A Voss Dolce

I too have faith that he will moderate, will become interested in other things; he is very creative... it does help to know that others with this pattern seem to move out of it.

It is just hard to watch....I found it hard; but on the other hand it constantly made me question my own boundaries and my entire belief system about so many things, including the whole idea of what learning is. I think this group has made me question many things...

Oh, and we had a long talk about the nature of homeschooling, what he would like to pursue this semester, what he liked and did not like about last semester. He felt bad about depriving me of his company during his WOW marathon and vowed that he would become more balanced. And it has been happening! Today we are visiting a glass blowing center nearby, and he wants to pursue blacksmithing and will take a workshop at the end of the month.

Amy

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jlh44music

"A Voss Dolce" <avd@...> wrote:
> I too have faith that he will moderate, will become interested in
other things; he is very creative... it does help to know that others
with this pattern seem to move out of it.
>
> It is just hard to watch....I found it hard; but on the other hand
it constantly made me question my own boundaries and my entire belief
system about so many things, including the whole idea of what
learning is. I think this group has made me question many things...
>
> Oh, and we had a long talk about the nature of homeschooling, what
he would like to pursue this semester, what he liked and did not like
about last semester. He felt bad about depriving me of his company
during his WOW marathon and vowed that he would become more
balanced. And it has been happening! Today we are visiting a glass
blowing center nearby, and he wants to pursue blacksmithing and will
take a workshop at the end of the month.

As someone who has come to this recently too, and pulling a child
from school, it IS harder. Don't expect things to change
overnight! I have struggled with the changes in myself (it's easier
for her!). And even more so if you've been a teacher or involved in
school systems, as I know you have 8-).

Honest and respectful communication is what works best for us. We
have to work on it all the time, not in a negative way, but in a
mindful, "in the moment" way. It's not perfect, but much better
than the alternative. Keep reading and absorbing. No matter what,
you need to take what works best for you and your son! No one will
fault you for that!
Jann

Ren Allen

~~No matter what,
you need to take what works best for you and your son! ~~

This phrase gets used a lot and sometimes means: do what works best
for the adults in the house.

I think parents really need to examine their own issues with video
games before imposing arbitrary limits on their children. Embracing
the interest goes a lot further to facilitating trust, than trying to
limit what a child loves. "What works" for some families is hitting,
yelling, limiting and controlling. I think "what works" best for
unschoolers is trust, respect and joy.

Ren
learninginfreedom.com

jlh44music

"Ren Allen" <starsuncloud@...> wrote:

~~No matter what,you need to take what works best for you and your son!
~~

> This phrase gets used a lot and sometimes means: do what works best
for the adults in the house.
> I think parents really need to examine their own issues with video
games before imposing arbitrary limits on their children. Embracing
the interest goes a lot further to facilitating trust, than trying to
limit what a child loves. "What works" for some families is hitting,
yelling, limiting and controlling. I think "what works" best for
unschoolers is trust, respect and joy.>>

I wrote that and didn't specifically mean just video games etc, I was
thinking more in terms of the journey and transition to unschooling.
It's a process. I agree there's a lot that needs to be examined as
adults as far as video gaming goes and I was trying to stress honesty
and respect, something that more "traditional" parents struggle with,
especially with teens, and especially when coming to unschooling later
on with a teen and one who has been in school.
Jann