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In a message dated 12/20/2003 10:09:44 AM Central Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:

> I looked over at my daughter, standing there with this look on her face
> like "Am I trouble now?! What'd I do?!" and I just smiled at her, and said "So
> what?" to the girls. They spit and sputtered and I just said "Sarah is Sarah.
> If she is fine in a tank top, that's her choice. If she gets cold she'll put
> on her jacket. I'm not worried about it." I make warm clothes available to
> her. I'm not going to make an issue out of it if she chooses to wear something
> else.
>

MamaBeth,

You've now made the difference between "living for society" vs "living real".
Your attitude is to be commended, instead of focusing on the "me", your
attitude is focused on "what's best for my family" and not allowing it to get
torn/wrecked apart. Your attorney advised you well. The more you recognize your
families strengths, the more you will be able to improve and, to be honest,
this is how relationships improve. Each observes and changes as one learns or
discovers what must be done. Your reactions are critical at this point.

The more you continually change on the "inside" (living honestly and real,
not phony or "for others"), the more changes will be recognized on the
"outside". This attitude/heart change is what will baffle DSS the most, and that's
just fine.

Spc in Mo


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