Gentile parenting and Unschooling...
Christy from SC
I made horrible mistakes when my first four were little. I had the first four in four years. My house was a playpen. Time to myself was far and few....I didn't unschool then and unfortuately spanked back then. I have much to regret. I regret not getting on the floor with them more....they are teens now and I am totally reversing those mistakes.
I spend every minute I'm home with them. I work full time now. So time with them is precious.
They do not hold a grudge to the way I parented them when they were younger. Only reason I can think is because I'm unschooling them now and using gentle parenting. We have a great relationship with them now. Daddy is reserved...I'm the fun mom.
I have a two year old among teens. Am sooo enjoying both stages!!!! No more conservative parenting for me. I am sold on gentle parenting.
My second eldest came to me the other night to talk about her feelings on homosexuality. It was good. Though she is geared to get married in a few years and have babies. She had me watch her "Gravitation" DVD. She wants to see "Broke Back Mountain." Needless to say....she is very boy crazy....she just is open...
I respect that....total reverse to the horrid way I parented her as a four year old. I don't have enough time with her....
Christy
Christy, wife to Jeff, Unschooling, artist mom to, Elizabeth 15, Hannah 14, Hope 12, James Jr. 11, and Naomi 2.
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I spend every minute I'm home with them. I work full time now. So time with them is precious.
They do not hold a grudge to the way I parented them when they were younger. Only reason I can think is because I'm unschooling them now and using gentle parenting. We have a great relationship with them now. Daddy is reserved...I'm the fun mom.
I have a two year old among teens. Am sooo enjoying both stages!!!! No more conservative parenting for me. I am sold on gentle parenting.
My second eldest came to me the other night to talk about her feelings on homosexuality. It was good. Though she is geared to get married in a few years and have babies. She had me watch her "Gravitation" DVD. She wants to see "Broke Back Mountain." Needless to say....she is very boy crazy....she just is open...
I respect that....total reverse to the horrid way I parented her as a four year old. I don't have enough time with her....
Christy
Christy, wife to Jeff, Unschooling, artist mom to, Elizabeth 15, Hannah 14, Hope 12, James Jr. 11, and Naomi 2.
http://christy5.blogspot.com/
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>>No more conservative parenting for me. I am sold on gentle parenting.>>Thanks for bringing a smile to my morning Christy. :o) Your family is blessed by your willingness to re-examine long held beliefs and practices.
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From: Christy from SC <christybaitken@...>
susan throssell
Hi,
things are going well in our house of unschooling.
We are letting go of balloons but I've come up against something I need some
ideas with.
My husband wants the kids to go to bed early as he says he doesnt get any
'down time' after work and before going to bed.
Does anyone have any advice please
Susan
things are going well in our house of unschooling.
We are letting go of balloons but I've come up against something I need some
ideas with.
My husband wants the kids to go to bed early as he says he doesnt get any
'down time' after work and before going to bed.
Does anyone have any advice please
Susan
Joanne
Hi Susan,
Your husband is deserving of his down time and maybe all of you
could come up with some solutions to help him get it. What does he
mean by down time...I think for everybody it's different. For me, it
means mental downtime. I need to have my own brain to myself for a
while. For my husband it means physical downtime...a short nap or
time in the jacuzzi. Find out what he needs and then let the kids
help brainstorm ideas for him to get what he needs. I am always
surprised at what my kids come up with when I ask for their opinions
and suggestions.
Hope this helps!
~ Joanne ~
Mom to Jacqueline (7), Shawna (10) & Cimion (13)
Adopted into our hearts October 30, 2003
http://anunschoolinglife.blogspot.com/
http://foreverparents.com
--- In [email protected], "susan throssell"
<susanthrossell@...> wrote:
Your husband is deserving of his down time and maybe all of you
could come up with some solutions to help him get it. What does he
mean by down time...I think for everybody it's different. For me, it
means mental downtime. I need to have my own brain to myself for a
while. For my husband it means physical downtime...a short nap or
time in the jacuzzi. Find out what he needs and then let the kids
help brainstorm ideas for him to get what he needs. I am always
surprised at what my kids come up with when I ask for their opinions
and suggestions.
Hope this helps!
~ Joanne ~
Mom to Jacqueline (7), Shawna (10) & Cimion (13)
Adopted into our hearts October 30, 2003
http://anunschoolinglife.blogspot.com/
http://foreverparents.com
--- In [email protected], "susan throssell"
<susanthrossell@...> wrote:
>need some
>
> Hi,
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> things are going well in our house of unschooling.
>
> We are letting go of balloons but I've come up against something I
> ideas with.get any
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> My husband wants the kids to go to bed early as he says he doesnt
> 'down time' after work and before going to bed.
>
> Does anyone have any advice please
>
> Susan
>
susan throssell
thanks joanne,
that does help
susan
that does help
susan
freepsgal
I agree with Joanne. Ask your husband to spell out exactly what he
wants. Are the kids running around and being noisy? Are they
taking over the television? Are they asking for help in getting
things or doing things?
My downtime is time alone in the bath with a book. I want to stop
thinking about everything and just be absorbed in a good story.
Sometimes I prefer sitting on my deck to read, but as long as I'm
alone so I can focus solely on my book, I can feel recharged after
about half an hour.
My DH's downtime is that the kids stop making noise and stop asking
for things and allow him to just sit and veg out with his laptop for
a while.
We went through a very busy phase last year when the kids were
alternating requests. It was crazy. One would ask for a drink.
We'd ask if the other wanted something while we were in the kitchen
and the offer was always declined. Instead, the other child would
wait about 10 or 15 minutes and then ask for something. It was up,
down, up, down, up, down, from 6pm to 9pm and it was exhausting. In
an effort to save our sanity, we brainstormed solutions as a whole
family. We moved dishes around so they could be easily reached by
the children. We taught them how to use the microwave. We bought
simple containers to use for drinks, like CapriSun pouches instead
of big jugs of juice, and small rubbermaid cups with lids for
chocolate milks. We make sure we have easy to eat snacks ready to
go, like cut up fruit, deli meat and cheese. They enjoy doing
things for themselves. They choose quieter activities in the
evenings rather than loud playing. It's all worked out well, but it
definitely took us communicating well as a family so that everyone's
needs were met.
Beth M.
wants. Are the kids running around and being noisy? Are they
taking over the television? Are they asking for help in getting
things or doing things?
My downtime is time alone in the bath with a book. I want to stop
thinking about everything and just be absorbed in a good story.
Sometimes I prefer sitting on my deck to read, but as long as I'm
alone so I can focus solely on my book, I can feel recharged after
about half an hour.
My DH's downtime is that the kids stop making noise and stop asking
for things and allow him to just sit and veg out with his laptop for
a while.
We went through a very busy phase last year when the kids were
alternating requests. It was crazy. One would ask for a drink.
We'd ask if the other wanted something while we were in the kitchen
and the offer was always declined. Instead, the other child would
wait about 10 or 15 minutes and then ask for something. It was up,
down, up, down, up, down, from 6pm to 9pm and it was exhausting. In
an effort to save our sanity, we brainstormed solutions as a whole
family. We moved dishes around so they could be easily reached by
the children. We taught them how to use the microwave. We bought
simple containers to use for drinks, like CapriSun pouches instead
of big jugs of juice, and small rubbermaid cups with lids for
chocolate milks. We make sure we have easy to eat snacks ready to
go, like cut up fruit, deli meat and cheese. They enjoy doing
things for themselves. They choose quieter activities in the
evenings rather than loud playing. It's all worked out well, but it
definitely took us communicating well as a family so that everyone's
needs were met.
Beth M.
John & Karen Buxcel
Christy,
Thanks for your perspective, looking back to your time with your four young
children. I always appreciate hearing this, especially the part about
'getting down on the floor with them'. I think it's such a good reminder,
specifically for us who are there NOW with young ones. We must remember
that other things will wait, but our children Cannot!
Thank you, thank you for keeping me mindful of that!
Karen
Thanks for your perspective, looking back to your time with your four young
children. I always appreciate hearing this, especially the part about
'getting down on the floor with them'. I think it's such a good reminder,
specifically for us who are there NOW with young ones. We must remember
that other things will wait, but our children Cannot!
Thank you, thank you for keeping me mindful of that!
Karen
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From: "Christy from SC" <christybaitken@...>
To: "Unschoolingbasics" <[email protected]>
Sent: Monday, May 29, 2006 10:34 AM
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] Gentile parenting and Unschooling...
>I made horrible mistakes when my first four were little. I had the first
>four in four years. My house was a playpen. Time to myself was far and
>few....I didn't unschool then and unfortuately spanked back then. I have
>much to regret. I regret not getting on the floor with them more....they
>are teens now and I am totally reversing those mistakes.
>
> I spend every minute I'm home with them. I work full time now. So time
> with them is precious.
>
> They do not hold a grudge to the way I parented them when they were
> younger. Only reason I can think is because I'm unschooling them now and
> using gentle parenting. We have a great relationship with them now.
> Daddy is reserved...I'm the fun mom.
>
> I have a two year old among teens. Am sooo enjoying both stages!!!! No
> more conservative parenting for me. I am sold on gentle parenting.
>
> My second eldest came to me the other night to talk about her feelings on
> homosexuality. It was good. Though she is geared to get married in a few
> years and have babies. She had me watch her "Gravitation" DVD. She wants
> to see "Broke Back Mountain." Needless to say....she is very boy
> crazy....she just is open...
>
> I respect that....total reverse to the horrid way I parented her as a
> four year old. I don't have enough time with her....
>
> Christy
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