If you're going to unschool, do it now and do it well.
I came to Sandra's circle a long time ago, I was confronted, I was challenged *&* I was out-of-this-world determined to seek out that which impassioned me so and decide what the deuce to do with it. Because of this urgency (call it a kick in the pants or head-from-ass removal) to shift focus to NOW to BE with my kids where they ARE, I had a teeeny tiiiiny list of regrets when my daughter, Hannah, died when she was 9.5. (i.e. Puff the Magic Dragon didn't really play "with a girl named Hannah Lea"). I'll never regret having spent those hours, days, maybe even weeks in angry-turned-healed tribulation and introspection. They led to far more days, weeks, months and YEARS living joyfully in our now... even through my grief (we just had the 2 year anniversary of Hannah's transition and a good friend died the next day!) I realize that the true message here is: You (all of YOU human beings on the planet!) don't have time to f*ck around!! NOW is all you got and it's as sacred as you make it. How do you want to spend your last moments on this planet? How do you want your kids to spend theirs? That is, for me especially, the heart of this lifestyle and my commitment to it.
I've been feeling extra grateful for unschooling lately. So many issues parents are having with their kids, that I just don't have. And I try to offer advice, but I can't help them back up 5 or 10 years to get a good relationship with their kids from the start. It makes me really glad I got that start with my kids.
Part of something Kelly Lovejoy wrote:
If you knew you only had a year more with that child, what would you expose him to? Where would you go? What would you eat? What would you watch? What would you do?
Meredith Novak, on Always Learning, January 2013:
Just Do it —show your kids by your actions that their needs and feelings are important to you.
Wistful stories of people who wish they'd gotten it sooner: If only...
after I said "Gradually move toward doing it right now," liked it, and wrote it down.)