Sparkly Unschooling

Unschoolers with older kids, on the Unschooling Discussion list in October 2004, about why unschooling is different:

JOYCE FETTEROLL:

One of the factors that drew me to homeschooling rather than public schooling was that I thought learning should be fun. But only the unschoolers were focusing on fun and having positive relationships with their kids. Much of the other forums were devoted to how to make kids do their work, what products were best, what to do with younger kids while older ones did their work.

PAM SOROOSHIAN:

This got me thinking, Joyce. Because I found unschooling the same way, just looking for homeschooling information and discovered that the message boards where the unschoolers were talking were the ones that got my heart racing because they were so alive and sparkly with ideas and energy and fun and love of their children.

SANDRA DODD:

Some of my favorite memories from those times were when someone who was careful to identify with the structured side of town, as it were, would come over to the unschooling board with a really off-the-wall and interesting question of obscure nature. And each time, the person said something like, "I figured if anyone knew this it would be one of you." And the questions would be about history, usually, or a request for how something might be connected to something else, or how a child might be hooked up with an interesting mentor.

It was as blatant an acknowledgement as could have been, for me, that the other homeschoolers respected us as more knowledgeable and creative and aware of kids.

So why wouldn't they then also want to unschool?
Some did.
Some people who started on that end crossed the tracks and loosened up.

But some people don't consider themselves to be knowledgeable or creative, and (perhaps) have decided that they don't need to start now. They're out of school and don't have to learn anything else. Their kids can have school fed into and through them and then *they* won't need to learn anything else.

The shortest distance between two points is a straight line, as is mathematically stated. Sometimes a straight line isn't possible (thinking of airline flight paths, for one thing), and my children didn't HAVE two points to pass one to another.

So...
The complications come from the combination of philosophical elements (as Julie mentioned) and of the defensiveness of parents who say "I don't have to do all that" (whatever "that" is for them).

True.

No parent has to do anything. They choose to do things.

So being in that world of choices, where do they decide to stop and why?

There comes the philosophy back.

Through all the innumerable factors, how DO people decide?

By deciding what principles they are following. Each principle one clings to eliminates about half the choices in the world easily, and in a good way. Each additional principle eliminates some more options, until the world becomes manageable.

One of my guiding principles is that I want my children's worlds to be sparkly.

There goes the dull and the darkness. Easily not chosen, not an option.



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