Unschooling support group recommendation
Ren Allen
I think what I don't like about a "support" group in same cases, is
that you're going to get pats on the back no matter what. It's all
about support, and not about growth and moving forward.
I think this list IS a great support group if you don't mind being
questioned or challenged here and there. It is geared for
discussion/advice, but many of us find a supportive environment as a
side benefit of talking to people over the years.
I think any fears or doubts would be met here with encouragment.:)
It's ok to discuss things like that!! Yeah, you might get some
questions or advice for the fears and doubts, but I think that's a
good thing.
I really enjoy certain types of support groups (I started Imagination
Tribe for that purpose) but for the topic of unschooling I prefer
discussion....so I'm not very helpful I'm afraid.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
that you're going to get pats on the back no matter what. It's all
about support, and not about growth and moving forward.
I think this list IS a great support group if you don't mind being
questioned or challenged here and there. It is geared for
discussion/advice, but many of us find a supportive environment as a
side benefit of talking to people over the years.
I think any fears or doubts would be met here with encouragment.:)
It's ok to discuss things like that!! Yeah, you might get some
questions or advice for the fears and doubts, but I think that's a
good thing.
I really enjoy certain types of support groups (I started Imagination
Tribe for that purpose) but for the topic of unschooling I prefer
discussion....so I'm not very helpful I'm afraid.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
aplan4life
Thanks Ren, I do need GROWTH via encouragement, :-) Maybe I've
misread a post here or there and had a little mind clutter but for
some reason I wasn't sure if it was okay to ask support type
questions. I'm glad that I can ask them here.
--- In [email protected], "Ren Allen"
<starsuncloud@...> wrote:
misread a post here or there and had a little mind clutter but for
some reason I wasn't sure if it was okay to ask support type
questions. I'm glad that I can ask them here.
--- In [email protected], "Ren Allen"
<starsuncloud@...> wrote:
>
>> I think any fears or doubts would be met here with encouragment.:)
> It's ok to discuss things like that!! Yeah, you might get some
> questions or advice for the fears and doubts, but I think that's a
> good thing.
> Ren
> learninginfreedom.com
>
Ren Allen
"Wow! I didn�t know that Ren�s son didn�t read until then, but
I knew that he only recently started to enjoy writing."
Let me clarify...he doesn't really "enjoy writing" in the sense that
he writes for pleasure, he writes when it's useful to him for a game
or other purpose.
He began reading fluently AFTER he turned 12. Most of his fluent
reading has happened this very year (he turned 12 in August) but he
went from asking me to read almost everything to absorbing and reading
almost anything recently.
Last night he was working very hard on a Zelda game. He had the
walk-through up on my compuer and when he hit snags he'd come running
in and read how to deal with that area. A walk-through is one of the
most technical, detailed and BORING (only to me of course) bits of
writing in the world. I tried reading some of it and could not wrap
my mind around it. Very detailed stuff. He was reading it AND
applying that information in a way that made sense. He was using it to
decode a game. NOT simple reading at all.
Trust. It always comes back to that simple word. You can't have
unschooling without it...but you have to constantly up your trust
quotient to get to the next level.:)
At first you trust that your child will learn outside of school, then
you begin to trust that they don't need lessons and curriculum, then
you realize they really need only a RICH and interesting and
supportive environment in order to learn well.
In every step, the trust had to come first, THEN you see natural
learning unfold. When we hit that pocket of fear, it's OUR job to work
through it without dumping our shit on our children. Lots of internal
dialogue, lots of talking at the lists and lots of questioning can
help work through those rough spots.
I think you've come a LONG way in a short time Sandy...it's been so
much fun to hear how the unschooling journey is flowing in your home.
And it's really great to hear how you're standing up to your dh and
he's responding. That's how we got 100% to unschooling...I had to
really be convinced enough to tell him to trust ME if he couldn't
trust the kids. You should hear him in discussions now, totally
cracks me up that he was ever unsure.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
I knew that he only recently started to enjoy writing."
Let me clarify...he doesn't really "enjoy writing" in the sense that
he writes for pleasure, he writes when it's useful to him for a game
or other purpose.
He began reading fluently AFTER he turned 12. Most of his fluent
reading has happened this very year (he turned 12 in August) but he
went from asking me to read almost everything to absorbing and reading
almost anything recently.
Last night he was working very hard on a Zelda game. He had the
walk-through up on my compuer and when he hit snags he'd come running
in and read how to deal with that area. A walk-through is one of the
most technical, detailed and BORING (only to me of course) bits of
writing in the world. I tried reading some of it and could not wrap
my mind around it. Very detailed stuff. He was reading it AND
applying that information in a way that made sense. He was using it to
decode a game. NOT simple reading at all.
Trust. It always comes back to that simple word. You can't have
unschooling without it...but you have to constantly up your trust
quotient to get to the next level.:)
At first you trust that your child will learn outside of school, then
you begin to trust that they don't need lessons and curriculum, then
you realize they really need only a RICH and interesting and
supportive environment in order to learn well.
In every step, the trust had to come first, THEN you see natural
learning unfold. When we hit that pocket of fear, it's OUR job to work
through it without dumping our shit on our children. Lots of internal
dialogue, lots of talking at the lists and lots of questioning can
help work through those rough spots.
I think you've come a LONG way in a short time Sandy...it's been so
much fun to hear how the unschooling journey is flowing in your home.
And it's really great to hear how you're standing up to your dh and
he's responding. That's how we got 100% to unschooling...I had to
really be convinced enough to tell him to trust ME if he couldn't
trust the kids. You should hear him in discussions now, totally
cracks me up that he was ever unsure.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com