husbands
sandshuse
Hello,
Tonight my husband and I were talking, as we do whenever were pretty
much together. He was telling me about his day, and I was talking
about this book I just finished reading (which I think I should post
about it). Then he says to me "I really don't get unschooling, but
it's working." I cried. (I'm a big whimp) Because some days when I
make a suggestion on what would should change, to be better people and
better parents, usually are met with a HUGE NO. He goes on to tell me,
how much better our lives are, and more importantly our son is
happier. My husband may not understand, but with little bites, and
some times many different presentations, he changes, and he does get it.
Thanks,
Danie
Tonight my husband and I were talking, as we do whenever were pretty
much together. He was telling me about his day, and I was talking
about this book I just finished reading (which I think I should post
about it). Then he says to me "I really don't get unschooling, but
it's working." I cried. (I'm a big whimp) Because some days when I
make a suggestion on what would should change, to be better people and
better parents, usually are met with a HUGE NO. He goes on to tell me,
how much better our lives are, and more importantly our son is
happier. My husband may not understand, but with little bites, and
some times many different presentations, he changes, and he does get it.
Thanks,
Danie
Maisha Khalfani
Hi Danie - I know how you feel. It's taken my husband a while to get it to (and we're both still learning). We both completely understand the notion of "academic unschooling". Now we are working on applying that to our lives - and for ourselves too! It may take him more time, but I definitely believe he'll understand more as he sees it unfolding.
Namaste
Maisha
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Namaste
Maisha
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----- Original Message -----
From: sandshuse<mailto:sandshuse@...>
To: [email protected]<mailto:[email protected]>
Sent: Saturday, July 08, 2006 1:34 AM
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] husbands
Hello,
Tonight my husband and I were talking, as we do whenever were pretty
much together. He was telling me about his day, and I was talking
about this book I just finished reading (which I think I should post
about it). Then he says to me "I really don't get unschooling, but
it's working." I cried. (I'm a big whimp) Because some days when I
make a suggestion on what would should change, to be better people and
better parents, usually are met with a HUGE NO. He goes on to tell me,
how much better our lives are, and more importantly our son is
happier. My husband may not understand, but with little bites, and
some times many different presentations, he changes, and he does get it.
Thanks,
Danie
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Michelle/Melbrigða
On 7/8/06, sandshuse <sandshuse@...> wrote:
unschooler before it clicked for him. Good for all of you!
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Michelle
aka Melbrigða
http://eventualknitting.blogspot.com
[email protected] - Homeschooling for the Medieval Recreationist
> Hello,Yay!!! Dan, my co-parent, had to see how he was actually an
> Tonight my husband and I were talking, as we do whenever were pretty
> much together. He was telling me about his day, and I was talking
> about this book I just finished reading (which I think I should post
> about it). Then he says to me "I really don't get unschooling, but
> it's working."
unschooler before it clicked for him. Good for all of you!
--
Michelle
aka Melbrigða
http://eventualknitting.blogspot.com
[email protected] - Homeschooling for the Medieval Recreationist
D Smith
I think I need to clarify. We had no problem with
letting go of school things. Before I even found
unschooling we had an incident that cleared that up
real quick. It's the radical unschooling that we
embrace, but we do it with much difficulty. I admit
sometimes when I first hear of a different way to do
something, that has us embrace this further, I say,
THEY ARE NUTS. And then the seed that Ren, Deb, Joyce,
Sandra, etc have dropped my way finds a way to grow in
me. Then I talk to my husband who, really doesn't want
to do anything more new and uncomfortable, but slowly
we find a little plantlet. I love this little garden,
it's a more peaceful place to live.
If we took a holiday... Took some time to celebrate... Just one day out of life... It would be so nice...
Danie
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letting go of school things. Before I even found
unschooling we had an incident that cleared that up
real quick. It's the radical unschooling that we
embrace, but we do it with much difficulty. I admit
sometimes when I first hear of a different way to do
something, that has us embrace this further, I say,
THEY ARE NUTS. And then the seed that Ren, Deb, Joyce,
Sandra, etc have dropped my way finds a way to grow in
me. Then I talk to my husband who, really doesn't want
to do anything more new and uncomfortable, but slowly
we find a little plantlet. I love this little garden,
it's a more peaceful place to live.
If we took a holiday... Took some time to celebrate... Just one day out of life... It would be so nice...
Danie
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Lesa ODaniel
Congratulations!
My husband is now starting to warm to the idea. It's tough for him because
he's looking for more tools for day-to-day parenting - like alternatives for
the old things he used to say (like "no ____" or "I'm going to have to take
that away from you if you do it again", etc., etc.). Since he's working
during most days he doesn't get to see that I also stumble many times in how
to step back and see how best to approach a situation.
What works best for him is me reading books (I just finished Rue Kream's
book and am in the middle of Alfie Kohn's Unconditional Parenting) and
choosing really poignant statements to read to him while we're lying in bed.
I just know the ones he's going to grab onto and I make sure to point them
out. He likes what he hears so far. I chose not to read any comments from
Rue's book because every page had something on it! I just suggested he read
it himself which he is starting tonight. I love the way it's written in
short issue/answer styles. I know he'll like that, too.
A really big thing that helped him warm to the no school or organic learning
idea was watching the trailer for that Sudbury school documentary (American
Schoolhouse? Can't remember the exact title at the moment). He was blown
away by that - plus, he makes movie trailers for a living and I knew he'd
like that one :)
Lesa O'Daniel, AAHCC
Instructor, Bradley Method� of Natural Childbirth
323-541-5515
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My husband is now starting to warm to the idea. It's tough for him because
he's looking for more tools for day-to-day parenting - like alternatives for
the old things he used to say (like "no ____" or "I'm going to have to take
that away from you if you do it again", etc., etc.). Since he's working
during most days he doesn't get to see that I also stumble many times in how
to step back and see how best to approach a situation.
What works best for him is me reading books (I just finished Rue Kream's
book and am in the middle of Alfie Kohn's Unconditional Parenting) and
choosing really poignant statements to read to him while we're lying in bed.
I just know the ones he's going to grab onto and I make sure to point them
out. He likes what he hears so far. I chose not to read any comments from
Rue's book because every page had something on it! I just suggested he read
it himself which he is starting tonight. I love the way it's written in
short issue/answer styles. I know he'll like that, too.
A really big thing that helped him warm to the no school or organic learning
idea was watching the trailer for that Sudbury school documentary (American
Schoolhouse? Can't remember the exact title at the moment). He was blown
away by that - plus, he makes movie trailers for a living and I knew he'd
like that one :)
Lesa O'Daniel, AAHCC
Instructor, Bradley Method� of Natural Childbirth
323-541-5515
http://www.bradleybirth.com/ndweb.asp?ID=O123&Count=N
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>Subject: [unschoolingbasics] husbands
>Date: Sat, 08 Jul 2006 05:34:23 -0000
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>Hello,
>Tonight my husband and I were talking, as we do whenever were pretty
>much together. He was telling me about his day, and I was talking
>about this book I just finished reading (which I think I should post
>about it). Then he says to me "I really don't get unschooling, but
>it's working." I cried. (I'm a big whimp) Because some days when I
>make a suggestion on what would should change, to be better people and
>better parents, usually are met with a HUGE NO. He goes on to tell me,
>how much better our lives are, and more importantly our son is
>happier. My husband may not understand, but with little bites, and
>some times many different presentations, he changes, and he does get it.
>Thanks,
>Danie
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I also feed my husband bits and pieces and he is starting to get it. Rue's
book is great to just lay it around and let them read it. My husband works
many, many hours and does not have time to read but has picked up Rue's book
and read some. I have read many bits and pieces of Jphn Holt to him and that
has really helpd also.
The other day my cousin came to visit and her 9 yo dd started to ask about
homeschooling.
She asked if we had a curriculum , my husband was walking by and said. " No
we just let him decided and when he is interested in something we just pick
up and run with it"! ( I thought was pretty good answer ! and can you tell
he is a sports fan LOL)
I can see he is starting to get it.
Alex
book is great to just lay it around and let them read it. My husband works
many, many hours and does not have time to read but has picked up Rue's book
and read some. I have read many bits and pieces of Jphn Holt to him and that
has really helpd also.
The other day my cousin came to visit and her 9 yo dd started to ask about
homeschooling.
She asked if we had a curriculum , my husband was walking by and said. " No
we just let him decided and when he is interested in something we just pick
up and run with it"! ( I thought was pretty good answer ! and can you tell
he is a sports fan LOL)
I can see he is starting to get it.
Alex
Beth Fleming
My husband doesn't say much, but I know he's amazed at what the kids are dojng and learning and knows that we're "different".....So, I was thrilled to hear him explaining unschooling to an interested friend at an July 4th party. He looked at me for support (as in, is this right??) and I just gave him a BIG SMILE, nodded, and walked away.....he was doing great! It's so fun to see the whole family growing!!
Peace,
Beth
Michelle/Melbrigða <pamperedmichelle@...> wrote:
Peace,
Beth
Michelle/Melbrigða <pamperedmichelle@...> wrote:
On 7/8/06, sandshuse <sandshuse@...> wrote:
> Hello,
> Tonight my husband and I were talking, as we do whenever were pretty
> much together. He was telling me about his day, and I was talking
> about this book I just finished reading (which I think I should post
> about it). Then he says to me "I really don't get unschooling, but
> it's working."
Yay!!! Dan, my co-parent, had to see how he was actually an
unschooler before it clicked for him. Good for all of you!
--
Michelle
aka Melbrigða
http://eventualknitting.blogspot.com
[email protected] - Homeschooling for the Medieval Recreationist
Unschooling Mom to Frances (9), Will (7), Catherine (2), and Grace (6 months)
www.6uvus.blogspot.com
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