Laura Moyer

 Has anyone ever has a problem with one child stealing from her siblings? I have a 7yr old (not unschooled)and 2 older children. (first year unschooling them)It seems that the 7 yr. old has a sneaking habit of going into others things and keeping them. I have discussed this with her and asked her to talk to the owner before taking, or talking to me about getting her own things...Is there something else I can do.( She has even gone into my things and taken items from a special drawer of mementos from my mom whom has passed away before she was born...I explained she can look through these things with me and we can talk about them..)
In my previous world before unschooling and growing  in mind and understanding I would punish but I realise that doesn't work. so Any ideas would be helpful...

Laura Moyer

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Joyce Fetteroll

On Oct 16, 2012, at 9:03 AM, Laura Moyer wrote:

> I have discussed this with her and asked her to talk to the owner before taking,
> or talking to me about getting her own things...Is there something else I can do

Since this has been going on for a while, have you asked her why she's stealing? Ask her in a non-critical-of-her-feelings way. Tell her you want to figure out what she's feeling that makes her want to take other people's things so you can help her get what she needs without hurting other people.

Emphasize that you want to help her. And you want to help other people in the family feel like their possessions are safe.

Have you read:

http://sandradodd.com/truck

That might help you talk to her in a way that helps her open up.

Joyce

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Sandra Dodd

Maybe you could talk about crows collecting things, or packrats. There's an instinct in some people to collect.

Maybe you can make her a good place to collect things, and take her to yard sales or thrift stores to collect things for her box or shelves or whatever. If she doesn't feel abundance, then she might need more things that are hers.

Sandra