[email protected]

In a message dated 9/26/2006 6:46:10 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:

She's actually watching TV all day. When would
be the right moment to suggest other things to do? should I suggest
anything at all, she's happily watching TV all day, why should I
interrupt her? But maybe she's just watching tv for lack of better
things to do! But TV isn't bad, so nothing is "better". Ok, then I
should suggest something. I suggest something, she doesn't want to.
Hm – but maybe she wants to do something else. Should I suggest
another thing? But then I interrupt again. But maybe she needs more
imput! and so on and on <<<<<

If you find something cool that you think she might enjoy just ask her. As
long as she feels it is ok to say "not today mom, I am watching XYZ on TV".
Then there is no problem. She can always so NO. I see so many things out
there to do that my boys don't see, because I read the newspaper and they
don't, because I am online with other local groups and hear what is available and
they aren't, etc. I would be doing them a great disservice to know of all
these cool things and not tell them about it so they have the opportunity to
say yes or no. Maybe don't think about it quite so much and just ask, just
live.

If your hubby saw something cool going on this weekend he thought the family
might like, he would probably ask if anyone wanted to go.

:-)
Relax,
Pam




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Ren Allen

"I believe that being genuine in what you do -- in
whatever you do -- is the most important."

This is worth repeating! Being genuine, being authentic, THAT is what
our children need to see. They need to see your passions, whatever
those are but you don't need to adopt interests for her sake, you need
to do it for YOU! Showing an interest in the things that fascinate her
is important too, but it doesn't mean you will adore the same things
of course.

Do you have underlying interests that have been ignored? Are there
things that tickle your fancy that you've put off? Dig that stuff
out....dive into whatever you love. Sit with her and share what she
loves. FEED her interest in television, don't just tolerate it!:)

Ren
learninginfreedom.com