Re: Daycare/Preschool
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In a message dated 8/6/2006 9:26:17 PM Eastern Standard Time,
starsuncloud@... writes:
The point is, nobody thinks your nuts! We've just BTDT and want to
give folks the heads-up about the damage it can cause even when it all
seems innocent enough. My oldest went to pre-k and kindergarten, he
still remembers a lot of unhappy things from Kindergarten!!
Unbelievable to me, because my K year was very pleasant and happy.
I have a foster child in preschool for the summer because his social worker
thinks it is important for him to be in an "educational program" and wrote it
into his service plan. My dealings with the women who run the preschool
(daycare) have been extremely unpleasant. They make all the children ages 2-5 eat
their meal ( i.e. sandwich or chicken nuggets) before they can have access to
the rest of their lunch/snacks. My guy translates this into--we have to sneak
our grapes and cookies if we want them. They force all the kids to lay down at
1:00 for rest time. My foster kid is on Adderall (amphetamines) so rest is
not an option for him. They refuse to allow him to look at a book until he has
been calm and quiet for 10-15 minutes which results in daily power struggles.
He sneaks cars and little toys under his blanket so he won't go crazy trying
to lay still until he can get the book. I asked them why they won't just let
him have a book if the goal is to have everyone be quiet and rest for that hour
and the book helps this little guy stay calm. I asked why a 2 year old that
we love was in time out for a period in excess of 15 minutes and they said
because she hit another two year old. That's a positive teaching method for a
toddler. I love the sobbing baby in time out method. So sweet to witness. I
asked them about each of these concerns and many more and I have learned that they
are a bunch of codependent control freaks who are so narrow minded at this
point that they are not open to any reasonable discussion. I see very little
kindness or compassion or fun at this place although my foster son loves going.
He is used to constant control and cruelty so it is familiar and comfortable
to him. Scary!
My advice for anyone who has a child in daycare/preschool is to stop by at
different times and check on things. I have walked into extreme ugliness and
cruelty several times and have yet to walk into a room of happy kids or staff.
The daycare I'm sending this boy to is also accredited which is supposed to
carry some prestige. Since my guy started going there, they have hung sleigh
bells on the outside door and they have covered the window into the classroom
with the children's art. No doubt, just for me, the daycare stalker. Every
inch of the window is covered so one cannot even peek inside. I continue to drop
him off late and pick him up early and stop in to bring him something he may
need, just to see what's going on. I've only had to rescue him once when he
had wet his pants and they were ostracizing him.
Daycare is not a normal or healthy environment for any child in my opinion.
My guy will be finished there next week, never to return again. He starts
public kindergarten in an accredited kindergarten program in September. They
forbid cursive writing at this K-2 school. Such joy!
Warmly,
Robin in MA
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starsuncloud@... writes:
The point is, nobody thinks your nuts! We've just BTDT and want to
give folks the heads-up about the damage it can cause even when it all
seems innocent enough. My oldest went to pre-k and kindergarten, he
still remembers a lot of unhappy things from Kindergarten!!
Unbelievable to me, because my K year was very pleasant and happy.
I have a foster child in preschool for the summer because his social worker
thinks it is important for him to be in an "educational program" and wrote it
into his service plan. My dealings with the women who run the preschool
(daycare) have been extremely unpleasant. They make all the children ages 2-5 eat
their meal ( i.e. sandwich or chicken nuggets) before they can have access to
the rest of their lunch/snacks. My guy translates this into--we have to sneak
our grapes and cookies if we want them. They force all the kids to lay down at
1:00 for rest time. My foster kid is on Adderall (amphetamines) so rest is
not an option for him. They refuse to allow him to look at a book until he has
been calm and quiet for 10-15 minutes which results in daily power struggles.
He sneaks cars and little toys under his blanket so he won't go crazy trying
to lay still until he can get the book. I asked them why they won't just let
him have a book if the goal is to have everyone be quiet and rest for that hour
and the book helps this little guy stay calm. I asked why a 2 year old that
we love was in time out for a period in excess of 15 minutes and they said
because she hit another two year old. That's a positive teaching method for a
toddler. I love the sobbing baby in time out method. So sweet to witness. I
asked them about each of these concerns and many more and I have learned that they
are a bunch of codependent control freaks who are so narrow minded at this
point that they are not open to any reasonable discussion. I see very little
kindness or compassion or fun at this place although my foster son loves going.
He is used to constant control and cruelty so it is familiar and comfortable
to him. Scary!
My advice for anyone who has a child in daycare/preschool is to stop by at
different times and check on things. I have walked into extreme ugliness and
cruelty several times and have yet to walk into a room of happy kids or staff.
The daycare I'm sending this boy to is also accredited which is supposed to
carry some prestige. Since my guy started going there, they have hung sleigh
bells on the outside door and they have covered the window into the classroom
with the children's art. No doubt, just for me, the daycare stalker. Every
inch of the window is covered so one cannot even peek inside. I continue to drop
him off late and pick him up early and stop in to bring him something he may
need, just to see what's going on. I've only had to rescue him once when he
had wet his pants and they were ostracizing him.
Daycare is not a normal or healthy environment for any child in my opinion.
My guy will be finished there next week, never to return again. He starts
public kindergarten in an accredited kindergarten program in September. They
forbid cursive writing at this K-2 school. Such joy!
Warmly,
Robin in MA
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Michelle/Melbrigða
On 8/6/06, ohpurple1@... <ohpurple1@...> wrote:
I have a foster child in preschool for the summer because his social worker
> thinks it is important for him to be in an "educational program" and wrote
> it
> into his service plan.
Robin is there anyway you can write up an "educational program" for this
foster child so he can stay at home? Even if you have to do some sort of
"curriculum" with him to satisfy the caseworker, at least he would be in a
loving and accepting environment and he could write in cursive (if he so
pleased) or not :) It must in some way impact your home having him sludge
all these bad "vibes" into the family each day. Peace for your little
child!
--
Michelle
aka Melbrigða
http://eventualknitting.blogspot.com
[email protected] - Homeschooling for the Medieval Recreationist
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In a message dated 8/6/2006 11:43:22 PM Eastern Standard Time,
pamperedmichelle@... writes:
Robin is there anyway you can write up an "educational program" for this
foster child so he can stay at home? Even if you have to do some sort of
"curriculum" with him to satisfy the caseworker, at least he would be in a
loving and accepting environment and he could write in cursive (if he so
pleased) or not :) It must in some way impact your home having him sludge
all these bad "vibes" into the family each day. Peace for your little
child
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I probably could fight them on the Kindergarten issue however, this high need
child requires constant attention and redirection and we need the break to
keep our family together and happy. At this point in our lives, it is in my own
children's best interest to send him to school. I will question every wrong,
cruel move they make and advocate for this boy as much as necessary. We'll
change the world, one crappy preschool/kindergarten teacher at a time. More
importantly we'll help this boy learn to expect and demand kindness at all times
from everyone and hopefully find inner peace.
Good night,
Robin
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pamperedmichelle@... writes:
Robin is there anyway you can write up an "educational program" for this
foster child so he can stay at home? Even if you have to do some sort of
"curriculum" with him to satisfy the caseworker, at least he would be in a
loving and accepting environment and he could write in cursive (if he so
pleased) or not :) It must in some way impact your home having him sludge
all these bad "vibes" into the family each day. Peace for your little
child
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I probably could fight them on the Kindergarten issue however, this high need
child requires constant attention and redirection and we need the break to
keep our family together and happy. At this point in our lives, it is in my own
children's best interest to send him to school. I will question every wrong,
cruel move they make and advocate for this boy as much as necessary. We'll
change the world, one crappy preschool/kindergarten teacher at a time. More
importantly we'll help this boy learn to expect and demand kindness at all times
from everyone and hopefully find inner peace.
Good night,
Robin
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John and Amanda Slater
My parents do foster care in NJ. In NJ it is illegal to homeschool a foster child. It allowed abuse by foster parents to go unrecognized and the children died. Public school is now a system to watch foster parents, as if they did not have enough to do.
Amanda
Eli 5 Samuel 3.5
ohpurple1@... wrote: In a message dated 8/6/2006 11:43:22 PM Eastern Standard Time,
pamperedmichelle@... writes:
Robin is there anyway you can write up an "educational program" for this
foster child so he can stay at home? Even if you have to do some sort of
"curriculum" with him to satisfy the caseworker, at least he would be in a
loving and accepting environment and he could write in cursive (if he so
pleased) or not :) It must in some way impact your home having him sludge
all these bad "vibes" into the family each day. Peace for your little
child
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I probably could fight them on the Kindergarten issue however, this high need
child requires constant attention and redirection and we need the break to
keep our family together and happy. At this point in our lives, it is in my own
children's best interest to send him to school. I will question every wrong,
cruel move they make and advocate for this boy as much as necessary. We'll
change the world, one crappy preschool/kindergarten teacher at a time. More
importantly we'll help this boy learn to expect and demand kindness at all times
from everyone and hopefully find inner peace.
Good night,
Robin
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Amanda
Eli 5 Samuel 3.5
ohpurple1@... wrote: In a message dated 8/6/2006 11:43:22 PM Eastern Standard Time,
pamperedmichelle@... writes:
Robin is there anyway you can write up an "educational program" for this
foster child so he can stay at home? Even if you have to do some sort of
"curriculum" with him to satisfy the caseworker, at least he would be in a
loving and accepting environment and he could write in cursive (if he so
pleased) or not :) It must in some way impact your home having him sludge
all these bad "vibes" into the family each day. Peace for your little
child
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I probably could fight them on the Kindergarten issue however, this high need
child requires constant attention and redirection and we need the break to
keep our family together and happy. At this point in our lives, it is in my own
children's best interest to send him to school. I will question every wrong,
cruel move they make and advocate for this boy as much as necessary. We'll
change the world, one crappy preschool/kindergarten teacher at a time. More
importantly we'll help this boy learn to expect and demand kindness at all times
from everyone and hopefully find inner peace.
Good night,
Robin
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