thoughts on choosing ps?
Nicole Willoughby
Courtney chose to go to kindergarten. I forced her to leave mid year this year. In Ms if a kid has more than 12 unexcused absences the parents can be fined $1,000 and/or go to jail. I wont bore ya will all the details but the best decision for us at the time was to homeschool the rest of the year.
Well Courney wants to go back to school next year. We have talked about all the negatives . Weve talked about the rules and how she would have to go even if her brother decided to keep everyone up all night. Weve talked about all the things she could do if she wernt in school and how I might we might be able to do things to suit her better here at home.
Ive reminded her about how she had real problems with all the noise during lunch and on the playground. She says but I want to learn how to handle that mom...I need to go try.
I feel like i have to trust her to do what she needs to do and if she chooses school Im not going to hold her back .................though I will spend the summer praying her changes her mind
But my heart screams out no!!!! dont good this is not good for you!!
So if you were in my shoes would you say ok if your child chose school or refuse?
If you said ok would you inforce homework or let your child choose wether to do it or not?
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Well Courney wants to go back to school next year. We have talked about all the negatives . Weve talked about the rules and how she would have to go even if her brother decided to keep everyone up all night. Weve talked about all the things she could do if she wernt in school and how I might we might be able to do things to suit her better here at home.
Ive reminded her about how she had real problems with all the noise during lunch and on the playground. She says but I want to learn how to handle that mom...I need to go try.
I feel like i have to trust her to do what she needs to do and if she chooses school Im not going to hold her back .................though I will spend the summer praying her changes her mind
But my heart screams out no!!!! dont good this is not good for you!!
So if you were in my shoes would you say ok if your child chose school or refuse?
If you said ok would you inforce homework or let your child choose wether to do it or not?
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Lesa McMahon-Lowe
I believe you should let her pursue this until she decides that it isn't for
her. Here's the thing about homework... her choice is to choose school, and
homework comes with school, so she'll need to understand that she'll have to
abide buy the "rules" of school and that means homework, too.
It would be just like choosing to get a job or join another club or going to
college... you know that there are going to be "rules" you will have to
follow if you do these things. That's my take on it from different
discussions about these sort-of situations on another RU board.
~*~*~
Lesa M.
LIFE Academy
http://lifeacademy.homeschooljournal.net/
-------Original Message-------
From: Nicole Willoughby
Date: 04/15/06 20:44:07
To: [email protected]
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] thoughts on choosing ps?
Courtney chose to go to kindergarten. I forced her to leave mid year this
year. In Ms if a kid has more than 12 unexcused absences the parents can be
fined $1,000 and/or go to jail. I wont bore ya will all the details but the
best decision for us at the time was to homeschool the rest of the year.
Well Courney wants to go back to school next year. We have talked about
all the negatives . Weve talked about the rules and how she would have to go
even if her brother decided to keep everyone up all night. Weve talked about
all the things she could do if she wernt in school and how I might we might
be able to do things to suit her better here at home.
Ive reminded her about how she had real problems with all the noise during
lunch and on the playground. She says but I want to learn how to handle that
mom...I need to go try.
I feel like i have to trust her to do what she needs to do and if she
chooses school Im not going to hold her back .................though I will
spend the summer praying her changes her mind
But my heart screams out no!!!! dont good this is not good for you!!
So if you were in my shoes would you say ok if your child chose school or
refuse?
If you said ok would you inforce homework or let your child choose wether
to do it or not?
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her. Here's the thing about homework... her choice is to choose school, and
homework comes with school, so she'll need to understand that she'll have to
abide buy the "rules" of school and that means homework, too.
It would be just like choosing to get a job or join another club or going to
college... you know that there are going to be "rules" you will have to
follow if you do these things. That's my take on it from different
discussions about these sort-of situations on another RU board.
~*~*~
Lesa M.
LIFE Academy
http://lifeacademy.homeschooljournal.net/
-------Original Message-------
From: Nicole Willoughby
Date: 04/15/06 20:44:07
To: [email protected]
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] thoughts on choosing ps?
Courtney chose to go to kindergarten. I forced her to leave mid year this
year. In Ms if a kid has more than 12 unexcused absences the parents can be
fined $1,000 and/or go to jail. I wont bore ya will all the details but the
best decision for us at the time was to homeschool the rest of the year.
Well Courney wants to go back to school next year. We have talked about
all the negatives . Weve talked about the rules and how she would have to go
even if her brother decided to keep everyone up all night. Weve talked about
all the things she could do if she wernt in school and how I might we might
be able to do things to suit her better here at home.
Ive reminded her about how she had real problems with all the noise during
lunch and on the playground. She says but I want to learn how to handle that
mom...I need to go try.
I feel like i have to trust her to do what she needs to do and if she
chooses school Im not going to hold her back .................though I will
spend the summer praying her changes her mind
But my heart screams out no!!!! dont good this is not good for you!!
So if you were in my shoes would you say ok if your child chose school or
refuse?
If you said ok would you inforce homework or let your child choose wether
to do it or not?
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Pampered Chef Michelle
On 4/15/06, Nicole Willoughby <cncnawilloughby@...> wrote:
told this recently, but I'll repeat. When Emily was 3 she *really* wanted
to go to Pre-K. She BEGGED me to let her go to pre-K. We couldn't afford
it, but then my mother decided she needed to go to pre-K and paid for it.
So she went. She hated it. Why? Because it didn't live up to her
expecations. What she thought would happen at pre-K is that she would get
to play in the big playground. My son was ecstatic when he found out he was
going to kindergarden. I wasn't fond of the idea (my ex and I were living
separated at the time and I hadn't figured out if I could juggle working and
homeschooling). I asked him why he wanted to go to school and he said,
"Because I get to ride the big bus and eat lunch." When my co-parent and I
decided to buy a house together and me quit my formal job, our Mary Elayne
said she would miss school. I asked her what part of school she would
miss. Her reply was, "Seeing Kayla and Dinoje every day." None of the
reasons that my kids wanted to go to school were about *school.* I was able
to meet their needs just fine though. The first year after we pulled them
out we went and road the city bus and the down town trolley (a fancy bus,
not a street car) several times. We went to parks to play and I found a
group of children (Yay Ren) to meet their friend needs.
There may be something that your daughter is missing that she got at
school. Your job is to find out what that is and find a way to meet that
need.
--
Michelle
Independent Kitchen Consultant #413652
The Pampered Chef
850-474-0817
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>Why does she want to go back? That is what you need to resolve. I may have
> Well Courney wants to go back to school next year. We have talked about
> all the negatives .
told this recently, but I'll repeat. When Emily was 3 she *really* wanted
to go to Pre-K. She BEGGED me to let her go to pre-K. We couldn't afford
it, but then my mother decided she needed to go to pre-K and paid for it.
So she went. She hated it. Why? Because it didn't live up to her
expecations. What she thought would happen at pre-K is that she would get
to play in the big playground. My son was ecstatic when he found out he was
going to kindergarden. I wasn't fond of the idea (my ex and I were living
separated at the time and I hadn't figured out if I could juggle working and
homeschooling). I asked him why he wanted to go to school and he said,
"Because I get to ride the big bus and eat lunch." When my co-parent and I
decided to buy a house together and me quit my formal job, our Mary Elayne
said she would miss school. I asked her what part of school she would
miss. Her reply was, "Seeing Kayla and Dinoje every day." None of the
reasons that my kids wanted to go to school were about *school.* I was able
to meet their needs just fine though. The first year after we pulled them
out we went and road the city bus and the down town trolley (a fancy bus,
not a street car) several times. We went to parks to play and I found a
group of children (Yay Ren) to meet their friend needs.
There may be something that your daughter is missing that she got at
school. Your job is to find out what that is and find a way to meet that
need.
--
Michelle
Independent Kitchen Consultant #413652
The Pampered Chef
850-474-0817
http://www.pamperedchef.biz/michellelr
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Pampered Chef Michelle
On 4/16/06, Lesa McMahon-Lowe <lesajm@...> wrote:
separately, the first thing I did was arrange a parent-teacher conference to
discuss my views on parenting and education. I already had the RU gene in
my system but it was just starting to wake up. I have major issues with
homework, especially in the early years of school (before high school). I
told the teachers point blank that I would not be enforcing homework. That
my children could choose to do homework and if the felt that they wanted to
do it, fine. If not, then that was fine as well. I told them quite
honestly that I felt that the majority of homework was unecessary and if
they had my child for 8 hours a day then there was nothing that an
additional hour or two of homework was going to teach them. If they
couldn't learn it in 8 hours then they weren't going to learn it at home in
1. I also said that I didn't want their lack of homework to impact their
grades. That if they were passing their tests then obviously they knew the
information. If they were not passing their tests, then we would review the
need for additional help in that area. The kindergarden teacher was fine
with this and said that all homework in kindergarden was optional. The 2nd
grade and 5th grade teachers agreed to see how things went. Well, Keon (k)
and Emily (5th) had no use for homework and rarely did any of it. Emily
made it through the first half of the year with all A's hardly completing or
turning in any homework. Mary Elayne thought homework was fun (she's an
evil child ;) ) After the first part of the year Emily's grades dropped
suddenly from A's to F's. In one report card. I called for a parent
teacher conference and the teacher said that the reason she suddenly was
failing was because she wasn't doing her homework. She was making 100% on
her tests, but because she had daily grades of 0% it caused her to fail. I
reminded him about our agreement at the beginning of the year and his
response was, "I can't continue to allow her not to turn in her homework and
not be penalized because other children are jealous that she doesn't have to
do homework and they do." That's when Emily quit school and decided that
she was going to be in control of her own education. :)
--
Michelle
Independent Kitchen Consultant #413652
The Pampered Chef
850-474-0817
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>When I put the kids in school for the year their father and I were living
>
>
> It would be just like choosing to get a job or join another club or going
> to
> college... you know that there are going to be "rules" you will have to
> follow if you do these things. That's my take on it from different
> discussions about these sort-of situations on another RU board.
separately, the first thing I did was arrange a parent-teacher conference to
discuss my views on parenting and education. I already had the RU gene in
my system but it was just starting to wake up. I have major issues with
homework, especially in the early years of school (before high school). I
told the teachers point blank that I would not be enforcing homework. That
my children could choose to do homework and if the felt that they wanted to
do it, fine. If not, then that was fine as well. I told them quite
honestly that I felt that the majority of homework was unecessary and if
they had my child for 8 hours a day then there was nothing that an
additional hour or two of homework was going to teach them. If they
couldn't learn it in 8 hours then they weren't going to learn it at home in
1. I also said that I didn't want their lack of homework to impact their
grades. That if they were passing their tests then obviously they knew the
information. If they were not passing their tests, then we would review the
need for additional help in that area. The kindergarden teacher was fine
with this and said that all homework in kindergarden was optional. The 2nd
grade and 5th grade teachers agreed to see how things went. Well, Keon (k)
and Emily (5th) had no use for homework and rarely did any of it. Emily
made it through the first half of the year with all A's hardly completing or
turning in any homework. Mary Elayne thought homework was fun (she's an
evil child ;) ) After the first part of the year Emily's grades dropped
suddenly from A's to F's. In one report card. I called for a parent
teacher conference and the teacher said that the reason she suddenly was
failing was because she wasn't doing her homework. She was making 100% on
her tests, but because she had daily grades of 0% it caused her to fail. I
reminded him about our agreement at the beginning of the year and his
response was, "I can't continue to allow her not to turn in her homework and
not be penalized because other children are jealous that she doesn't have to
do homework and they do." That's when Emily quit school and decided that
she was going to be in control of her own education. :)
--
Michelle
Independent Kitchen Consultant #413652
The Pampered Chef
850-474-0817
http://www.pamperedchef.biz/michellelr
Ask me how you can save 60% on some of our most favorite products!
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