Self-Confidence
marks_lady1980
We recently moved from a home in the country in Tennessee to our
hometown in Texas. For the first time my children are in a
subdivision and it has been more of an adjustment for me than for
them. Being used to riding bikes on country roads they didn't pay
much attention to whatever vehicle may be coming their way.
Nathan just turned 9. He ran to the front door clutching his stomach
calling for me. The door was locked and big brother told him to go to
the back door but Nathan decided he wasn't hurt so bad and hastened
to mount his bike once more.
At lunch he told me that he had 3 bike wrecks and the bragged that
during the last one in an attempt to avoid a crash with his brother
Jonathan he crashed into
the house. He was very proud of his bruises. I asked him why he kept
crashing and he responded that he was riding Matthew's 'big' bike and
that the brakes are out. We talked about possibly riding a different
bike.
Later in the afternoon I heard a truck come to a loud and sudden
stop. I thought that a dog had been hit. I rushed to the door to hear
a man saying he's okay----he's okay.
I thought he was talking about the dog. I realized that the man was a
freind that I had grown up with and who introduced me to my husband.
We had not seen each other for about 24 years. So, it was quite a
reunion and he met 5 of our 8 kids.
He told me that he nearly hit my son while I thought he was trying to
miss the dog!! He also told me that the same thing happened to him
when he was a boy but he actually colided with the car and his father
beat the fire out of him so that he would never make such a 'stupid
mistake' again.
Anyway, after he left Nathan told me that when he was coming down the
slant of the driveway he saw the truck. Knowing the brakes didn't
work well he couldn't stop so he started turning his bike and he
heard the man hit his brakes.
I was pretty rattled by this and wanted all the kids to stay off
their bikes for a while. We talked about how everyone
felt about it and then they traveled by foot to the fort on the
corner which they are building but before long the bikes were on the
road again. I am still nervous about this but the kids aren't.
Magdalena
hometown in Texas. For the first time my children are in a
subdivision and it has been more of an adjustment for me than for
them. Being used to riding bikes on country roads they didn't pay
much attention to whatever vehicle may be coming their way.
Nathan just turned 9. He ran to the front door clutching his stomach
calling for me. The door was locked and big brother told him to go to
the back door but Nathan decided he wasn't hurt so bad and hastened
to mount his bike once more.
At lunch he told me that he had 3 bike wrecks and the bragged that
during the last one in an attempt to avoid a crash with his brother
Jonathan he crashed into
the house. He was very proud of his bruises. I asked him why he kept
crashing and he responded that he was riding Matthew's 'big' bike and
that the brakes are out. We talked about possibly riding a different
bike.
Later in the afternoon I heard a truck come to a loud and sudden
stop. I thought that a dog had been hit. I rushed to the door to hear
a man saying he's okay----he's okay.
I thought he was talking about the dog. I realized that the man was a
freind that I had grown up with and who introduced me to my husband.
We had not seen each other for about 24 years. So, it was quite a
reunion and he met 5 of our 8 kids.
He told me that he nearly hit my son while I thought he was trying to
miss the dog!! He also told me that the same thing happened to him
when he was a boy but he actually colided with the car and his father
beat the fire out of him so that he would never make such a 'stupid
mistake' again.
Anyway, after he left Nathan told me that when he was coming down the
slant of the driveway he saw the truck. Knowing the brakes didn't
work well he couldn't stop so he started turning his bike and he
heard the man hit his brakes.
I was pretty rattled by this and wanted all the kids to stay off
their bikes for a while. We talked about how everyone
felt about it and then they traveled by foot to the fort on the
corner which they are building but before long the bikes were on the
road again. I am still nervous about this but the kids aren't.
Magdalena
Elizabeth Roberts
I'm sorry, but if the brakes weren't working properly what in the WORLD was he doing out on the bike?! I'd be having a very long talk with him...although I can imagine the situation is probably quite a lesson in safety in the first place! YIKES! Glad to know that he is ok though!!!!
Elizabeth
marks_lady1980 <magdalena@...> wrote:
We recently moved from a home in the country in Tennessee to our
hometown in Texas. For the first time my children are in a
subdivision and it has been more of an adjustment for me than for
them. Being used to riding bikes on country roads they didn't pay
much attention to whatever vehicle may be coming their way.
Nathan just turned 9. He ran to the front door clutching his stomach
calling for me. The door was locked and big brother told him to go to
the back door but Nathan decided he wasn't hurt so bad and hastened
to mount his bike once more.
At lunch he told me that he had 3 bike wrecks and the bragged that
during the last one in an attempt to avoid a crash with his brother
Jonathan he crashed into
the house. He was very proud of his bruises. I asked him why he kept
crashing and he responded that he was riding Matthew's 'big' bike and
that the brakes are out. We talked about possibly riding a different
bike.
Later in the afternoon I heard a truck come to a loud and sudden
stop. I thought that a dog had been hit. I rushed to the door to hear
a man saying he's okay----he's okay.
I thought he was talking about the dog. I realized that the man was a
freind that I had grown up with and who introduced me to my husband.
We had not seen each other for about 24 years. So, it was quite a
reunion and he met 5 of our 8 kids.
He told me that he nearly hit my son while I thought he was trying to
miss the dog!! He also told me that the same thing happened to him
when he was a boy but he actually colided with the car and his father
beat the fire out of him so that he would never make such a 'stupid
mistake' again.
Anyway, after he left Nathan told me that when he was coming down the
slant of the driveway he saw the truck. Knowing the brakes didn't
work well he couldn't stop so he started turning his bike and he
heard the man hit his brakes.
I was pretty rattled by this and wanted all the kids to stay off
their bikes for a while. We talked about how everyone
felt about it and then they traveled by foot to the fort on the
corner which they are building but before long the bikes were on the
road again. I am still nervous about this but the kids aren't.
Magdalena
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Elizabeth
marks_lady1980 <magdalena@...> wrote:
We recently moved from a home in the country in Tennessee to our
hometown in Texas. For the first time my children are in a
subdivision and it has been more of an adjustment for me than for
them. Being used to riding bikes on country roads they didn't pay
much attention to whatever vehicle may be coming their way.
Nathan just turned 9. He ran to the front door clutching his stomach
calling for me. The door was locked and big brother told him to go to
the back door but Nathan decided he wasn't hurt so bad and hastened
to mount his bike once more.
At lunch he told me that he had 3 bike wrecks and the bragged that
during the last one in an attempt to avoid a crash with his brother
Jonathan he crashed into
the house. He was very proud of his bruises. I asked him why he kept
crashing and he responded that he was riding Matthew's 'big' bike and
that the brakes are out. We talked about possibly riding a different
bike.
Later in the afternoon I heard a truck come to a loud and sudden
stop. I thought that a dog had been hit. I rushed to the door to hear
a man saying he's okay----he's okay.
I thought he was talking about the dog. I realized that the man was a
freind that I had grown up with and who introduced me to my husband.
We had not seen each other for about 24 years. So, it was quite a
reunion and he met 5 of our 8 kids.
He told me that he nearly hit my son while I thought he was trying to
miss the dog!! He also told me that the same thing happened to him
when he was a boy but he actually colided with the car and his father
beat the fire out of him so that he would never make such a 'stupid
mistake' again.
Anyway, after he left Nathan told me that when he was coming down the
slant of the driveway he saw the truck. Knowing the brakes didn't
work well he couldn't stop so he started turning his bike and he
heard the man hit his brakes.
I was pretty rattled by this and wanted all the kids to stay off
their bikes for a while. We talked about how everyone
felt about it and then they traveled by foot to the fort on the
corner which they are building but before long the bikes were on the
road again. I am still nervous about this but the kids aren't.
Magdalena
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In a message dated 3/1/04 8:23:39 PM, magdalena@... writes:
<< I realized that the man was a
freind that I had grown up with and who introduced me to my husband.
We had not seen each other for about 24 years. So, it was quite a
reunion and he met 5 of our 8 kids.
And consider: taking the bike to a shop and paying to get the brakes fixed
is probably cheaper than even the co-pay on a trip to the emergency room.
Just do it, even if you're poor. It's worth it.
Dad's SAY they will fix brakes, but they don't always do it in timely fashion.
I used to just ask my husband to do things, but sometimes I say "I was
wondering if you want to fix this this afternoon or whether I should just take it to
the shop tomorrow." It's more "inspiring" than if I just say "Could you fix
this if you get around to it?" To a kid, a day without a bike can seem like
a week, and a week... they can forget how to ride a bike in a week!!! <bwg>
Sandra
<< I realized that the man was a
freind that I had grown up with and who introduced me to my husband.
We had not seen each other for about 24 years. So, it was quite a
reunion and he met 5 of our 8 kids.
>>That is so cool!!!
And consider: taking the bike to a shop and paying to get the brakes fixed
is probably cheaper than even the co-pay on a trip to the emergency room.
Just do it, even if you're poor. It's worth it.
Dad's SAY they will fix brakes, but they don't always do it in timely fashion.
I used to just ask my husband to do things, but sometimes I say "I was
wondering if you want to fix this this afternoon or whether I should just take it to
the shop tomorrow." It's more "inspiring" than if I just say "Could you fix
this if you get around to it?" To a kid, a day without a bike can seem like
a week, and a week... they can forget how to ride a bike in a week!!! <bwg>
Sandra
marks_lady1980
--- In [email protected], Elizabeth Roberts
<mamabethuscg@y...> wrote:
with him...although I can imagine the situation is probably quite a
lesson in safety in the first place! YIKES! Glad to know that he is
ok though!!!!
As I said, he told me at lunch that the brakes were not working
properly and that was the first I had heard of it. And he was
suppossed to be on his own bike for the rest of the day because the
brakes on his bike are fine. The point was that he was aware of the
situation and handled it in a way which kept him safe because he
didn't panic. And yes----the bike with the bad brakes has been put
away until it can be fixed.
Magdalena
<mamabethuscg@y...> wrote:
> I'm sorry, but if the brakes weren't working properly what in theWORLD was he doing out on the bike?! I'd be having a very long talk
with him...although I can imagine the situation is probably quite a
lesson in safety in the first place! YIKES! Glad to know that he is
ok though!!!!
>Elizabeth,
> Elizabeth
As I said, he told me at lunch that the brakes were not working
properly and that was the first I had heard of it. And he was
suppossed to be on his own bike for the rest of the day because the
brakes on his bike are fine. The point was that he was aware of the
situation and handled it in a way which kept him safe because he
didn't panic. And yes----the bike with the bad brakes has been put
away until it can be fixed.
Magdalena
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> I'd be having a very long talk with him...When I was growing up that phrase was code for "a lecture is coming" and key
words for me to turn off my ears and tune out for a while.
Pam G
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In a message dated 3/2/04 6:37:47 AM, Genant2@... writes:
<< > I'd be having a very long talk with him...
<<When I was growing up that phrase was code for "a lecture is coming" and
key
words for me to turn off my ears and tune out for a while. >>
It might be different with unschooled kids who very rarely get "long talks"
and are accustomed to REAL talking.
We met a new-to-homeschooling family (mom and son dyad) last weekend. Very
sad. He's adopted, she's not apparently big on interpersonal skills, he's 14,
and they seem to have NO emotional or personal connection whatsoever. Marty
(15) was talking to me about it and said "It would be really sad not to have a
relationship."
It's like another planet, with teenaged school-kids as opposed to longterm
unschoolers.
Marty has a best friend who has been in and out, in and out of
school/homeschool, and he's now in high school on ritalin. His mom is a source of
frustration and cash, not a trusted friend of his.
Sandra
<< > I'd be having a very long talk with him...
<<When I was growing up that phrase was code for "a lecture is coming" and
key
words for me to turn off my ears and tune out for a while. >>
It might be different with unschooled kids who very rarely get "long talks"
and are accustomed to REAL talking.
We met a new-to-homeschooling family (mom and son dyad) last weekend. Very
sad. He's adopted, she's not apparently big on interpersonal skills, he's 14,
and they seem to have NO emotional or personal connection whatsoever. Marty
(15) was talking to me about it and said "It would be really sad not to have a
relationship."
It's like another planet, with teenaged school-kids as opposed to longterm
unschoolers.
Marty has a best friend who has been in and out, in and out of
school/homeschool, and he's now in high school on ritalin. His mom is a source of
frustration and cash, not a trusted friend of his.
Sandra
Lisa H
<<The point was that he was aware of the
situation and handled it in a way which kept him safe because he
didn't panic.>>
I remember as a kid the boys having bikes without brakes. That challenge was a big part of the fun. They knew what the conditions were and enjoyed learning how to navigate in those conditions. Sounds like your son has real sense of his environment.
Lisa H.
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situation and handled it in a way which kept him safe because he
didn't panic.>>
I remember as a kid the boys having bikes without brakes. That challenge was a big part of the fun. They knew what the conditions were and enjoyed learning how to navigate in those conditions. Sounds like your son has real sense of his environment.
Lisa H.
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Elizabeth Roberts
That's good...I'm sorry..I didn't realize my tone sounded so critical!
Elizabeth
marks_lady1980 <magdalena@...> wrote:
--- In [email protected], Elizabeth Roberts
<mamabethuscg@y...> wrote:
with him...although I can imagine the situation is probably quite a
lesson in safety in the first place! YIKES! Glad to know that he is
ok though!!!!
As I said, he told me at lunch that the brakes were not working
properly and that was the first I had heard of it. And he was
suppossed to be on his own bike for the rest of the day because the
brakes on his bike are fine. The point was that he was aware of the
situation and handled it in a way which kept him safe because he
didn't panic. And yes----the bike with the bad brakes has been put
away until it can be fixed.
Magdalena
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Elizabeth
marks_lady1980 <magdalena@...> wrote:
--- In [email protected], Elizabeth Roberts
<mamabethuscg@y...> wrote:
> I'm sorry, but if the brakes weren't working properly what in theWORLD was he doing out on the bike?! I'd be having a very long talk
with him...although I can imagine the situation is probably quite a
lesson in safety in the first place! YIKES! Glad to know that he is
ok though!!!!
>Elizabeth,
> Elizabeth
As I said, he told me at lunch that the brakes were not working
properly and that was the first I had heard of it. And he was
suppossed to be on his own bike for the rest of the day because the
brakes on his bike are fine. The point was that he was aware of the
situation and handled it in a way which kept him safe because he
didn't panic. And yes----the bike with the bad brakes has been put
away until it can be fixed.
Magdalena
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