Christy Putnam

Hey Ya'll! I have heard of a book that addresses punitive punishments and
using rewards but I cant remember the name of it or who the author is. Can
anyone shed some light?

Thanks!

Christy Putnam
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marji

Punished by Rewards... by Alfi Kohn

here's a link:
http://tinyurl.com/gnlld

At 09:22 6/8/2006, you wrote:

>Hey Ya'll! I have heard of a book that addresses punitive punishments and
>using rewards but I cant remember the name of it or who the author is. Can
>anyone shed some light?
>
>Thanks!
>
>Christy Putnam



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Ren Allen

If I had to guess (and I shall) it's "Punished by Rewards" by Alfie Kohn.

Ren
learninginfreedom.com

Michelle/Melbrigða

On 6/8/06, Christy Putnam <personal_balance@...> wrote:
>
> Hey Ya'll! I have heard of a book that addresses punitive punishments and
> using rewards but I cant remember the name of it or who the author is. Can
> anyone shed some light?
>
Is it Punished by Rewards?


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Christy Putnam

that is it! Thank you and can you believe my library has only one copy (in
the whole library system) and it is "on shelf"...seems like more people
would be reading this...hmmm. Anyway, thanks for the help!

Christy Putnam
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Sent: Thursday, June 08, 2006 8:55 AM
To: [email protected]
Subject: Re: [unschoolingbasics] Looking for a book name



Punished by Rewards... by Alfi Kohn

here's a link:
http://tinyurl. <http://tinyurl.com/gnlld> com/gnlld

At 09:22 6/8/2006, you wrote:

>Hey Ya'll! I have heard of a book that addresses punitive punishments and
>using rewards but I cant remember the name of it or who the author is. Can
>anyone shed some light?
>
>Thanks!
>
>Christy Putnam

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[email protected]

I haven't read this book but have heard of it... It reminds me of discussing the sucker offered at the Pediatricians office when Jacob was a toddler. The entire office staff thought my concern was the sugar and assured me that the suckers were sugar free.

The never got the point that it was the "reward" for a Dr. visit that I was trying to avoid...............

The "rewards" system in public elementary system is pretty silly at best when I look back on it.

Sherlyn


From: Christy Putnam <personal_balance@...>
Date: Thu Jun 08 08:22:21 CDT 2006
To: [email protected]
Subject: [unschoolingbasics] Looking for a book name


Hey Ya'll! I have heard of a book that addresses punitive punishments and
using rewards but I cant remember the name of it or who the author is. Can
anyone shed some light?

Thanks!

Christy Putnam
<http://blog.myspace.com/personal_balance>
http://blog.myspace.com/personal_balance

Independent Executive
Discover a way to increase
your health and/or income! <http://practicalsolution.info/>
http://practicalsolution.info

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.
Live the life you have always imagined."
- Henry David Thoreau

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Joyce Fetteroll

On Jun 8, 2006, at 11:25 AM, <s_fulkerson@...>
<s_fulkerson@...> wrote:

> It reminds me of discussing the sucker offered at the Pediatricians
> office when Jacob was a toddler.

It's only a reward if you treat it as a reward telling him he'll get
a sucker for being good or going. They hand out suckers at the bank too.

Joyce

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Michelle/Melbrigða

On 6/8/06, Joyce Fetteroll <fetteroll@...> wrote:
>
> On Jun 8, 2006, at 11:25 AM, <s_fulkerson@...>
>
> <s_fulkerson@...> wrote:
>
> > It reminds me of discussing the sucker offered at the Pediatricians
> > office when Jacob was a toddler.
>
>
> It's only a reward if you treat it as a reward telling him he'll get
> a sucker for being good or going. They hand out suckers at the bank too.
>

And at the hair salon we go to. There's a whole drawer full of them
and the kids can get them before or after their haircut or if they are
just coming in with mom or dad to pick up a bottle of shampoo. I was
a little hesitant to associate lollies with a reward for getting hair
cut since when my kids get their hair cut the *want* to get their hair
cut. It's not a case of "and if you will go get that hair cut out of
your eyes you can get a lolly afterwards." They see it as "Cool, I
get my hair cut *and* get a lolly. Can this day get any better?"
Although it never surprises me when they choose not to get a lolly
because they want something salty rather than sweet or just don't want
anything at the moment. They've even taken them and put them in their
pockets for later (which I generaly end up retrieving before they get
washed.) Always surprises the heck of them when that happens! I
think that we have the ability to be able to use what someone else
deems as a "reward" by not making it so. And sorry all I can think
about is Ewww, sugar free lollies? That wouldn't be a reward to begin
with - that would be a punishment. "Here ya go kid. For being good a
yucky lolly!" LOL!!


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aka Melbrigða
http://eventualknitting.blogspot.com
[email protected] - Homeschooling for the Medieval Recreationist

Mara

I think there is a book called 'Punished by rewards" -
Mara

--- s_fulkerson@... wrote:

> I haven't read this book but have heard of it... It
> reminds me of discussing the sucker offered at the
> Pediatricians office when Jacob was a toddler. The
> entire office staff thought my concern was the sugar
> and assured me that the suckers were sugar free.
>
> The never got the point that it was the "reward" for
> a Dr. visit that I was trying to
> avoid...............
>
> The "rewards" system in public elementary system is
> pretty silly at best when I look back on it.
>
> Sherlyn
>
>
> From: Christy Putnam <personal_balance@...>
> Date: Thu Jun 08 08:22:21 CDT 2006
> To: [email protected]
> Subject: [unschoolingbasics] Looking for a book name
>
>
> Hey Ya'll! I have heard of a book that addresses
> punitive punishments and
> using rewards but I cant remember the name of it or
> who the author is. Can
> anyone shed some light?
>
> Thanks!
>
> Christy Putnam
> <http://blog.myspace.com/personal_balance>
> http://blog.myspace.com/personal_balance
>
> Independent Executive
> Discover a way to increase
> your health and/or income!
> <http://practicalsolution.info/>
> http://practicalsolution.info
>
> "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.
> Live the life you have always imagined."
> - Henry David Thoreau
>
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> removed]
>
>
>
>


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