Re: [unschoolingbasics] Thanks Joan...I think we're in about the same place :)
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I loved your entire post, Joan, but the part below especially resonated with
me! I've taken a look at the website you mentioned and will definitely get
the pamphlets. I'd actually been on the Non-violent communication list for
awhile, but I just could not take how you have to 'talk' on that list, sounded so
structured and artificial to me...drove me nuts!I But I do like the message
and see how totally it blends with the unschooling/noncoersive philosophy.
n a message dated 6/25/2004 12:12:51 AM Central Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:
This and Inbal & Marshall's other writing has helped me work on shifting my
role more and more to one I like a better, one where I make requests rather
than demands, where I remain engaged and connected to my children, giving
them my thoughts, opinions, feelings and guidance but trusting in them to
make their own decisions. Thinking about switching to "power with" gives me
a place to go to. I've noticed especially with my son over the last month,
that we are enjoying so much more harmony and closeness with my switch to
looking at everyone's needs and working together to get them met instead of
figuring out a way to get him to do what I want. I have had many areas
where this was easier for me, and some harder. I'm still working on letting
my daughter decide about her next request to sit down with a spoon and the
sugar bowl, but I'm getting closer.
Joan
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me! I've taken a look at the website you mentioned and will definitely get
the pamphlets. I'd actually been on the Non-violent communication list for
awhile, but I just could not take how you have to 'talk' on that list, sounded so
structured and artificial to me...drove me nuts!I But I do like the message
and see how totally it blends with the unschooling/noncoersive philosophy.
n a message dated 6/25/2004 12:12:51 AM Central Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:
This and Inbal & Marshall's other writing has helped me work on shifting my
role more and more to one I like a better, one where I make requests rather
than demands, where I remain engaged and connected to my children, giving
them my thoughts, opinions, feelings and guidance but trusting in them to
make their own decisions. Thinking about switching to "power with" gives me
a place to go to. I've noticed especially with my son over the last month,
that we are enjoying so much more harmony and closeness with my switch to
looking at everyone's needs and working together to get them met instead of
figuring out a way to get him to do what I want. I have had many areas
where this was easier for me, and some harder. I'm still working on letting
my daughter decide about her next request to sit down with a spoon and the
sugar bowl, but I'm getting closer.
Joan
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