Ren Allen

"They can pick and choose what they take away. But what's
presented will be helping people move towards unschooling."

Exactly. This list was designed with a very clear purpose in mind.
There are certain things that interfere with unschooling.

Punishment is one such thing. When parents withhold, or threaten to
withhold things to attain a certain type of behavior, it does not help
unschooling blossom in the home.
Trust is essential.
If a child speaks or acts a certain way, unschooling is all about
trying to understand and be a partner to that child, not punishing
them or treating them as "less than". Mirroring annoyance or trying to
control behaviors only leads to blockages in the relationship, which
does not help learning unfold well.

The advice here is about how you don't need to control your child, but
be their partners. A child that has had major control, will probably
have a harder time transitioning into a partnership style
relationship, but the faster a parent treats them with respect and
dignity, the better things will be.

Just stuff I've been thinking about lately, and how very unimportant
most issues are that parents tend to make a big deal about. I'm really
weary of certain issues right now.....hearing from a child that they
believe they deserved punishment because of their "attitude" breaks my
heart.
So that's where my thoughts are meandering today. Forgive me if it
seems OT.

Ren
learninginfreedom.com