catherine aceto

ORIGINAL POST:

Seems to me one of the etiquette ladies, maybe Miss Manners, said there's no
need to write a thank you note if you've said thank you in person.

Might be worth finding her book and copying the page! ;-)

Joyce


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I think this is the standard view. In any event, Peggy Post (daughter-in-law and heir to Emily) says this in her book. I have it around somewhere, I'll send you a copy of the page if you want. A useful use of experts. lol

-Cat





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joylyn

I'm probably in the very minority here, but I think thank you notes are
important. I did ask my kids to write notes to their grandma and to
Aunt Julie. At girl scouts we talked about how we often thank people
who are not so close to us for things (in person or in notes) but
sometimes we forget to a. thank those who are closest to us for things
we often take for granted and also to be thankful for the things we
have. It's easy to go to someone elses house and see all THEY have that
YOU don't. It's harder to look into our own lives and see how very rich
we are, even if it's not in the traditional way of being rich. I don't
really make my kids write thank you's, but it's also not really
optional, it's just something that is done in our home.

Joylyn

catherine aceto wrote:

> ORIGINAL POST:
>
> Seems to me one of the etiquette ladies, maybe Miss Manners, said
> there's no
> need to write a thank you note if you've said thank you in person.
>
> Might be worth finding her book and copying the page! ;-)
>
> Joyce
>
>
> ***********************************
>
> I think this is the standard view. In any event, Peggy Post
> (daughter-in-law and heir to Emily) says this in her book. I have it
> around somewhere, I'll send you a copy of the page if you want. A
> useful use of experts. lol
>
> -Cat
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<< I'm probably in the very minority here, but I think thank you notes are
important. I did ask my kids to write notes to their grandma and to
Aunt Julie. At girl scouts we talked about how we often thank people
who are not so close to us for things (in person or in notes) but
sometimes we forget. . . >>

Even before we had kids, Keith and I have always said "please" and "thank
you" to the people around us. When people give my kids gifts, they tend toward
effusion ("This is so cool! Thanks! Let's go try it out right now!")

While I like to get thank you notes from adults, and am usually surprised and
grateful for them (instead of thinking "Yeah, I earned this, and it's about
time," as some people seem to be about them), when I get one from a child I
always hope it didn't come under pressure and threat, because then I'm afraid
they've spent some time thinking negatively about me and the gift, and that it
might keep them from seeing writing as a fun thing.

For kids who write pretty well and who really like the person they're writing
too, some of those objections would fall.

Sandra