bedtime plus
Melanie Ilsley
Ive really been thinking about this whole issue, i "surfed" around a bit last night. When we
began our family what i have found about radical unschooling was just the way our lives were
and we thought always would be. When our oldest was 3 we were pregnant, then in a BAD
car accident, we were all seperated, her with family memebers(that love her very much, but
did not live like us AT ALL), me in the hospital for four mo, Husband still at old house,
packing and still working. Twins born early, then 7 more weeks of hospital, Lil and I visiting
2x a day. We had to live with relatives for a few more months(i broke my pelvis in 3 places,
and ankle in accident). I am not whining, we are so very blessed, our babies were fine, some
complications, but alive. We ended up moving near my family, away from our lifestyle. One
twin has epilepsy, and some developmental issues, between PT, OT, speech, MRI's. EEG's etc,
we are busy. My fear is with no bedtime we would be battling to get out of the house.
This has sounded like a big pity party for me, it is not, I am lucky, I have three unique,
terrific, fun, crazy kids, and am able to be with them. I stayed up all night thinking about my
"failure" to live the life we wanted, found lots of excuses not to try. And saw sleeping next to
me three terrific reasons to try. We were happier before, and it can work, not easily for me,
but the end result will be worth it. Sorry about the whining, I was more venting my thoughts
than complaining. Melanie
began our family what i have found about radical unschooling was just the way our lives were
and we thought always would be. When our oldest was 3 we were pregnant, then in a BAD
car accident, we were all seperated, her with family memebers(that love her very much, but
did not live like us AT ALL), me in the hospital for four mo, Husband still at old house,
packing and still working. Twins born early, then 7 more weeks of hospital, Lil and I visiting
2x a day. We had to live with relatives for a few more months(i broke my pelvis in 3 places,
and ankle in accident). I am not whining, we are so very blessed, our babies were fine, some
complications, but alive. We ended up moving near my family, away from our lifestyle. One
twin has epilepsy, and some developmental issues, between PT, OT, speech, MRI's. EEG's etc,
we are busy. My fear is with no bedtime we would be battling to get out of the house.
This has sounded like a big pity party for me, it is not, I am lucky, I have three unique,
terrific, fun, crazy kids, and am able to be with them. I stayed up all night thinking about my
"failure" to live the life we wanted, found lots of excuses not to try. And saw sleeping next to
me three terrific reasons to try. We were happier before, and it can work, not easily for me,
but the end result will be worth it. Sorry about the whining, I was more venting my thoughts
than complaining. Melanie
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>>I stayed up all night thinking about my "failure" to live the life we wanted, found lots of excuses not to try. And saw sleeping next to me three terrific reasons to try. We were happier before, and it can work, not easily for me, but the end result will be worth it. >>Melanie, try not to be so hard on yourself. Especially since circumstances took many choices out of your control. There's still plenty of time to live the life you want starting right in this very moment. What a joyous thing to look forward.
As far as bedtimes go, you can play it by ear. Listen to that voice inside you that helps guide you through each day. If you have a good bedtime routine going and the kids are happy with it then there's no need for change. :o)
--
~Mary
"The miracle is not to walk on water. The miracle is to walk on the
green earth, dwelling deeply in the present moment and feeling truly
alive."
~Thich Nhat Hanh
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