Ren Allen

"! What I was saying is that emotions can and many times do increase
during puberty. "

Absolutely. I'm not trying to ignore the fact that hormones are
stronger and more fluctuating for some people during that time. I just
think it's not a good idea to brush off intense emotions as "puberty"
without looking very deeply at how the parents are handling issues.

Especially for a child that had extremely damaging experiences, just
left school recently and is not unschooling yet!! Yeah, there's
probably some pubescent angst adding fuel to the fire, but there's
probably a lot of old hurt that needs to be worked through also.
One day at a time.....:)

Ren
learninginfreedom.com

drusila00

--- In [email protected], "Ren Allen"
<starsuncloud@...> wrote:
>
> Here's a link to Sandra Dodd's page about "teen rebellion"
> http://sandradodd.com/rebellion
>
> Ren
> learninginfreedom.com
>


I don't think the information here fits our situation at all.
(but thanks for trying)

I certainly do not think our son is rebellious, I don't think of him
as submisive or compliant either. I just don't think of people like
that at all.
I do think he is becoming moodyier, which is to say his moods are not
on an even keel as often as before and I think he has started
destressing and is finaly realizing that he has more space.
I do think he is "getting out" some toxic stuff emotionaly as well
(and his counceler agrees).
I wouldnt say it is totaly unexpected but diferent amd more dificult
than any of us thought it would be.
One or the other is hard enough to deal with but both at the same
time is like a double whammy. (for the whole family) And we are all
trying to find our way through it and we are all (the whole family)
trying to do our best.



IMO no one ever sets our to do less than their best, we all need the
right frame of mind and the right tools and the right people around us
to ultimatly do our best in a situation like this.

Ren Allen

"I don't think the information here fits our situation at all.
(but thanks for trying)"

But I wasn't trying to find stuff to fit your situation...just adding
to a discussion about moods and puberty, that's all.:)
Very often, the original poster asks a question and the discussion
spins off in a lot of directions not expected. That's the beauty of
discussion....it just sort of flows and fills in and helps other folks
that might not even be posting.

Connections, connections....just like real life.

Ren
learninginfreedom.com

dana_burdick

--- In [email protected], "Ren Allen"
<starsuncloud@...> wrote:
>
> "! What I was saying is that emotions can and many times do
increase
> during puberty. "
>
> Ren
> Absolutely. I'm not trying to ignore the fact that hormones are
> stronger and more fluctuating for some people during that time. I
just
> think it's not a good idea to brush off intense emotions
as "puberty"
> without looking very deeply at how the parents are handling issues.

I wanted to add to this. Try replacing the words intense emotions
with intense pain, for a moment. You would probably do everything
you could to minimize someone's pain and look for any underlying
causes ASAP. While we might believe that the hormonal emotions will
eventually subside on their own, the person experiencing them for
the moment needs all the support they can get. Emotions have a way
of imprinting themselves on the body, whether they are in passing
due to hormones or other stresses in life. I believe that any
emotion/pain should be handled with the greatest care, regardless of
its source. It also disturbs me when I hear, "Oh, it's just a
hormone thing."

-Dana