advice?
thisismaggiesemailaddress
Hi,
I pulled my 10 yr old dd from school mid-year in February and
although we've had a rocky start things are going bit better now.
We are considering removing her brother from school as well, starting
this year. I do have one mild dilemma, my son has Asperger's syndrome
and spent the last 3 yrs of PS in special classes.
He's easy to get along with, no behavior problems and generally nice
to be around. Loves insects, animals, the computer and reading.
He likes to keep schedules and wants set times for meals and
bedtimes. No problem, I can do that if he wants and I will. (easy
enough, lol)
There is this one thing. All summer long he's been wondering when
he's going to do "real" school. What do I tell him? (He use to go to
a summer school program) I've been reading to him and giving him
worksheets, etc, but I'm having a hard time coming up with 6 hrs of
school for him, plus with 4 kids it's rather difficult.
When we read, he wants me to set a timer, not because he wants to get
the reading done, it's the way they did it in school and he's stuck.
I tried telling him we can read when, where, and how he wants
anytime. He doesn't need a timer, but he still wants it.
Does anyone here unschool a child with Asperger's that could give me
some tips or advice? I'd really appreciate it.
Thanks so much for your time and I hope everyone has a good day! :-)
Maggie
I pulled my 10 yr old dd from school mid-year in February and
although we've had a rocky start things are going bit better now.
We are considering removing her brother from school as well, starting
this year. I do have one mild dilemma, my son has Asperger's syndrome
and spent the last 3 yrs of PS in special classes.
He's easy to get along with, no behavior problems and generally nice
to be around. Loves insects, animals, the computer and reading.
He likes to keep schedules and wants set times for meals and
bedtimes. No problem, I can do that if he wants and I will. (easy
enough, lol)
There is this one thing. All summer long he's been wondering when
he's going to do "real" school. What do I tell him? (He use to go to
a summer school program) I've been reading to him and giving him
worksheets, etc, but I'm having a hard time coming up with 6 hrs of
school for him, plus with 4 kids it's rather difficult.
When we read, he wants me to set a timer, not because he wants to get
the reading done, it's the way they did it in school and he's stuck.
I tried telling him we can read when, where, and how he wants
anytime. He doesn't need a timer, but he still wants it.
Does anyone here unschool a child with Asperger's that could give me
some tips or advice? I'd really appreciate it.
Thanks so much for your time and I hope everyone has a good day! :-)
Maggie
frozenandcold
<<<<<Does anyone here unschool a child with Asperger's that could give
me some tips or advice? I'd really appreciate it.>>>>>>
A good place to go would be Anne's list shinewithunschooling. Their
discussions are geared towards those types of children. There are
quite a few that have children with Asperger's so you will probably
get lots of great advice :)
Heidi
me some tips or advice? I'd really appreciate it.>>>>>>
A good place to go would be Anne's list shinewithunschooling. Their
discussions are geared towards those types of children. There are
quite a few that have children with Asperger's so you will probably
get lots of great advice :)
Heidi
Melissa
Baby steps. That's really it all comes down to...when you have a kid
who feels that strongly about maintaining schedules, you cannot just
let it go all of a sudden.
Why six hours of work? What we did when we first started was going
through what they did in a day. It took two hours to do everything
they had done at school. When we were done, I made points about how
that was all the school was doing. It was important for my ten yo (at
the time) aspie to see that. Stretch the boundaries a little bit at a
time...then when the time is right, break the mold altogether. We
were lucky ;-) in that we had a medical emergency take over our
lives, so there really wasn't a choice. What about a trip somewhere
to break the routine, and then coming home and recover...just never
quite getting back to the regular stuff?
What about telling him that you see that the school was wrong, he
doesn't need summer school, and it's time for a vacation? Make a
point or doing a LOT at first to distract him. With our kids at first
we did a lot of 'field trips' and slowly replaced the table time with
real living. That worked well too.
It really does work, with big families, little families, rich
families, poor families, with all kids regardless of their needs.
Melissa
Mom to Josh (11), Breanna (8), Emily (7), Rachel (6), Sam (4), Dan
(2), and Avari Rose
share our lives at
http://360.yahoo.com/multimomma
who feels that strongly about maintaining schedules, you cannot just
let it go all of a sudden.
Why six hours of work? What we did when we first started was going
through what they did in a day. It took two hours to do everything
they had done at school. When we were done, I made points about how
that was all the school was doing. It was important for my ten yo (at
the time) aspie to see that. Stretch the boundaries a little bit at a
time...then when the time is right, break the mold altogether. We
were lucky ;-) in that we had a medical emergency take over our
lives, so there really wasn't a choice. What about a trip somewhere
to break the routine, and then coming home and recover...just never
quite getting back to the regular stuff?
What about telling him that you see that the school was wrong, he
doesn't need summer school, and it's time for a vacation? Make a
point or doing a LOT at first to distract him. With our kids at first
we did a lot of 'field trips' and slowly replaced the table time with
real living. That worked well too.
It really does work, with big families, little families, rich
families, poor families, with all kids regardless of their needs.
Melissa
Mom to Josh (11), Breanna (8), Emily (7), Rachel (6), Sam (4), Dan
(2), and Avari Rose
share our lives at
http://360.yahoo.com/multimomma
On Jul 19, 2006, at 2:23 PM, thisismaggiesemailaddress wrote:
> Hi,
> I pulled my 10 yr old dd from school mid-year in February and
> although we've had a rocky start things are going bit better now.
>
> We are considering removing her brother from school as well, starting
> this year. I do have one mild dilemma, my son has Asperger's syndrome
> and spent the last 3 yrs of PS in special classes.
>
> He's easy to get along with, no behavior problems and generally nice
> to be around. Loves insects, animals, the computer and reading.
>
> He likes to keep schedules and wants set times for meals and
> bedtimes. No problem, I can do that if he wants and I will. (easy
> enough, lol)
>
> There is this one thing. All summer long he's been wondering when
> he's going to do "real" school. What do I tell him? (He use to go to
> a summer school program) I've been reading to him and giving him
> worksheets, etc, but I'm having a hard time coming up with 6 hrs of
> school for him, plus with 4 kids it's rather difficult.
>
> When we read, he wants me to set a timer, not because he wants to get
> the reading done, it's the way they did it in school and he's stuck.
> I tried telling him we can read when, where, and how he wants
> anytime. He doesn't need a timer, but he still wants it.
>
> Does anyone here unschool a child with Asperger's that could give me
> some tips or advice? I'd really appreciate it.
>
> Thanks so much for your time and I hope everyone has a good day! :-)
>
> Maggie
>
>
>
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Ren Allen
"A good place to go would be Anne's list shinewithunschooling. Their
discussions are geared towards those types of children."
Anne made a point to let folks know that her list is geared for all
children and radical unschooling. There was a member from her list
that started a list specifically for "out of synch" children though.
I think her list is a really good place if you want to learn how to
see your child without the labels though. I think she's just trying to
make sure it's not some "special needs" list, but a straight up
radical unschooling and how-it's-great-for-all-kids list.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
discussions are geared towards those types of children."
Anne made a point to let folks know that her list is geared for all
children and radical unschooling. There was a member from her list
that started a list specifically for "out of synch" children though.
I think her list is a really good place if you want to learn how to
see your child without the labels though. I think she's just trying to
make sure it's not some "special needs" list, but a straight up
radical unschooling and how-it's-great-for-all-kids list.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
thisismaggiesemailaddress
Hi,
Thank you to everyone how took the time to read and answer my post.
You were so helpful and I really appreciated all the responses. I do
need to take baby sets with this, as we are both new, so that's a
good idea. A bit of a challenge to both, but worth it. :-)
I know someone seemed a bit surprized that I was trying to come up
with 6 hrs of work. :-) Mainly that was because my son seems to lack
any direction for himself, he seems to want someone to tell him what
to do, think, feel every moment of the day. Spoon feed him everything
and direct his every move round clock.
Maybe a left over from school? Hopefully in time he'll learn it's ok
to come up with his own ideas and just do them, make his own fun. In
the mean time I guess I just have to be there for him.
I loved the suggestion to check out shinewithunschooling. I hadn't
even been aware there was such a thing and was happy to learn of it.
I joined the group. :-)
Thank you again for all your time and help. Hope everyone Has a
wonderful day!
Maggie
Thank you to everyone how took the time to read and answer my post.
You were so helpful and I really appreciated all the responses. I do
need to take baby sets with this, as we are both new, so that's a
good idea. A bit of a challenge to both, but worth it. :-)
I know someone seemed a bit surprized that I was trying to come up
with 6 hrs of work. :-) Mainly that was because my son seems to lack
any direction for himself, he seems to want someone to tell him what
to do, think, feel every moment of the day. Spoon feed him everything
and direct his every move round clock.
Maybe a left over from school? Hopefully in time he'll learn it's ok
to come up with his own ideas and just do them, make his own fun. In
the mean time I guess I just have to be there for him.
I loved the suggestion to check out shinewithunschooling. I hadn't
even been aware there was such a thing and was happy to learn of it.
I joined the group. :-)
Thank you again for all your time and help. Hope everyone Has a
wonderful day!
Maggie
jlh44music
"thisismaggiesemailaddress" <thisismaggiesemailaddress@...> wrote:
any direction for himself, he seems to want someone to tell him what
to do, think, feel every moment of the day. Spoon feed him
everything and direct his every move round clock. >>>
I joined the group. :-) >>
Hi Maggie,
I, too, belong to "shine". My dd is a "highly sensitive person"
(and since learning that and reading the book, I realize so is my
husband). It has made all the difference in the world to understand
that this is just part of Who They Are. Anne's group is great!
Lurk for a while and get a feel for the group. There are many
different "types" of kids, Anne and the other veterans help you get
past the labels and celebrate them for Who They Are. I'm sure
there are some people there with kids who have Aspergers who can
relate and offer suggestions on how to help transition him into an
unschooling life!
Jann
> I know someone seemed a bit surprized that I was trying to come upwith 6 hrs of work. :-) Mainly that was because my son seems to lack
any direction for himself, he seems to want someone to tell him what
to do, think, feel every moment of the day. Spoon feed him
everything and direct his every move round clock. >>>
> I loved the suggestion to check out shinewithunschooling. I hadn'teven been aware there was such a thing and was happy to learn of it.
I joined the group. :-) >>
Hi Maggie,
I, too, belong to "shine". My dd is a "highly sensitive person"
(and since learning that and reading the book, I realize so is my
husband). It has made all the difference in the world to understand
that this is just part of Who They Are. Anne's group is great!
Lurk for a while and get a feel for the group. There are many
different "types" of kids, Anne and the other veterans help you get
past the labels and celebrate them for Who They Are. I'm sure
there are some people there with kids who have Aspergers who can
relate and offer suggestions on how to help transition him into an
unschooling life!
Jann