If you've adopted a set of principles and priorities, it will make
decisionmaking easier. And I don't mean to choose your five and write them
down. I mean to consider what's important in a situation when you're making a
decision. And those things can vary.
If it's 11:00 at night and a child wants to do something that's outside the
house or noisy, the idea of quiet time and consideration for others who are
sleeping should take precedence, for sure.
All other things being equal, for me I decided in favor of something new and
different, over something same-old, when there was a draw about which thing to
do or which way to go. I decided to take the "more learning" path, if some kids
wanted that and some wanted to just do nothing. (Of course the first option
might be to only take the kids who want to do the cool new thing, if there's a
place to leave the other one(s) but that isn't always the best option anyway.)
It's hard to explain unschooling, partly because the best answers are "it
depends," followed by questions for the parents to consider while they're making
It depends on time available, time of day, safety, resources, the effect on
other people, need for food or rest, and other factors I can't think of right
Some days a certain request would be just perfectly WONDERful to do/pursue, and
the same request on another day might be a total flat-out "no" (Or a "maybe
later, but not during a funeral," or whatever it is).
Getting unschooling is a process. There will be more to get once you're
comfortable with the new understandings and behaviors.
from a discussion at Always Learning called I think I've got it!", in November 2010