officially deschooling and "the test"
jsnhawkins
Well, I finally convinced DH to go along with letting me pull DS (10)
from school now instead of waiting till the school year is over. Now
we're officially deschooling and taking a well-deserved vacation from
anything remotely academic. I'm so thrilled!
And, you may remember me posting about how to stop micromanaging
everything. It's been going great. I've have backed WAY off and DS's
attitude is already improving. I told him that I was going to refrain
from making decisions for him unless it was a safety issue of
imperative for some unusual reason. He didn't believe me. So a few
days later he decided he was going to cut his hair by himself. I
looked at him funny but said "whatever you wanna do". He proceded to
cut a chunk of hair out, spazzed out for a second after realizing what
he had done, and then told me he was "just testing me" to see if I'd
tell him he couldn't. That absolutely cracked me up. I guess he trusts
me now. Afterwards I gave him a new haircut (per his request) with
buzzed sides so that you can't see the missing chunk. So, on with our
unschooling adventure. Thanks for the advice.
Betsy
from school now instead of waiting till the school year is over. Now
we're officially deschooling and taking a well-deserved vacation from
anything remotely academic. I'm so thrilled!
And, you may remember me posting about how to stop micromanaging
everything. It's been going great. I've have backed WAY off and DS's
attitude is already improving. I told him that I was going to refrain
from making decisions for him unless it was a safety issue of
imperative for some unusual reason. He didn't believe me. So a few
days later he decided he was going to cut his hair by himself. I
looked at him funny but said "whatever you wanna do". He proceded to
cut a chunk of hair out, spazzed out for a second after realizing what
he had done, and then told me he was "just testing me" to see if I'd
tell him he couldn't. That absolutely cracked me up. I guess he trusts
me now. Afterwards I gave him a new haircut (per his request) with
buzzed sides so that you can't see the missing chunk. So, on with our
unschooling adventure. Thanks for the advice.
Betsy
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So a few
days later he decided he was going to cut his hair by himself. I
looked at him funny but said "whatever you wanna do". He proceded to
cut a chunk of hair out, spazzed out for a second after realizing what
he had done, and then told me he was "just testing me" to see if I'd
tell him he couldn't.
We just started deschooling too. We had the exact same "test". Last night at
11 my 15 yo (Deven) told my 5 yo (Jake) to go get the scissors and cut
his hair. All these horrible thoughts of ears being cut off flashed through
my mind but I bit my tongue. After a few min. of discussing hair styles,
Deven looked at me and asked if I would fix it. His face was priceless, a
little scared and a touch defiant. I told him I would in the morning but by
then he realized what could happen. My DH stepped in and told him he would
cut it for him, so at midnight my DH gave both boys a haircut. I was
suprised by this way of "testing" until I got up this a.m. and read your
message. Do alot of boys test this way? For the week that we've been
unschooling, I've had more fun that the past 7 yrs of homeschooling.
Charlene in SC
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days later he decided he was going to cut his hair by himself. I
looked at him funny but said "whatever you wanna do". He proceded to
cut a chunk of hair out, spazzed out for a second after realizing what
he had done, and then told me he was "just testing me" to see if I'd
tell him he couldn't.
We just started deschooling too. We had the exact same "test". Last night at
11 my 15 yo (Deven) told my 5 yo (Jake) to go get the scissors and cut
his hair. All these horrible thoughts of ears being cut off flashed through
my mind but I bit my tongue. After a few min. of discussing hair styles,
Deven looked at me and asked if I would fix it. His face was priceless, a
little scared and a touch defiant. I told him I would in the morning but by
then he realized what could happen. My DH stepped in and told him he would
cut it for him, so at midnight my DH gave both boys a haircut. I was
suprised by this way of "testing" until I got up this a.m. and read your
message. Do alot of boys test this way? For the week that we've been
unschooling, I've had more fun that the past 7 yrs of homeschooling.
Charlene in SC
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chrfath816
I think my 8yo DS is doing "the test" too. He wants to dye his hair
blue, so we bought the kool-aid yesterday. He hasn't asked about it
since. I don't think he was expecting me to say "yes".
Thanks for sharing.
Christi
blue, so we bought the kool-aid yesterday. He hasn't asked about it
since. I don't think he was expecting me to say "yes".
Thanks for sharing.
Christi
Pampered Chef Michelle
On 3/22/06, chrfath816 <chrfath@...> wrote:
blue or purple or orange hair. His hair is still light enough (I think)
that it could take on some fun colors. How do you make a hair dye out of
kool-aid and how long does it last? We thought about buying some colored
hair gels, but they are so expensive.
I think that hair is one of those things that they can test with without it
being something completely permanent. Hair grows out. So even if they are
cutting it just to test their boundaries they subconsciously (at least) know
that it is a "safe" test. It won't be 1mm, blue and/or weird for too long
:) My girls have always been surprised at how easily I will allow them to
cut and color their hair. Currently my middle child has black hair with
purple overtones. She'd been talking about coloring black for a long time
and when we found this "midnight pomegranate" (on clearance for $2 no less)
and I told her that I would help her color her hair she was so excited!
She's one of those fortunate people who can wear weird colors, odd
hairstyles and it all looks good on her.
--
Michelle
Independent Kitchen Consultant #413652
The Pampered Chef
850-474-0817
http://www.pamperedchef.biz/michellelr
Catch our new wave of color!
Book a March show!
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>Tell me more about kool-aid hair dying? Keon would so love to have green or
> I think my 8yo DS is doing "the test" too. He wants to dye his hair
> blue, so we bought the kool-aid yesterday. He hasn't asked about it
> since. I don't think he was expecting me to say "yes".
blue or purple or orange hair. His hair is still light enough (I think)
that it could take on some fun colors. How do you make a hair dye out of
kool-aid and how long does it last? We thought about buying some colored
hair gels, but they are so expensive.
I think that hair is one of those things that they can test with without it
being something completely permanent. Hair grows out. So even if they are
cutting it just to test their boundaries they subconsciously (at least) know
that it is a "safe" test. It won't be 1mm, blue and/or weird for too long
:) My girls have always been surprised at how easily I will allow them to
cut and color their hair. Currently my middle child has black hair with
purple overtones. She'd been talking about coloring black for a long time
and when we found this "midnight pomegranate" (on clearance for $2 no less)
and I told her that I would help her color her hair she was so excited!
She's one of those fortunate people who can wear weird colors, odd
hairstyles and it all looks good on her.
--
Michelle
Independent Kitchen Consultant #413652
The Pampered Chef
850-474-0817
http://www.pamperedchef.biz/michellelr
Catch our new wave of color!
Book a March show!
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Laura
My girls just had me dye their hair with bright fuchsia streaks. It's been
very empowering for both of them, but especially my almost 7 year old.
Laura in Florida
Mom of 3- 6, 5, and 1
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Subject: [unschoolingbasics] Re: officially deschooling and "the test"
I think my 8yo DS is doing "the test" too. He wants to dye his hair
blue, so we bought the kool-aid yesterday. He hasn't asked about it
since. I don't think he was expecting me to say "yes".
Thanks for sharing.
Christi
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very empowering for both of them, but especially my almost 7 year old.
Laura in Florida
Mom of 3- 6, 5, and 1
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Subject: [unschoolingbasics] Re: officially deschooling and "the test"
I think my 8yo DS is doing "the test" too. He wants to dye his hair
blue, so we bought the kool-aid yesterday. He hasn't asked about it
since. I don't think he was expecting me to say "yes".
Thanks for sharing.
Christi
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Deb
--- In [email protected], "Pampered Chef Michelle"
<pamperedmichelle@...> wrote:
for hair dye": (note - the beginning part talked about bleaching if
necessary for dark hair and red hair is very difficult to dye at all)
Next you need to mix up the Kool Aid. Choose a color you like, the
brighter the better. Mix two packets of unsweetened mix with a
double quarter sized amount of conditioner. I cannot stress enough
that this must be unsweetened Kool Aid. If you use the sugar-added
type, your hair will be a mess. If you haven't bleached your hair
first, go wet it. Put on a pair of gloves and apply the Kool Aid to
your hair. If this is not enough to thickly coat the hair, mix up
some more and continue. Wrap your head in plastic wrap and leave it.
Leave it as long as you can stand it, all day if you can. The longer
you leave it, the better the color will adhere to the hair.
Over time, the color will fade out. If you want it out quicker,
toothpaste will speed up this process, but if you bleached the hair
or you have really light hair normally, it will not remove the color
totally.
Also, I found that Manic Panic temporary type dye costs about $12 (I
looked on amazon and they had it!) There were some temporary hair
colorings I found at Rite Aid's website as well. iparty's website
has some inexpensive short term hair colorings (in the costume/make
up section) - comb in stuff and fluorescent hairspray colors that
run about $2-$4. Haven't tried anything yet though so I can't vouch
for how they work.
--Deb
<pamperedmichelle@...> wrote:
>This is what I found when I went looking for "how to use kool aid
> Tell me more about kool-aid hair dying? Keon would so love to have
>green or
> blue or purple or orange hair. His hair is still light enough (I
>think)
> that it could take on some fun colors. How do you make a hair dye
>out of
> kool-aid and how long does it last? We thought about buying some
>colored
> hair gels, but they are so expensive.
for hair dye": (note - the beginning part talked about bleaching if
necessary for dark hair and red hair is very difficult to dye at all)
Next you need to mix up the Kool Aid. Choose a color you like, the
brighter the better. Mix two packets of unsweetened mix with a
double quarter sized amount of conditioner. I cannot stress enough
that this must be unsweetened Kool Aid. If you use the sugar-added
type, your hair will be a mess. If you haven't bleached your hair
first, go wet it. Put on a pair of gloves and apply the Kool Aid to
your hair. If this is not enough to thickly coat the hair, mix up
some more and continue. Wrap your head in plastic wrap and leave it.
Leave it as long as you can stand it, all day if you can. The longer
you leave it, the better the color will adhere to the hair.
Over time, the color will fade out. If you want it out quicker,
toothpaste will speed up this process, but if you bleached the hair
or you have really light hair normally, it will not remove the color
totally.
Also, I found that Manic Panic temporary type dye costs about $12 (I
looked on amazon and they had it!) There were some temporary hair
colorings I found at Rite Aid's website as well. iparty's website
has some inexpensive short term hair colorings (in the costume/make
up section) - comb in stuff and fluorescent hairspray colors that
run about $2-$4. Haven't tried anything yet though so I can't vouch
for how they work.
--Deb
Marge
Boy I wish I had known about the Kool-aid method last summer. When
most of Jossilyn's(then 8) hair fell out after chemo it made her
look like a sick little old man. It was thin and wispy and almost
white. We dyed it fuschia with what was supposed to be a permanent
hair dye that was meant for brunette hair.(cost about $11 at Rite
Aid) It was VERY bright, VERY Jossilyn and absloutely fabulous--and
made her look much less ill which was what we wanted. But it wasn't
very permanent, probably due to the chemo. The Kool-Aid would have
been much cheaper. We ended up doing it twice between June and
August. Then in August before we went to Boston for her BMT (bone
marrow transplant) we tried blue instead (it didn't suit her as
well.) But then TBI (total body irradiation) took the rest of her
hair so we did temporary tatoos and my older daughter Kelsey (14)
did some henna designs for her.
Hair has never been a big deal around here, so that has never been a
focus of testing for us.
Marge
--- In [email protected], "Deb" <soggyboysmom@...>
wrote:
most of Jossilyn's(then 8) hair fell out after chemo it made her
look like a sick little old man. It was thin and wispy and almost
white. We dyed it fuschia with what was supposed to be a permanent
hair dye that was meant for brunette hair.(cost about $11 at Rite
Aid) It was VERY bright, VERY Jossilyn and absloutely fabulous--and
made her look much less ill which was what we wanted. But it wasn't
very permanent, probably due to the chemo. The Kool-Aid would have
been much cheaper. We ended up doing it twice between June and
August. Then in August before we went to Boston for her BMT (bone
marrow transplant) we tried blue instead (it didn't suit her as
well.) But then TBI (total body irradiation) took the rest of her
hair so we did temporary tatoos and my older daughter Kelsey (14)
did some henna designs for her.
Hair has never been a big deal around here, so that has never been a
focus of testing for us.
Marge
--- In [email protected], "Deb" <soggyboysmom@...>
wrote:
> This is what I found when I went looking for "how to use kool aidif
> for hair dye": (note - the beginning part talked about bleaching
> necessary for dark hair and red hair is very difficult to dye atall)
>to
> Next you need to mix up the Kool Aid. Choose a color you like, the
> brighter the better. Mix two packets of unsweetened mix with a
> double quarter sized amount of conditioner. I cannot stress enough
> that this must be unsweetened Kool Aid. If you use the sugar-added
> type, your hair will be a mess. If you haven't bleached your hair
> first, go wet it. Put on a pair of gloves and apply the Kool Aid
> your hair. If this is not enough to thickly coat the hair, mix upit.
> some more and continue. Wrap your head in plastic wrap and leave
> Leave it as long as you can stand it, all day if you can. Thelonger
> you leave it, the better the color will adhere to the hair.hair
> Over time, the color will fade out. If you want it out quicker,
> toothpaste will speed up this process, but if you bleached the
> or you have really light hair normally, it will not remove thecolor
> totally.(I
>
> Also, I found that Manic Panic temporary type dye costs about $12
> looked on amazon and they had it!) There were some temporary haircostume/make
> colorings I found at Rite Aid's website as well. iparty's website
> has some inexpensive short term hair colorings (in the
> up section) - comb in stuff and fluorescent hairspray colors thatvouch
> run about $2-$4. Haven't tried anything yet though so I can't
> for how they work.
>
> --Deb
>
Ren Allen
"My girls just had me dye their hair with bright fuchsia streaks. "
Ah lovely!:)
I am still sad that my blue hair is now gone, but enjoying the
shortness of it. I still have pics of the blue up at my website.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
Ah lovely!:)
I am still sad that my blue hair is now gone, but enjoying the
shortness of it. I still have pics of the blue up at my website.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
aplan4life
Ren, I'm sure your hair and you look absolutely beautiful. Of course,
you are one of "those" gals that could shave bald and still be
gorgeous because of your features. :-)
~Sandy
--- In [email protected], "Ren Allen"
<starsuncloud@...> wrote:
you are one of "those" gals that could shave bald and still be
gorgeous because of your features. :-)
~Sandy
--- In [email protected], "Ren Allen"
<starsuncloud@...> wrote:
>
> "My girls just had me dye their hair with bright fuchsia streaks. "
>
> Ah lovely!:)
>
> I am still sad that my blue hair is now gone, but enjoying the
> shortness of it. I still have pics of the blue up at my website.
>
> Ren
> learninginfreedom.com
>
Sylvia Toyama
Hair has never been a big deal around here, so that has never been a focus of testing for us.
Marge
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It's the same for us -- with one exception, I've always helped the kids do whatever they wanted for hairstyles. Hair will grow out, no matter what you've done to it, and the choice of look likely will change, too.
My line is dreadlocks -- not because I don't like the look. Whenever I see someone else with dreads, they just fascinate me. But they smell like dirty hair, which I just can't tolerate in close spaces, like my car, so it would be really challenging for my kids to have smelly hair and go anywhere with me.
I do suggest shampoo when my children's hair smells too dirty, because the smell genuinely is a problem for me -- it's so distracting in the car I can't concentrate on anything else and it makes me grumpy that I feel ill just because someone else didn't wash his hair.
Sylvia
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Marge
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It's the same for us -- with one exception, I've always helped the kids do whatever they wanted for hairstyles. Hair will grow out, no matter what you've done to it, and the choice of look likely will change, too.
My line is dreadlocks -- not because I don't like the look. Whenever I see someone else with dreads, they just fascinate me. But they smell like dirty hair, which I just can't tolerate in close spaces, like my car, so it would be really challenging for my kids to have smelly hair and go anywhere with me.
I do suggest shampoo when my children's hair smells too dirty, because the smell genuinely is a problem for me -- it's so distracting in the car I can't concentrate on anything else and it makes me grumpy that I feel ill just because someone else didn't wash his hair.
Sylvia
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