[email protected]

Hi all,
I am Stephanie and I have 4 children, Ashton 18,Cody 7, Abby 4, and Avery 1 yr.
My oldest was a combo of public and homeschool and I am currently unschooling the younger ones. I have been struggling to "de school" my mind and trust the process. My 7 yr old has Aspergers and sensory issues and I know that the unschool way works best for him. Most days I feel ok in my decisions, but I often wonder- does he know what he should? Is he behind his age group? Am I providing enough? Is he getting it? etc...etc...
I know those are mostly "school" questions and I ask myself who is to say what you "should" know at what age and just why are you comparing your kids to anyone? But the doubt keeps coming..
I belong to some homeschool groups but they are like others have posted before (just doing school, but at home) I really believe in more organic learning, so its hard to fit in at times.
I am happy that I found this group and hope to get to know some of you better.
If anyone is in Oklahoma please let me know. We are just NW of OKC.
Stephanie

Joyce Fetteroll

On Oct 21, 2009, at 3:41 PM, ssminnow1@... wrote:

> does he know what he should?

If it's not part of his world, does he need it for his right now
self? A better question to ask is what does your unique 7 yo need to
know to be best at being his 7 yo self?

The most powerful knowledge he can possess is knowing that he can
learn whatever he puts his mind to. People are born assuming that!
Society's messages about needing experts to learn something make
people doubt.

> Is he behind his age group?
>

If they know things that he doesn't, what are they using that
knowledge for?

What does your son know *instead* of that knowledge?

Educators *say* it takes 12 years to learn all this stuff. Some even
say that once they fall behind they never catch up. But that's
because educators are using methods that run counter to how humans
naturally learn. If all you'd ever known was leaky buckets with
sieves to fill them, wouldn't you think filling buckets was hard?
Wouldn't you believe -- actually know from personal experience --
that if you took a break from filling that it would be hard to catch up?

Educators know nothing about how kids naturally learn. But they don't
even realize it! How could they? No one who believes in the school
system would allow their child to be in the control group where
they're given no instruction!

Two articles that might help:

Products of Education
http://sandradodd.com/joyce/products

Why You Can't Let Go
http://sandradodd.com/joyce/talk

Joyce

Jana Smith

Hi Stephanie!!
 
I am Jana, and we do NOT currently live in any state but we travel full-time, and so we live in a bunch of states at different times.  My mother lives in NW OKC too and we are there fairly often.  She's off NW Expwy, which I think should be Piedmont but is actually Yukon?!  LOL   Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that I also have 4 kids boys from 19 down to 12 but only 2 are home (traveling) with me now.  Would love to "hook-up" when in the area!
 
PEACE!!     Jana


--- On Wed, 10/21/09, ssminnow1@... <ssminnow1@...> wrote:


From: ssminnow1@... <ssminnow1@...>
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] New to group- Anyone in Oklahoma?
To: [email protected]
Date: Wednesday, October 21, 2009, 12:41 PM


 



Hi all,
I am Stephanie and I have 4 children, Ashton 18,Cody 7, Abby 4, and Avery 1 yr.
My oldest was a combo of public and homeschool and I am currently unschooling the younger ones. I have been struggling to "de school" my mind and trust the process. My 7 yr old has Aspergers and sensory issues and I know that the unschool way works best for him. Most days I feel ok in my decisions, but I often wonder- does he know what he should? Is he behind his age group? Am I providing enough? Is he getting it? etc...etc...
I know those are mostly "school" questions and I ask myself who is to say what you "should" know at what age and just why are you comparing your kids to anyone? But the doubt keeps coming..
I belong to some homeschool groups but they are like others have posted before (just doing school, but at home) I really believe in more organic learning, so its hard to fit in at times.
I am happy that I found this group and hope to get to know some of you better.
If anyone is in Oklahoma please let me know. We are just NW of OKC.
Stephanie



















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Ami Moore

I am in Lawton. I am new to this group but I do know of this unschooling
OKC group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FYI-OKC/
<http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FYI-OKC/>Hope this helps. Welcome to this
group!



Ami, mom of 3



On Wed, Oct 21, 2009 at 2:41 PM, ssminnow1@... <
ssminnow1@...> wrote:

>
>
> Hi all,
> I am Stephanie and I have 4 children, Ashton 18,Cody 7, Abby 4, and Avery 1
> yr.
> My oldest was a combo of public and homeschool and I am currently
> unschooling the younger ones. I have been struggling to "de school" my mind
> and trust the process. My 7 yr old has Aspergers and sensory issues and I
> know that the unschool way works best for him. Most days I feel ok in my
> decisions, but I often wonder- does he know what he should? Is he behind his
> age group? Am I providing enough? Is he getting it? etc...etc...
> I know those are mostly "school" questions and I ask myself who is to say
> what you "should" know at what age and just why are you comparing your kids
> to anyone? But the doubt keeps coming..
> I belong to some homeschool groups but they are like others have posted
> before (just doing school, but at home) I really believe in more organic
> learning, so its hard to fit in at times.
> I am happy that I found this group and hope to get to know some of you
> better.
> If anyone is in Oklahoma please let me know. We are just NW of OKC.
> Stephanie
>
>
>


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Melissa Gray

Hey Stephanie,
I'm in Oklahoma as well, south of OKC though, and I have guys with
aspergers. Unschooling has been wonderful for them...because there is
no 'behind' or 'enough', it is what they need it to be.
You should check out FYI-OKC, it's a local yahoo group that is
unschooling.
Melissa
Mom to Joshua, Breanna, Emily, Rachel, Samuel, Daniel, Avari, and
baby Nathan!
Wife to Zane
TIGERS HERE
http://pack777cubscouts.blogspot.com/
BLOG ME at
http://startlinglives.blogspot.com/




On Oct 21, 2009, at 2:41 PM, ssminnow1@... wrote:

> Hi all,
> I am Stephanie and I have 4 children, Ashton 18,Cody 7, Abby 4, and
> Avery 1 yr.
> My oldest was a combo of public and homeschool and I am currently
> unschooling the younger ones. I have been struggling to "de school"
> my mind and trust the process. My 7 yr old has Aspergers and
> sensory issues and I know that the unschool way works best for him.
> Most days I feel ok in my decisions, but I often wonder- does he
> know what he should? Is he behind his age group? Am I providing
> enough? Is he getting it? etc...etc...
> I know those are mostly "school" questions and I ask myself who is
> to say what you "should" know at what age and just why are you
> comparing your kids to anyone? But the doubt keeps coming..
> I belong to some homeschool groups but they are like others have
> posted before (just doing school, but at home) I really believe in
> more organic learning, so its hard to fit in at times.
> I am happy that I found this group and hope to get to know some of
> you better.
> If anyone is in Oklahoma please let me know. We are just NW of OKC.
> Stephanie
>
>



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Debra Rossing

Hi Steph - my DS was born in OKC (Mercy Hospital)! We're in CT now (back
'home') Just wanted to say Hi.

Deb R


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[email protected]

Hi Melissa,

I think that I have seen posts from you on other lists :0) I was actually on the FYI list last year and attended a meet up at Martin Park. I got kicked off the list for not participating enough. I was pregnant and it was hard for me to make it to most of the stuff because it was across town. I also have long periods that I am not on the computer so I received the "good bye" letter from the group.
We can be very active at times, but with my guy, we have to just take it day by day. Sometimes we need periods that we don't do much.
Thats one reason I love the "unschooling" concept!
Stephanie K


--- In [email protected], Melissa Gray <melissagr8@...> wrote:
>
> Hey Stephanie,
> I'm in Oklahoma as well, south of OKC though, and I have guys with
> aspergers. Unschooling has been wonderful for them...because there is
> no 'behind' or 'enough', it is what they need it to be.
> You should check out FYI-OKC, it's a local yahoo group that is
> unschooling.
> Melissa
> Mom to Joshua, Breanna, Emily, Rachel, Samuel, Daniel, Avari, and
> baby Nathan!
> Wife to Zane
> TIGERS HERE
> http://pack777cubscouts.blogspot.com/
> BLOG ME at
> http://startlinglives.blogspot.com/
>>
>
>

[email protected]

Joyce,
Thanks for the articles. They really helped me and I will refer to them often when I an in "doubting" mode. :0)
Stephanie K

--- In [email protected], Joyce Fetteroll <jfetteroll@...> wrote:
>
>
> On Oct 21, 2009, at 3:41 PM, ssminnow1@... wrote:
>
> > does he know what he should?
>
> If it's not part of his world, does he need it for his right now
> self? A better question to ask is what does your unique 7 yo need to
> know to be best at being his 7 yo self?
>
> The most powerful knowledge he can possess is knowing that he can
> learn whatever he puts his mind to. People are born assuming that!
> Society's messages about needing experts to learn something make
> people doubt.
>
> > Is he behind his age group?
> >
>
> If they know things that he doesn't, what are they using that
> knowledge for?
>
> What does your son know *instead* of that knowledge?
>
> Educators *say* it takes 12 years to learn all this stuff. Some even
> say that once they fall behind they never catch up. But that's
> because educators are using methods that run counter to how humans
> naturally learn. If all you'd ever known was leaky buckets with
> sieves to fill them, wouldn't you think filling buckets was hard?
> Wouldn't you believe -- actually know from personal experience --
> that if you took a break from filling that it would be hard to catch up?
>
> Educators know nothing about how kids naturally learn. But they don't
> even realize it! How could they? No one who believes in the school
> system would allow their child to be in the control group where
> they're given no instruction!
>
> Two articles that might help:
>
> Products of Education
> http://sandradodd.com/joyce/products
>
> Why You Can't Let Go
> http://sandradodd.com/joyce/talk
>
> Joyce
>