus
on what you DO want, the less you focus on what you children are
doing that you DON'T want, the more quickly your wishes, dreams and
desires for your family will come to you all.
imagine it, only if you dream it. Fear of failure will slow things
down. But what I am finding is the most important key is that I am
to live that life, the qualities, the morals that I want my children
to live FIRST. I believe when I am living my best life, being my
best self, then what others do will have no impact on my peace.
But, if I can model this for my children, what a gift I will give to
them: an example of a person who followed her bliss, lived the life
of her dreams and died with a smile on her face having no regrets.
continue to write the script of our lives to only include that which
makes us peaceful, I wish you the same.......
Thank you for this. As I am new to unschooling/homeschooling, this
was a huge help. In your writing, you are getting me to think about
the life I want to have, and what I should be doing with/for my
kids. My hope is to have the Family We All Desire. I really
enjoyed reading this, and have come away with alot to think about.
Thanks again, and I hope you have a peaceful happy life with your
family.
Vanessa
--- In [email protected], Tyra Olufemi
<motherspirit@...> wrote:
>for the second time and when I finished I HAD to write the following
> Peace,
>
> I have just watch The Secret, a movie about the Law of Attraction,
piece on my blog. It was a blessing for me to write it and I hope
that it blesses you in some way.
>year. I began unschooling in September, 2005. I listened to the
> Much Love
> Tyra Olufemi
>
> Using the Law of Attraction to Create the Family You Desire
> I have been in a seriously deep spiritual journey over the last
unschoolers, especially the radical unschoolers on the
unschoolingbasics yahoogroup, and just did not know how this would
all work. My son learning all kinds of things without my
direction? Children dictating when they would sleep, how they would
eat, what they watched on TV and how much?! It was a lot for me to
grasp initially but I will say that it totally resonated with me.
>because it is what is easier for me and what makes my children most
> Fast forward to today. I am living the unschooling life. I do it
happy. PERIOD. I could do all of these things that I THINK I
should do to produce happy, well-adjusted, successful children but
that has proven to be more work than I am willing to put forth. You
see, I am stepping into the realization that I am the creator of my
Universe. I write the script of my life. And as I step more fully
into this truth by consciously LIVING it, I am realizing just how
wonderfully amazing and EASY unschooling is.
>the law of attraction. The essence of this universal law, this
> What I am studying now is called the science of manifestation or
universal truth is that we get what we most focus our attention on.
So often we have been programmed to believe that certain things are
needed in order to produce the perfect children we are taught that
we all desire. We, for whatever reason, buy into this hook, line
and sinker. You know what I am talking about: "healthy" children
only eat........; children NEED 9 hours of sleep every NIGHT in
order to function properly; TOO MUCH TV is not good for a child's
mind....The list goes on and on and on. Oh, here are a few good
ones, too, "You have to teach a child to respect you." "Children
are so naive and lack experience to really know."
>spiritually, as I begin to paint the picture of my life as I truly
> I bought into these, too, at some point. But as I unfold
want it, as I learn the spiritual truth of the law of attraction, I
realize that we see in our children so much of what we don't want
because we are focusing on what we don't want rather than what we do
want to see in them.
>my health and have even worked to live what I deem to be a healthy
> One of my main hang ups is health. I have always had a focus on
lifestyle. My children entered my life at a time when I was
beginning to deconstruct my life as I had thought it was supposed to
be and began to step into my own inner truth. Needless to say this
has been a time of supreme resistance so I have definitely been in
the ebb when it comes to having the health and body that I desire.
As a result, my children have been exposed to all sorts of foods.
Some deemed as very healthy and other as very unhealthy by the
community at large. And because I see that my children are pretty
smart guys, they have taking a liking to the finer things in life:
sugar, chips, desserts, white donuts (that is my 3 yr olds rave
right now) and all kinds of foods that I NEVER thought "my" children
would eat.
>finding my way back to the flow of health. But with my health nut
> Even though I have been in the ebb, I remained committed to
filter, I have been angry, afraid and embarrassed by how and what my
children eat some days. It was the unschoolers who first helped me
to realize that it is totally okay to let a child decide what, how
much and when a child wants to eat. This is actually the first area
that I made my greatest unschooling leap in. I decided that I would
no longer dictate what my children ate, but instead I would have a
nice variety of foods for my children to select from offering no
judgment on how and when they eat them. I really did this on faith
based on what the unschoolers said. Amazingly I found that it
really worked. The less judgment I made of food as bad and good,
the less I focused on what they were eating that I did not like, the
more I realized that they make really healthy choices in what they
eat AND that they were making even more healthy choices than I
thought.
>understanding that if I am overweight, it is because I am attracting
> I recently have begun to write a new script for my life based on
that into my life. If I am unhealthy, dis-ease is coming my way
because I am attracting it. I decided that I want the body that I
had before my babies AND I want health. Since setting these
intentions, I have begun to naturally and easily adjust my lifestyle
to accommodate my sleek, sexy and beautiful body and to create
health in my body, mind and spirit. As a result of my own focus on
eating healthy and choosing to only eat foods that make my body feel
its best, my children are doing the same as well as my husband.
>since the beginning of this year. My older son who had proudly
> My husband and I have been fasting off and on for various reasons
proclaimed that he was a carnivore will tell us that he is fasting
from meat and including fruits and veggies in his fast. I get
amazed because he is serious. I notice that when I fix myself a
salad, my younger son will come to me as if I am a magnet and sit
and eat most of the salad.
>your family, then what needs to happen is that you need to think
> So what I am saying is that whatever life you wish to envision for
about it LOTS! Even if you don't see your vision in physical form,
live as if you already have what you want. FEEL IT! Feel the
peace, the love, the harmony that you seek to be the very fabric of
your family's essence. And the more you do that, the more you focus
on what you DO want, the less you focus on what you children are
doing that you DON'T want, the more quickly your wishes, dreams and
desires for your family will come to you all.
>wonder IF unschooling can work, I think, it can work if you only
> So as I think about new unschoolers, as I think about people who
imagine it, only if you dream it. Fear of failure will slow things
down. But what I am finding is the most important key is that I am
to live that life, the qualities, the morals that I want my children
to live FIRST. I believe when I am living my best life, being my
best self, then what others do will have no impact on my peace.
But, if I can model this for my children, what a gift I will give to
them: an example of a person who followed her bliss, lived the life
of her dreams and died with a smile on her face having no regrets.
>family. As we continue to create the life of our dreams, as we
> This life, I am finding, is truly unschooling for me and my
continue to write the script of our lives to only include that which
makes us peaceful, I wish you the same.......
>
> A lotus unfolding in humility with grace and ease.....
>
Teresa Sittler
Thanx Tyra for your inspiring message. I'm on my own spiritual journey. I'm wondering about the movie " THe Secret". Is it new? Is it the 1993 movie with Kirk Douglas? I'd love to watch it so any details you could provide would be very helpful.
Thanx,
Teresa
Tyra Olufemi <motherspirit@...> wrote:
Peace,
I have just watch The Secret, a movie about the Law of Attraction, for the second time and when I finished I HAD to write the following piece on my blog. It was a blessing for me to write it and I hope that it blesses you in some way.
Much Love
Tyra Olufemi
Using the Law of Attraction to Create the Family You Desire
I have been in a seriously deep spiritual journey over the last year. I began unschooling in September, 2005. I listened to the unschoolers, especially the radical unschoolers on the unschoolingbasics yahoogroup, and just did not know how this would all work. My son learning all kinds of things without my direction? Children dictating when they would sleep, how they would eat, what they watched on TV and how much?! It was a lot for me to grasp initially but I will say that it totally resonated with me.
Fast forward to today. I am living the unschooling life. I do it because it is what is easier for me and what makes my children most happy. PERIOD. I could do all of these things that I THINK I should do to produce happy, well-adjusted, successful children but that has proven to be more work than I am willing to put forth. You see, I am stepping into the realization that I am the creator of my Universe. I write the script of my life. And as I step more fully into this truth by consciously LIVING it, I am realizing just how wonderfully amazing and EASY unschooling is.
What I am studying now is called the science of manifestation or the law of attraction. The essence of this universal law, this universal truth is that we get what we most focus our attention on. So often we have been programmed to believe that certain things are needed in order to produce the perfect children we are taught that we all desire. We, for whatever reason, buy into this hook, line and sinker. You know what I am talking about: "healthy" children only eat........; children NEED 9 hours of sleep every NIGHT in order to function properly; TOO MUCH TV is not good for a child's mind....The list goes on and on and on. Oh, here are a few good ones, too, "You have to teach a child to respect you." "Children are so naive and lack experience to really know."
I bought into these, too, at some point. But as I unfold spiritually, as I begin to paint the picture of my life as I truly want it, as I learn the spiritual truth of the law of attraction, I realize that we see in our children so much of what we don't want because we are focusing on what we don't want rather than what we do want to see in them.
One of my main hang ups is health. I have always had a focus on my health and have even worked to live what I deem to be a healthy lifestyle. My children entered my life at a time when I was beginning to deconstruct my life as I had thought it was supposed to be and began to step into my own inner truth. Needless to say this has been a time of supreme resistance so I have definitely been in the ebb when it comes to having the health and body that I desire. As a result, my children have been exposed to all sorts of foods. Some deemed as very healthy and other as very unhealthy by the community at large. And because I see that my children are pretty smart guys, they have taking a liking to the finer things in life: sugar, chips, desserts, white donuts (that is my 3 yr olds rave right now) and all kinds of foods that I NEVER thought "my" children would eat.
Even though I have been in the ebb, I remained committed to finding my way back to the flow of health. But with my health nut filter, I have been angry, afraid and embarrassed by how and what my children eat some days. It was the unschoolers who first helped me to realize that it is totally okay to let a child decide what, how much and when a child wants to eat. This is actually the first area that I made my greatest unschooling leap in. I decided that I would no longer dictate what my children ate, but instead I would have a nice variety of foods for my children to select from offering no judgment on how and when they eat them. I really did this on faith based on what the unschoolers said. Amazingly I found that it really worked. The less judgment I made of food as bad and good, the less I focused on what they were eating that I did not like, the more I realized that they make really healthy choices in what they eat AND that they were making even more healthy choices than
I thought.
I recently have begun to write a new script for my life based on understanding that if I am overweight, it is because I am attracting that into my life. If I am unhealthy, dis-ease is coming my way because I am attracting it. I decided that I want the body that I had before my babies AND I want health. Since setting these intentions, I have begun to naturally and easily adjust my lifestyle to accommodate my sleek, sexy and beautiful body and to create health in my body, mind and spirit. As a result of my own focus on eating healthy and choosing to only eat foods that make my body feel its best, my children are doing the same as well as my husband.
My husband and I have been fasting off and on for various reasons since the beginning of this year. My older son who had proudly proclaimed that he was a carnivore will tell us that he is fasting from meat and including fruits and veggies in his fast. I get amazed because he is serious. I notice that when I fix myself a salad, my younger son will come to me as if I am a magnet and sit and eat most of the salad.
So what I am saying is that whatever life you wish to envision for your family, then what needs to happen is that you need to think about it LOTS! Even if you don't see your vision in physical form, live as if you already have what you want. FEEL IT! Feel the peace, the love, the harmony that you seek to be the very fabric of your family's essence. And the more you do that, the more you focus on what you DO want, the less you focus on what you children are doing that you DON'T want, the more quickly your wishes, dreams and desires for your family will come to you all.
So as I think about new unschoolers, as I think about people who wonder IF unschooling can work, I think, it can work if you only imagine it, only if you dream it. Fear of failure will slow things down. But what I am finding is the most important key is that I am to live that life, the qualities, the morals that I want my children to live FIRST. I believe when I am living my best life, being my best self, then what others do will have no impact on my peace. But, if I can model this for my children, what a gift I will give to them: an example of a person who followed her bliss, lived the life of her dreams and died with a smile on her face having no regrets.
This life, I am finding, is truly unschooling for me and my family. As we continue to create the life of our dreams, as we continue to write the script of our lives to only include that which makes us peaceful, I wish you the same.......
A lotus unfolding in humility with grace and ease.....
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Teresa
Tyra Olufemi <motherspirit@...> wrote:
Peace,
I have just watch The Secret, a movie about the Law of Attraction, for the second time and when I finished I HAD to write the following piece on my blog. It was a blessing for me to write it and I hope that it blesses you in some way.
Much Love
Tyra Olufemi
Using the Law of Attraction to Create the Family You Desire
I have been in a seriously deep spiritual journey over the last year. I began unschooling in September, 2005. I listened to the unschoolers, especially the radical unschoolers on the unschoolingbasics yahoogroup, and just did not know how this would all work. My son learning all kinds of things without my direction? Children dictating when they would sleep, how they would eat, what they watched on TV and how much?! It was a lot for me to grasp initially but I will say that it totally resonated with me.
Fast forward to today. I am living the unschooling life. I do it because it is what is easier for me and what makes my children most happy. PERIOD. I could do all of these things that I THINK I should do to produce happy, well-adjusted, successful children but that has proven to be more work than I am willing to put forth. You see, I am stepping into the realization that I am the creator of my Universe. I write the script of my life. And as I step more fully into this truth by consciously LIVING it, I am realizing just how wonderfully amazing and EASY unschooling is.
What I am studying now is called the science of manifestation or the law of attraction. The essence of this universal law, this universal truth is that we get what we most focus our attention on. So often we have been programmed to believe that certain things are needed in order to produce the perfect children we are taught that we all desire. We, for whatever reason, buy into this hook, line and sinker. You know what I am talking about: "healthy" children only eat........; children NEED 9 hours of sleep every NIGHT in order to function properly; TOO MUCH TV is not good for a child's mind....The list goes on and on and on. Oh, here are a few good ones, too, "You have to teach a child to respect you." "Children are so naive and lack experience to really know."
I bought into these, too, at some point. But as I unfold spiritually, as I begin to paint the picture of my life as I truly want it, as I learn the spiritual truth of the law of attraction, I realize that we see in our children so much of what we don't want because we are focusing on what we don't want rather than what we do want to see in them.
One of my main hang ups is health. I have always had a focus on my health and have even worked to live what I deem to be a healthy lifestyle. My children entered my life at a time when I was beginning to deconstruct my life as I had thought it was supposed to be and began to step into my own inner truth. Needless to say this has been a time of supreme resistance so I have definitely been in the ebb when it comes to having the health and body that I desire. As a result, my children have been exposed to all sorts of foods. Some deemed as very healthy and other as very unhealthy by the community at large. And because I see that my children are pretty smart guys, they have taking a liking to the finer things in life: sugar, chips, desserts, white donuts (that is my 3 yr olds rave right now) and all kinds of foods that I NEVER thought "my" children would eat.
Even though I have been in the ebb, I remained committed to finding my way back to the flow of health. But with my health nut filter, I have been angry, afraid and embarrassed by how and what my children eat some days. It was the unschoolers who first helped me to realize that it is totally okay to let a child decide what, how much and when a child wants to eat. This is actually the first area that I made my greatest unschooling leap in. I decided that I would no longer dictate what my children ate, but instead I would have a nice variety of foods for my children to select from offering no judgment on how and when they eat them. I really did this on faith based on what the unschoolers said. Amazingly I found that it really worked. The less judgment I made of food as bad and good, the less I focused on what they were eating that I did not like, the more I realized that they make really healthy choices in what they eat AND that they were making even more healthy choices than
I thought.
I recently have begun to write a new script for my life based on understanding that if I am overweight, it is because I am attracting that into my life. If I am unhealthy, dis-ease is coming my way because I am attracting it. I decided that I want the body that I had before my babies AND I want health. Since setting these intentions, I have begun to naturally and easily adjust my lifestyle to accommodate my sleek, sexy and beautiful body and to create health in my body, mind and spirit. As a result of my own focus on eating healthy and choosing to only eat foods that make my body feel its best, my children are doing the same as well as my husband.
My husband and I have been fasting off and on for various reasons since the beginning of this year. My older son who had proudly proclaimed that he was a carnivore will tell us that he is fasting from meat and including fruits and veggies in his fast. I get amazed because he is serious. I notice that when I fix myself a salad, my younger son will come to me as if I am a magnet and sit and eat most of the salad.
So what I am saying is that whatever life you wish to envision for your family, then what needs to happen is that you need to think about it LOTS! Even if you don't see your vision in physical form, live as if you already have what you want. FEEL IT! Feel the peace, the love, the harmony that you seek to be the very fabric of your family's essence. And the more you do that, the more you focus on what you DO want, the less you focus on what you children are doing that you DON'T want, the more quickly your wishes, dreams and desires for your family will come to you all.
So as I think about new unschoolers, as I think about people who wonder IF unschooling can work, I think, it can work if you only imagine it, only if you dream it. Fear of failure will slow things down. But what I am finding is the most important key is that I am to live that life, the qualities, the morals that I want my children to live FIRST. I believe when I am living my best life, being my best self, then what others do will have no impact on my peace. But, if I can model this for my children, what a gift I will give to them: an example of a person who followed her bliss, lived the life of her dreams and died with a smile on her face having no regrets.
This life, I am finding, is truly unschooling for me and my family. As we continue to create the life of our dreams, as we continue to write the script of our lives to only include that which makes us peaceful, I wish you the same.......
A lotus unfolding in humility with grace and ease.....
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Tyra Olufemi
Peace Teresa and thank you! You can get more info on The Secret at www.thesecret.tv. It was released this year. You can view it online for $4.95 if you have broadband internet. I HAD to order it so I could watch it again. To my knowledge, you can only order it with the company that has released it.
Let me know what you think if you watch it.
Much Love to you
Tyra
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From: Teresa Sittler <milk4babes@...>
Date: 2006/08/31 Thu PM 03:30:20 CDT
To: [email protected]
Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] Using the Law of Attraction to Create the Family You Desire
Thanx Tyra for your inspiring message. I'm on my own spiritual journey. I'm wondering about the movie " THe Secret". Is it new? Is it the 1993 movie with Kirk Douglas? I'd love to watch it so any details you could provide would be very helpful.
Thanx,
Teresa
Let me know what you think if you watch it.
Much Love to you
Tyra
motherspirit@...
From: Teresa Sittler <milk4babes@...>
Date: 2006/08/31 Thu PM 03:30:20 CDT
To: [email protected]
Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] Using the Law of Attraction to Create the Family You Desire
Thanx Tyra for your inspiring message. I'm on my own spiritual journey. I'm wondering about the movie " THe Secret". Is it new? Is it the 1993 movie with Kirk Douglas? I'd love to watch it so any details you could provide would be very helpful.
Thanx,
Teresa
Tyra Olufemi
Thanks so much, Vanessa! I really had the newbies in mind when I wrote this because radical unschooling can be just that, RADICAL! It is so out of the box for so many of us because most of us were raised in a situation where we were told what to do most of the day for the majority of your young lives. It can be a real challenge to reprogram ourselves. That is why the Law of Attraction is so wonderful to use in the transtion. It only requires that you think about and feel what you desire for your family. Nothing to figure out except what do you desire!!!!! How fun! And from there you will begin to easily find that you are living in the physical what you have been living in your mind. The key is that the more you focus on what you want and FEEL IT as if you have, the quicker what you desire comes. The fear and other negative emotions that work against our desire will only slow it down. But if you remain committed, you will most certainly live the dream life of the family you desire.
Thanks so much to you!
Peace
Tyra
From: "Vanessa" <psychomom95@...>
Date: 2006/08/31 Thu PM 01:56:02 CDT
To: [email protected]
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] Re: Using the Law of Attraction to Create the Family You Desire
Tyra,
Thank you for this. As I am new to unschooling/homeschooling, this
was a huge help. In your writing, you are getting me to think about
the life I want to have, and what I should be doing with/for my
kids. My hope is to have the Family We All Desire. I really
enjoyed reading this, and have come away with alot to think about.
Thanks again, and I hope you have a peaceful happy life with your
family.
Vanessa
Thanks so much to you!
Peace
Tyra
From: "Vanessa" <psychomom95@...>
Date: 2006/08/31 Thu PM 01:56:02 CDT
To: [email protected]
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] Re: Using the Law of Attraction to Create the Family You Desire
Tyra,
Thank you for this. As I am new to unschooling/homeschooling, this
was a huge help. In your writing, you are getting me to think about
the life I want to have, and what I should be doing with/for my
kids. My hope is to have the Family We All Desire. I really
enjoyed reading this, and have come away with alot to think about.
Thanks again, and I hope you have a peaceful happy life with your
family.
Vanessa
Dawn
Tyra -
Your post was absolutely wonderful and I have been a big fan of the
law of attraction for over 3 years.
The Secret movie is great and I have watched it about 10 times.
I actually posted a question on the AlwaysUnschooled list asking if
anyone was applying the law of attraction in their parenting and no
one responded.
I have found some things you may be interested in. In the Secret
movie you may remember Esther Hicks, well she is one of my favorites
on the subject, and there is a yahoo group that also likes her and it
is called
"AbeKids" http://groups.yahoo.com/group/abe-kids/.
This group is specific to parenting with the law of attraction.
Also there is a great parenting coach who applies the law of
attraction in his coaching and he is very much an unschooler. You
can find Scott Noelle at www.EnjoyParenting.Com. When unschooling (or
just me) gets out of balance in my life I can call him and work on any
parenting issues that may be going on in the moment and they just
vanish - its wonderful. He has a free daily email you may want to
subscribe to - its very lighthearted.
Anyway, I'm tickled that you are applying LOA in your parenting and
would love to talk with you more if you would like. It just feels
like I tapped into the magic of parenting with LOA.
Blissings,
Dawn
Your post was absolutely wonderful and I have been a big fan of the
law of attraction for over 3 years.
The Secret movie is great and I have watched it about 10 times.
I actually posted a question on the AlwaysUnschooled list asking if
anyone was applying the law of attraction in their parenting and no
one responded.
I have found some things you may be interested in. In the Secret
movie you may remember Esther Hicks, well she is one of my favorites
on the subject, and there is a yahoo group that also likes her and it
is called
"AbeKids" http://groups.yahoo.com/group/abe-kids/.
This group is specific to parenting with the law of attraction.
Also there is a great parenting coach who applies the law of
attraction in his coaching and he is very much an unschooler. You
can find Scott Noelle at www.EnjoyParenting.Com. When unschooling (or
just me) gets out of balance in my life I can call him and work on any
parenting issues that may be going on in the moment and they just
vanish - its wonderful. He has a free daily email you may want to
subscribe to - its very lighthearted.
Anyway, I'm tickled that you are applying LOA in your parenting and
would love to talk with you more if you would like. It just feels
like I tapped into the magic of parenting with LOA.
Blissings,
Dawn
Dawn
Also -
I know the Abe-Kids list would love to read your post!!
Dawn
I know the Abe-Kids list would love to read your post!!
Dawn
Tyra Olufemi
Thanks! I will have to submit it there!
Peace and Love
Tyra
From: "Dawn" <because8@...>
Date: 2006/09/01 Fri AM 09:05:43 CDT
To: [email protected]
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] Re: Using the Law of Attraction to Create the Family You Desire
Also -
I know the Abe-Kids list would love to read your post!!
Dawn
Peace and Love
Tyra
From: "Dawn" <because8@...>
Date: 2006/09/01 Fri AM 09:05:43 CDT
To: [email protected]
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] Re: Using the Law of Attraction to Create the Family You Desire
Also -
I know the Abe-Kids list would love to read your post!!
Dawn
Tyra Olufemi
DAWN!!!
Thanks so much! I have submitted a request to join the group. I have been in know of scott for years but am only recently coming into the knowledge of his website. Thanks!
I look forward to connecting with you further. This blog journal has proven more valuable than I could have imagined!
From: "Dawn" <because8@...>
Date: 2006/09/01 Fri AM 09:03:14 CDT
To: [email protected]
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] Re: Using the Law of Attraction to Create the Family You Desire
Tyra -
"AbeKids" http://groups.yahoo.com/group/abe-kids/.
This group is specific to parenting with the law of attraction.
Also there is a great parenting coach who applies the law of
attraction in his coaching and he is very much an unschooler. You
can find Scott Noelle at www.EnjoyParenting.Com. When unschooling (or
just me) gets out of balance in my life I can call him and work on any
parenting issues that may be going on in the moment and they just
vanish - its wonderful. He has a free daily email you may want to
subscribe to - its very lighthearted.
Thanks so much! I have submitted a request to join the group. I have been in know of scott for years but am only recently coming into the knowledge of his website. Thanks!
I look forward to connecting with you further. This blog journal has proven more valuable than I could have imagined!
From: "Dawn" <because8@...>
Date: 2006/09/01 Fri AM 09:03:14 CDT
To: [email protected]
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] Re: Using the Law of Attraction to Create the Family You Desire
Tyra -
"AbeKids" http://groups.yahoo.com/group/abe-kids/.
This group is specific to parenting with the law of attraction.
Also there is a great parenting coach who applies the law of
attraction in his coaching and he is very much an unschooler. You
can find Scott Noelle at www.EnjoyParenting.Com. When unschooling (or
just me) gets out of balance in my life I can call him and work on any
parenting issues that may be going on in the moment and they just
vanish - its wonderful. He has a free daily email you may want to
subscribe to - its very lighthearted.