Ramen in a happy environment is better than four dishes and a dessert in anger and sorrow.Nancy Wooten responded:
Proverbs 15:17 :-)
Schuyler Waynforth, quoted on Facebook in July 2012:
Candy fed with love beats the heck out of broccoli eaten out of fear.
BetteAnne Camagna added, on April 2013:
Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife. (Proverbs 17:1, NIV)
Food: The Science of Scrumptious
Psychology Today article, by Kat McGowan published on September 01, 2003
"Americans are consumed with worry and anxiety, fearing fried eggs as death-in-a-skillet and obsessing over fat-free treats. Compared to the Japanese, the French and the Belgians, Rozin found, Americans worry most about food but are least likely to call themselves "healthy eaters." He hypothesizes that losing touch with the hardwired pleasure of eating may itself be bad for our health. In the United States, "one of the most pleasant of human activities has become drenched in worry," he argues."
The rest of the article is interesting too but has more to do with why people like certain kinds of flavors (newborns preferring sweet, for instance) than happiness while eating.
This is from the Always Learning discussion:
I was once talking to an old friend I hadn't seen in years. She was explaining that she didn't allow her daughter (who was about 6) any sugar. She told me a story about her daughter being at a friend's house and how the friend's mother gave the little girl an ice cream sandwich even though she knew my friend didn't allow her to have sugar.
About the problem of a parent giving a choice, but not a real, honest choice, from a facebook discussion in April 2013:
It creates a trap, a trick question, an adversarial relationship, an opportunity for failure, if there is "a right answer" to the question "What do you want to eat?" Or if an overjoyed "can I have some ice cream?" is met with a sigh, and eyes rolling, and another sigh, and a dirty look, and a summary of what the child has already eaten that day, and a reminder of when the next meal is, and a head shake, and a mention of ingredients... or even ONE of those, it taints the ice cream. It harms the relationship. It makes the child smaller. It does not, correspondingly, though, make the parent larger.
May 2013, an article about the dangers of "obsessive nutrition":
"The body is extremely sensitive to stress… and that most certainly includes the stress of a hyperactive desire to eat perfectly."The author doesn't fully see her own point yet, but has some interesting links and conclusions.
More about food and eating peace "Building an unschooling Nest"
Notes from a talk given in 2011 about problems with fears about food: SandraDodd.com/foodproblems