Advantages of Eating in Peace

On Aug 1, 2006, at 9:36 PM, Sandra Dodd wrote:
Ramen in a happy environment is better than four dishes and a dessert in anger and sorrow.
Nancy Wooten responded:
Proverbs 15:17 :-)

(Better is a dinner of herbs where love is, than a stalled ox and hatred therewith.)

Schuyler Waynforth, quoted on Facebook in July 2012:

Candy fed with love beats the heck out of broccoli eaten out of fear.

BetteAnne Camagna added, on April 2013:

Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife. (Proverbs 17:1, NIV)

from:
Food: The Science of Scrumptious
Psychology Today article, by Kat McGowan published on September 01, 2003

"Americans are consumed with worry and anxiety, fearing fried eggs as death-in-a-skillet and obsessing over fat-free treats. Compared to the Japanese, the French and the Belgians, Rozin found, Americans worry most about food but are least likely to call themselves "healthy eaters." He hypothesizes that losing touch with the hardwired pleasure of eating may itself be bad for our health. In the United States, "one of the most pleasant of human activities has become drenched in worry," he argues."

The rest of the article is interesting too but has more to do with why people like certain kinds of flavors (newborns preferring sweet, for instance) than happiness while eating.

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carelia ~ C. Norton
http://www.mckca.org/carelia
Mom to Katherine (18), Christopher (15) and Aaron (7)


This is from the Always Learning discussion:
I was once talking to an old friend I hadn't seen in years. She was explaining that she didn't allow her daughter (who was about 6) any sugar. She told me a story about her daughter being at a friend's house and how the friend's mother gave the little girl an ice cream sandwich even though she knew my friend didn't allow her to have sugar.

The little girl was standing right there listening to the story. When she heard the ice cream sandwich mentioned, her face just lit up. She looked at me and started describing the ice cream, how it tasted, what it felt like in her mouth, how it dripped and melted and how dirty her face got and how sweet it was etc... etc... I have never seen anything like it. That child probably still remembers that ice cream sandwich to this day.

My friend then returned to her story about how annoyed she was that this woman gave her sugar.

(lalow, 4/30/10)


About the problem of a parent giving a choice, but not a real, honest choice, from a facebook discussion in April 2013:
It creates a trap, a trick question, an adversarial relationship, an opportunity for failure, if there is "a right answer" to the question "What do you want to eat?" Or if an overjoyed "can I have some ice cream?" is met with a sigh, and eyes rolling, and another sigh, and a dirty look, and a summary of what the child has already eaten that day, and a reminder of when the next meal is, and a head shake, and a mention of ingredients... or even ONE of those, it taints the ice cream. It harms the relationship. It makes the child smaller. It does not, correspondingly, though, make the parent larger.
—Sandra Dodd

May 2013, an article about the dangers of "obsessive nutrition":
"The body is extremely sensitive to stress… and that most certainly includes the stress of a hyperactive desire to eat perfectly."
The author doesn't fully see her own point yet, but has some interesting links and conclusions.
Some days lunch is medicinal—one child is sickly and could use soup or juice. One is off to a sports event, and carbohydrates are a good idea. One is sad, and would like comfort food. One is bored, and her sandwich could use a face. Be as loose as a dancer, as variable as an actor, as thoughtful as a chessplayer, when you decide what to make for lunch sometimes!

a Just Add Light and Stir original
More about food and eating peace "Building an unschooling Nest"

Notes from a talk given in 2011 about problems with fears about food: SandraDodd.com/foodproblems