adhd question
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Hello,
I used to think my child might suffer from ADHD. People, especially
neighbors who saw him often, gave him the evil eye. Some of the
children came right out and told him their parents didn't like him.
I can't imagine how painful that was for a 5 yr old to here. I knew
that getting in trouble all the time was beginning to seriously chip
away at his self-esteem. I myself was starting to wonder though if
something was really wrong with him.
So began my quest for info regarding ADHD and what was known and
unknown.
A book called the Family Virtues Guide enlightened me. The author
explained that children that appear to be, for instance bossy, are
natural leaders who need to learn the virtues of patience and
compassion. I began to wonder if my child had been mislabeled. I
discovered that he was not annoying; he was active, energetic &
brilliant. He was behaving normally for him- even thought he didn't
fit societies version of normal.
I also encourage you to see Raising Cane if you haven't. I have not
seen it yet but have heard that it has helped many parents realize
that there is absolutely nothing wrong with their children. Maybe
Grandma might be persuaded to watch it too.
I discovered that in my case, my child's ADHD related aggression,
impatience & impulsiveness were learned behaviors and that I need to
learn how to model patience, compassion & non-violent communication.
As far as the soda goes, I encourage you to hold off on that if
possible. It might be much more beneficial if he could learn how to
help himself in a natural way. I think that once we attach to the
thought that something outside ourselves is the answer to our
challenges we begin the never-ending quest for that magic thing to
help solve our "problems".
I suggest experimenting with guided imagery (very calming), peaceful
music, breath control and other mind control techniques. I would
make a game out of it and see what you both can come up with it-
sort of a challenge not a problem. I believe he will feel much
better, self-esteem wise if he learns that he is brilliant and that
only he can truly help himself.
Peace & Blessings,
Sandra
I used to think my child might suffer from ADHD. People, especially
neighbors who saw him often, gave him the evil eye. Some of the
children came right out and told him their parents didn't like him.
I can't imagine how painful that was for a 5 yr old to here. I knew
that getting in trouble all the time was beginning to seriously chip
away at his self-esteem. I myself was starting to wonder though if
something was really wrong with him.
So began my quest for info regarding ADHD and what was known and
unknown.
A book called the Family Virtues Guide enlightened me. The author
explained that children that appear to be, for instance bossy, are
natural leaders who need to learn the virtues of patience and
compassion. I began to wonder if my child had been mislabeled. I
discovered that he was not annoying; he was active, energetic &
brilliant. He was behaving normally for him- even thought he didn't
fit societies version of normal.
I also encourage you to see Raising Cane if you haven't. I have not
seen it yet but have heard that it has helped many parents realize
that there is absolutely nothing wrong with their children. Maybe
Grandma might be persuaded to watch it too.
I discovered that in my case, my child's ADHD related aggression,
impatience & impulsiveness were learned behaviors and that I need to
learn how to model patience, compassion & non-violent communication.
As far as the soda goes, I encourage you to hold off on that if
possible. It might be much more beneficial if he could learn how to
help himself in a natural way. I think that once we attach to the
thought that something outside ourselves is the answer to our
challenges we begin the never-ending quest for that magic thing to
help solve our "problems".
I suggest experimenting with guided imagery (very calming), peaceful
music, breath control and other mind control techniques. I would
make a game out of it and see what you both can come up with it-
sort of a challenge not a problem. I believe he will feel much
better, self-esteem wise if he learns that he is brilliant and that
only he can truly help himself.
Peace & Blessings,
Sandra