"Graduation"
Tina
I was wondering how radical unschoolers handle the transition
from "school age" to "young adult".
Our two oldest unschoolers are nearing that age and have four older
sisters that graduated public school. So...our family and friends
have been there for the traditional ceremonies and parties. Once Amie
gets nearer that transitional age I know the questions of parties and
such are going to become even more frequent. We have a few ideas of
our own, but I was wondering what traditions our fellow unschooling
families may already hold precious...or if you choose to just let life
play out on it's own without the frills.
I'm just curious...
Thanks - Tina
from "school age" to "young adult".
Our two oldest unschoolers are nearing that age and have four older
sisters that graduated public school. So...our family and friends
have been there for the traditional ceremonies and parties. Once Amie
gets nearer that transitional age I know the questions of parties and
such are going to become even more frequent. We have a few ideas of
our own, but I was wondering what traditions our fellow unschooling
families may already hold precious...or if you choose to just let life
play out on it's own without the frills.
I'm just curious...
Thanks - Tina
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-----Original Message-----
I was wondering how radical unschoolers handle the transition
from "school age" to "young adult".
Our two oldest unschoolers are nearing that age and have four older
sisters that graduated public school. So...our family and friends
have been there for the traditional ceremonies and parties. Once Amie
gets nearer that transitional age I know the questions of parties and
such are going to become even more frequent. We have a few ideas of
our own, but I was wondering what traditions our fellow unschooling
families may already hold precious...or if you choose to just let life
play out on it's own without the frills.
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Cameron turned 18 this year, and his former classmates and many of his
friends graduated high school. We gave him the option to have a
'celebratory-anything-he-wanted', but he declined. He figured he'd just
keep on keepin' on.
Ironically, the day his girlfriend graduated high school, he signed a
contract for a year-long commitment with a local, extablished R&B band.
And his own garage band is upstairs now practicing for their first
paying gig this Thursday night. They are pumped!
He's making money doing what he loves.
He still has the option for some kind of ceremony or party or
something. Maybe he will decide on some coming of age gig---maybe not.
But his 'adulthood' has just kind of eased up on him and us naturally,
and he's ok with that.
~Kelly
Kelly Lovejoy
Conference Coordinator
Live and Learn Unschooling Conference
http://liveandlearnconference.org
"It's a small world...but a BIG life!" ~Aaron McGlohn. aged 6
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I was wondering how radical unschoolers handle the transition
from "school age" to "young adult".
Our two oldest unschoolers are nearing that age and have four older
sisters that graduated public school. So...our family and friends
have been there for the traditional ceremonies and parties. Once Amie
gets nearer that transitional age I know the questions of parties and
such are going to become even more frequent. We have a few ideas of
our own, but I was wondering what traditions our fellow unschooling
families may already hold precious...or if you choose to just let life
play out on it's own without the frills.
-=-=-=-
Cameron turned 18 this year, and his former classmates and many of his
friends graduated high school. We gave him the option to have a
'celebratory-anything-he-wanted', but he declined. He figured he'd just
keep on keepin' on.
Ironically, the day his girlfriend graduated high school, he signed a
contract for a year-long commitment with a local, extablished R&B band.
And his own garage band is upstairs now practicing for their first
paying gig this Thursday night. They are pumped!
He's making money doing what he loves.
He still has the option for some kind of ceremony or party or
something. Maybe he will decide on some coming of age gig---maybe not.
But his 'adulthood' has just kind of eased up on him and us naturally,
and he's ok with that.
~Kelly
Kelly Lovejoy
Conference Coordinator
Live and Learn Unschooling Conference
http://liveandlearnconference.org
"It's a small world...but a BIG life!" ~Aaron McGlohn. aged 6
________________________________________________________________________
Check out AOL.com today. Breaking news, video search, pictures, email
and IM. All on demand. Always Free.
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>>I was wondering how radical unschoolers handle the transitionfrom "school age" to "young adult".
Our two oldest unschoolers are nearing that age and have four older
sisters that graduated public school. So...our family and friends
have been there for the traditional ceremonies and parties. Once Amie
gets nearer that transitional age I know the questions of parties and
such are going to become even more frequent. We have a few ideas of
our own, but I was wondering what traditions our fellow unschooling
families may already hold precious...or if you choose to just let life
play out on it's own without the frills.
I'm just curious...
Thanks - Tina<<
I think it depends on the kid. Some might like the opportunity to have a big
party, maybe even a ritual, that marks the transition from "kid" to "adult."
Others might hate that. I would tend not to call it a "graduation" unless
the honored person really liked that, but parties are really good, and
something ritualized could be really nice. And of course there could be
presents....
I think it also depends on "what's next" for the individual. If someone is
planning college or something, maybe they'd like something more traditional --
I don't know.
The cool thing about all this is that it can look any way appropriate for
the family.
Kathryn
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Lesa
And isn't that what you would expect it to be like when you've
extended trust and the passion of life to your kids :) yeah, for
unschooling :)
Lesa
http://lifeacademy.homeschooljournal.net
extended trust and the passion of life to your kids :) yeah, for
unschooling :)
Lesa
http://lifeacademy.homeschooljournal.net
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> But his 'adulthood' has just kind of eased up on him and us naturally,
> and he's ok with that.
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Ren Allen
"But his 'adulthood' has just kind of eased up on him and us naturally,
for Trevor too...BUT, what is kinda lame for them, is how all the
other family members get these fantastic graduation gifts and my
children aren't graduating! I wonder about sending out some letter to
family, like a "coming of age" thing. It's not that it matters so much
about the gifts, but it WOULD be nice.
I have family with resources and I know they'll be generous. I just
wonder how to approach it honestly. My Grandmother (who will never
really understand what we've done) asked if Trevor had taken his
graduation tests and gotten a "certificate" yet. sigh.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
> and he's ok with that."I think that's really cool. I believe that's exactly how it's going
for Trevor too...BUT, what is kinda lame for them, is how all the
other family members get these fantastic graduation gifts and my
children aren't graduating! I wonder about sending out some letter to
family, like a "coming of age" thing. It's not that it matters so much
about the gifts, but it WOULD be nice.
I have family with resources and I know they'll be generous. I just
wonder how to approach it honestly. My Grandmother (who will never
really understand what we've done) asked if Trevor had taken his
graduation tests and gotten a "certificate" yet. sigh.
Ren
learninginfreedom.com
Melissa
I think a coming of age party would be awesome. We had planned
something similar for our kids even when in school, and after reading
these posts, I see it is even more needful in the eyes of family. I
bought dh a book one year for father's day "Boys' Passage, Man's
Journey", It is a Christian based book, but it speaks very distinctly
about how children in our society don't have the benefit that many
other societies have, of having a delineated passage into man (and
woman-) hood. One of those take what you need books. There are surely
many books on what, why and how.
Melissa
Mom to Josh (11), Breanna (9), Emily (7), Rachel (6), Sam (5), Dan
(3), and Avari Rose
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something similar for our kids even when in school, and after reading
these posts, I see it is even more needful in the eyes of family. I
bought dh a book one year for father's day "Boys' Passage, Man's
Journey", It is a Christian based book, but it speaks very distinctly
about how children in our society don't have the benefit that many
other societies have, of having a delineated passage into man (and
woman-) hood. One of those take what you need books. There are surely
many books on what, why and how.
Melissa
Mom to Josh (11), Breanna (9), Emily (7), Rachel (6), Sam (5), Dan
(3), and Avari Rose
share our lives at
http://360.yahoo.com/multimomma
On Jul 27, 2006, at 9:24 AM, Ren Allen wrote:
> . I believe that's exactly how it's going
> for Trevor too...BUT, what is kinda lame for them, is how all the
> other family members get these fantastic graduation gifts and my
> children aren't graduating! I wonder about sending out some letter to
> family, like a "coming of age" thing. It's not that it matters so much
> about the gifts, but it WOULD be nice.
>
> I have family with resources and I know they'll be generous. I just
> wonder how to approach it honestly. My Grandmother (who will never
> really understand what we've done) asked if Trevor had taken his
> graduation tests and gotten a "certificate" yet. sigh.
>
> Ren
> learninginfreedom.com
>
>
>
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Pamela Sorooshian
My wonderful sister realized that all the other cousins were getting
"graduation" presents and that my kids weren't. So she started giving
them occasional little cash gifts for different reasons - she just
gave Rosie a really nice congratulations card with a $20 bill in it,
for earning her Girl Scout Silver Award.
Another possible time to have a big shindig for kids, in place of a
graduation gift, is a big going-away bash if they decide to go
somewhere else - traveling or living for a while. We did that for
Roya - had a huge beach party and bonfire and invited lots of people.
She went off and traveled for a few months and then came back - she
had been planning on staying away for a year, but it didn't work out
that way. Still the going-away party was awesome. I used Sandra's
Certificate of Empowerment which she modified to be given to a young
adult - framed it and read it aloud around the bonfire and gave it to
Roya.
-pam
"graduation" presents and that my kids weren't. So she started giving
them occasional little cash gifts for different reasons - she just
gave Rosie a really nice congratulations card with a $20 bill in it,
for earning her Girl Scout Silver Award.
Another possible time to have a big shindig for kids, in place of a
graduation gift, is a big going-away bash if they decide to go
somewhere else - traveling or living for a while. We did that for
Roya - had a huge beach party and bonfire and invited lots of people.
She went off and traveled for a few months and then came back - she
had been planning on staying away for a year, but it didn't work out
that way. Still the going-away party was awesome. I used Sandra's
Certificate of Empowerment which she modified to be given to a young
adult - framed it and read it aloud around the bonfire and gave it to
Roya.
-pam
On Jul 27, 2006, at 7:24 AM, Ren Allen wrote:
> I have family with resources and I know they'll be generous. I just
> wonder how to approach it honestly. My Grandmother (who will never
> really understand what we've done) asked if Trevor had taken his
> graduation tests and gotten a "certificate" yet. sigh.
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After responding to this topic yesterday, I spoke to Julian with an idea he
loved.
Julian is planning to apply to Berklee School of Music in Boston. What
occurred to me, which he loved, was for him to present a concert to his family and
friends, maybe some words in there. He can invite other important musicians
in his life to do some songs with him as well, then finish up with a big
party.
We have lots of time to plan, and he wants to do this (at least right now),
and I think it could be really cool.
Kathryn
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loved.
Julian is planning to apply to Berklee School of Music in Boston. What
occurred to me, which he loved, was for him to present a concert to his family and
friends, maybe some words in there. He can invite other important musicians
in his life to do some songs with him as well, then finish up with a big
party.
We have lots of time to plan, and he wants to do this (at least right now),
and I think it could be really cool.
Kathryn
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jlh44music
KathrynJB@... wrote:
other important musicians in his life to do some songs with him as
well, then finish up with a big party. >>
Sounds great! If you do end up doing this, let us know, we'd love to
be a part of it!
Jann
(did you get my email? 8-) )
>What occurred to me, which he loved, was for him to present a concertto his family and friends, maybe some words in there. He can invite
other important musicians in his life to do some songs with him as
well, then finish up with a big party. >>
Sounds great! If you do end up doing this, let us know, we'd love to
be a part of it!
Jann
(did you get my email? 8-) )