Millie Rosa

"Would you have still been joyous about giving your son his freedom to
choose if your DS chose to keep watching Cartoon Network while eating
sugar straight from the container? Sometimes when I read emails like
this I can't help but wonder if the poster would still be as OK with
the choices their child made if they weren't the "right" ones. KWIM?
I'm not trying to be snarky at all....I'm just curious. :)
-Tracy-"

Yeah, Tracy, I laid awake thinking about this last night, after my post. I knew someone would ask me this! Well, it certainly would have been harder for me to accept him eating spoons and spoons of sugar or that whole bag of cookies, or something! But I did buy him the cookies and I fully expected that he would eat them...so I was prepared to accept that. If he had decided he loved to eat sugar by the spoonful I probably would have stopped him after a certain point, don't know, depends on how much he was eating...I was really thankful I didn't have to makew that call! As far as cartoons are concerned, like I said, I gave him the remote...he was free to watch what he wanted....yes I would have been uncomfortable if he insisted on watching something that I thought was junk...but I hope and think I would have kept my mouth shut. I have learned that I have issues w tv and have vowed to remember that they are my own issues and to allow him the freedom to make his own opinions
regarding that medium. But I was thankful that even I didn't have any problems w what he was watching! We had a great weekend watching tv together and it sparked a lot of discussion and I think we both learned a lot.
Also, as far as him refusing to eat blueberries b/c they were not organic...this is not a choice I would have made. I never would have wanted him to forgo the berries because they weren't organic...he made this decision on his own. I felt kindof bad about it, actually...like I have indoctrinated him into my beliefs or something. But we are organic gardeners and I do discuss what I buy with him as well...
You know, he is free to make choices I don't agree with, he does this regularly.
But I was thankful he made what I would consider to be good choices in this area...because I would have a hard time letting him eat sugar!
Millie




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TreeGoddess

On Jun 27, 2004, at 4:57 PM, Millie Rosa wrote:

> Yeah, Tracy, I laid awake thinking about this last night, after my
> post. I knew someone would ask me this!

Leave it to me! LOL

> Well, it certainly would have been harder for me to accept him eating
> spoons and spoons of sugar or that whole bag of cookies, or something!
> But I did buy him the cookies and I fully expected that he would eat
> them...so I was prepared to accept that. If he had decided he loved
> to eat sugar by the spoonful I probably would have stopped him after a
> certain point, don't know, depends on how much he was eating...I was
> really thankful I didn't have to makew that call!

Well, as Fate would have it.....after me asking you this question, my
3yo DD asked me to get the sugar container down so she could have some.
LOL I got it down for her and she sat on the kitchen counter dipping
in her little fingers while I puttered around and cleaned up other
areas of the room. While i was upstairs putting away toys and other
things that had "migrated" to our lower level she took the container
into the living room so she could watch Cartoon Network with my 5yo DS
-- who then was also eating the sugar. I was laughing at myself for
questioning YOU and now I had the exact same situation!!!

I managed to just act like it wasn't anything unusual and I went about
my business. They actually got tired of eating it long before I
expected them to and I even asked them if they were finished before i
put it away. LOL

That is so funny that that happened to me -- it was my chance to put
myself in the same situation and see how I'd react. I'm glad to say
that it was really "no biggie". :)

-Tracy-