frustrated single mother
annlola16
I'm still having control issues with Lola (My 21/2 old daughter)and
I try to
rconize them and rethink about them and I think its
because we have such a demanding scheduel that I get
so upset. we have to be up, we have to get dressed, and
leave the house by a certain time. Some times Lola
wont get up and I'll take her to school in her pjs.
The other day when I woke her up I took her out to the
kitchen she wanted down so I put her down and she ran
back to the bedroom and slammed the door shut. I wish
there was a way to relax are scheduel a little bit but
I can't think of anything. I think I need to relax. I
hate that I make a big deal out of things I don't
really care about, but they have become my life style. I'm
doing all of this school, work, driving back and forth,
to get to a point where I wont have to it anymore. I'm
confused and I wonder If I'm doing the right things,
but then what other choice do I have. Another
complaint and I'm full of them lately is that I hate
HATE sending Lola to daycare. I want to be home with
her I want to teach her things and I want to watch her
play with all of her friends. When will things start
getting better? Will they ever? Is this what its
going to be like being a single mother. me sacfrising
what I belive in and what I feel is important so that
I can provide shelter food and other mateiral things
for her. Thank for listening I know we have all got
it hard at times and this just seems to be antoher one
of mine if dyou have any advice or know any good
resourse that can help me deal with what has to be
done and what one wants to do, let me know.
I try to
rconize them and rethink about them and I think its
because we have such a demanding scheduel that I get
so upset. we have to be up, we have to get dressed, and
leave the house by a certain time. Some times Lola
wont get up and I'll take her to school in her pjs.
The other day when I woke her up I took her out to the
kitchen she wanted down so I put her down and she ran
back to the bedroom and slammed the door shut. I wish
there was a way to relax are scheduel a little bit but
I can't think of anything. I think I need to relax. I
hate that I make a big deal out of things I don't
really care about, but they have become my life style. I'm
doing all of this school, work, driving back and forth,
to get to a point where I wont have to it anymore. I'm
confused and I wonder If I'm doing the right things,
but then what other choice do I have. Another
complaint and I'm full of them lately is that I hate
HATE sending Lola to daycare. I want to be home with
her I want to teach her things and I want to watch her
play with all of her friends. When will things start
getting better? Will they ever? Is this what its
going to be like being a single mother. me sacfrising
what I belive in and what I feel is important so that
I can provide shelter food and other mateiral things
for her. Thank for listening I know we have all got
it hard at times and this just seems to be antoher one
of mine if dyou have any advice or know any good
resourse that can help me deal with what has to be
done and what one wants to do, let me know.
[email protected]
Hi,
I can really sympathise with your problem. I`ve been a single mom for
basically 20 years, I have a 20y/o son and a 13y/o daughter. When my son was young
I worked in an office and had to have him in daycare. I only saw him for a
half-hour in the morning, a half hour at lunch time and a half hour after
work(I worked until 7pm).It was horrible. On top of all that, he had PDD-NOS which
is a type of autism.
When my daughter was born seven years later,I decided to work in group
homes. I work third shift.I do an asleep overnight. I won`t be a millionare but I
can be with my daughter all that I want.I figure that when she`s on her own I
can go back to school(or not).
I hope things get better for you and your daughter.
Lyn
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I can really sympathise with your problem. I`ve been a single mom for
basically 20 years, I have a 20y/o son and a 13y/o daughter. When my son was young
I worked in an office and had to have him in daycare. I only saw him for a
half-hour in the morning, a half hour at lunch time and a half hour after
work(I worked until 7pm).It was horrible. On top of all that, he had PDD-NOS which
is a type of autism.
When my daughter was born seven years later,I decided to work in group
homes. I work third shift.I do an asleep overnight. I won`t be a millionare but I
can be with my daughter all that I want.I figure that when she`s on her own I
can go back to school(or not).
I hope things get better for you and your daughter.
Lyn
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
[email protected]
First, take a look at your paycheck, then deduct all your expenses (gas, clothes, daycare, etc.). Now look at your expenses, where can you cut back? Eating out? Clothes? Adjusting the thermostat? Getting rid of cable? What are you willing to give up to live your ethics?
So look at your bills...look at your income minus the expenses. How much money do you REALLY need? What can you do from home to make that kind of money? How can you juggle your timetable? Can you live communally with another single mom?
For instance, I was just thinking to day about how the floor plan of our home would be ideal to rent to two single moms...kind of apartment type dwellings on both ends with a communal kitchen and living room.
Julie S.
So look at your bills...look at your income minus the expenses. How much money do you REALLY need? What can you do from home to make that kind of money? How can you juggle your timetable? Can you live communally with another single mom?
For instance, I was just thinking to day about how the floor plan of our home would be ideal to rent to two single moms...kind of apartment type dwellings on both ends with a communal kitchen and living room.
Julie S.
----- Original Message -----
From: annlola16 <annlola16@...>
Date: Thursday, March 9, 2006 11:34 am
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] frustrated single mother
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> I'm still having control issues with Lola (My 21/2 old
> daughter)and
> I try to
> rconize them and rethink about them and I think its
> because we have such a demanding scheduel that I get
> so upset. we have to be up, we have to get dressed, and
> leave the house by a certain time. Some times Lola
> wont get up and I'll take her to school in her pjs.
> The other day when I woke her up I took her out to the
> kitchen she wanted down so I put her down and she ran
> back to the bedroom and slammed the door shut. I wish
> there was a way to relax are scheduel a little bit but
> I can't think of anything. I think I need to relax. I
> hate that I make a big deal out of things I don't
> really care about, but they have become my life style. I'm
> doing all of this school, work, driving back and forth,
> to get to a point where I wont have to it anymore. I'm
> confused and I wonder If I'm doing the right things,
> but then what other choice do I have. Another
> complaint and I'm full of them lately is that I hate
> HATE sending Lola to daycare. I want to be home with
> her I want to teach her things and I want to watch her
> play with all of her friends. When will things start
> getting better? Will they ever? Is this what its
> going to be like being a single mother. me sacfrising
> what I belive in and what I feel is important so that
> I can provide shelter food and other mateiral things
> for her. Thank for listening I know we have all got
> it hard at times and this just seems to be antoher one
> of mine if dyou have any advice or know any good
> resourse that can help me deal with what has to be
> done and what one wants to do, let me know.
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