Mother Earth (Tyra)

Joyce,

Your response to Tonya is AWESOME! I LOVED that balloon analogy that you used. It is one that I will apply to the fears that I have left in unschooling AND my own personal life. Also, the point on choices is dead on right! That is one of the most valuable lessons one can learn. And I believe that unschooling will help our children realize that they have choices and make that a natural way of being rather than having it to learn after the fact.

And I am finally getting a huge message regarding discussion versus support groups. I have an obsessive compulsive disorder called trichotillomania. Essentially, I am a hair puller. I have CHOSEN to move past this disorder and have been struggling with the *support* groups for those of us with this behavior. On the lists that I am on it seems that people want to talk about how difficult it is to move past it and that is it. I joined because I have decided that this can no longer be a part of my life. I had not yet addressed my issue to these groups because I did not want to sound judgmental. I can respect where everyone is but I am no longer where they are. I am choosing to make this something that I used to do. I now see that I need to start a DISCUSSION list for people who are on fire and ready to move past this OCD. All of the recent talk about support vs discussion group has finally sunken in!

Thanks Joyce and Everyone really. I call this group my fire. You help to light the fire or keep the fire lit within that keeps me moving toward being a better person and hence a better mother.

One Love and Peace
Tyra
----- Original Message -----
From: Joyce Fetteroll
To: [email protected]
Sent: Wednesday, May 24, 2006 6:45 AM
Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] RE: Hating Homeschooling


On May 23, 2006, at 11:30 AM, Tonya Matthews wrote:

> It's hard to trust, for me.

For most everyone!

> I was schooled in a school building,

As did 99% of the people! :-)

> At
> this point, I CAN'T let my son have all the screen time he'd like.

Probably most of the people have something they aren't ready to let
go of.

But the list is to provide help and support for the practices someone
*has decided they want to change* not the practices they want to hold
onto.

Unfortunately that gives the impression that everyone on the list is
perfect, that it's easy to just let go of old ways and all they need
is some tips on what to do instead!

But I think a better way to look at the list is to picture everyone
with a dozen practices they're holding onto that make their own life
easier and less fearful. The practices are like balloons that support
their fears because their fears are threatening to pull them into a
bottomless abyss. They *want* to hold onto the balloons and they
can't understand why people find it so easy to let go.



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katherand2003

Wow, Tyra. Loved what you said about OCD discussion versus support.
That's so great! :) Right on.

Kathe
http://katherand.wordpress.com/



--- In [email protected], "Mother Earth \(Tyra\)"
<motherspirit@...> wrote:
>
> Joyce,
>
> Your response to Tonya is AWESOME! I LOVED that balloon analogy
that you used. It is one that I will apply to the fears that I have
left in unschooling AND my own personal life. Also, the point on
choices is dead on right! That is one of the most valuable lessons
one can learn. And I believe that unschooling will help our children
realize that they have choices and make that a natural way of being
rather than having it to learn after the fact.
>
> And I am finally getting a huge message regarding discussion versus
support groups. I have an obsessive compulsive disorder called
trichotillomania. Essentially, I am a hair puller. I have CHOSEN to
move past this disorder and have been struggling with the *support*
groups for those of us with this behavior. On the lists that I am on
it seems that people want to talk about how difficult it is to move
past it and that is it. I joined because I have decided that this can
no longer be a part of my life. I had not yet addressed my issue to
these groups because I did not want to sound judgmental. I can
respect where everyone is but I am no longer where they are. I am
choosing to make this something that I used to do. I now see that I
need to start a DISCUSSION list for people who are on fire and ready
to move past this OCD. All of the recent talk about support vs
discussion group has finally sunken in!
>
> Thanks Joyce and Everyone really. I call this group my fire. You
help to light the fire or keep the fire lit within that keeps me
moving toward being a better person and hence a better mother.
>
> One Love and Peace
> Tyra
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Joyce Fetteroll
> To: [email protected]
> Sent: Wednesday, May 24, 2006 6:45 AM
> Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] RE: Hating Homeschooling
>
>
> On May 23, 2006, at 11:30 AM, Tonya Matthews wrote:
>
> > It's hard to trust, for me.
>
> For most everyone!
>
> > I was schooled in a school building,
>
> As did 99% of the people! :-)
>
> > At
> > this point, I CAN'T let my son have all the screen time he'd like.
>
> Probably most of the people have something they aren't ready to let
> go of.
>
> But the list is to provide help and support for the practices
someone
> *has decided they want to change* not the practices they want to
hold
> onto.
>
> Unfortunately that gives the impression that everyone on the list is
> perfect, that it's easy to just let go of old ways and all they need
> is some tips on what to do instead!
>
> But I think a better way to look at the list is to picture everyone
> with a dozen practices they're holding onto that make their own life
> easier and less fearful. The practices are like balloons that
support
> their fears because their fears are threatening to pull them into a
> bottomless abyss. They *want* to hold onto the balloons and they
> can't understand why people find it so easy to let go.
>
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>