Airsoft Gun for an 8 yo
athenagwis2
Hi everyone,
I am new to the group, but I think I have read a good chunk of Sandra's site (though the random door keeps popping up new and exciting pages!!). We are fairly new to unschooling and I am slowly getting my footing. My son was schooled through 2nd grade and we relaxed homeschooled for third grade. Now we are moving forward with unschooling. Hubby is taking longer to adapt to the changes. He is a fairly negative person and jumps to say no first most times. However, I know it's best for him to come to it on his own, and I am sure he will when he is ready. So i am leading by example for now.
Anyway, today I am looking for some help. My son, who is 8 years old, would like to get an airsoft gun. We went to Wal-Mart today to check on prices and I told him that once we have enough to buy it (either me or him), we will discuss the best way for him to do so. We currently live in a condo, so there isn't a lot of space to use it, though he says some other kids use the tennis court to shoot theirs. I would need to talk to the condo association with him to see about using it here, but my parents also own a farm in the country, so we could use it there as well though it is an hour drive for us.
On the other hand, hubby is insisting that an 8 year old should not have a gun. I tried to explain that it is our job to be his partner and try to find a way to help him get what he wants, but we are still there to guide him. This way it doesn't turn into him using his friends' guns unsafely etc... I would love some help in how we can make this happen for our son safely and suggestions on how to better explain it to my husband. I am still so new, it's hard for me to work backward and come up with a creative solution to this.
I am at a point where I am ready and open to hearing honesty, so I appreciate any points you have on anything I have said here. Thank you so very much for your time.
Rachel
I am new to the group, but I think I have read a good chunk of Sandra's site (though the random door keeps popping up new and exciting pages!!). We are fairly new to unschooling and I am slowly getting my footing. My son was schooled through 2nd grade and we relaxed homeschooled for third grade. Now we are moving forward with unschooling. Hubby is taking longer to adapt to the changes. He is a fairly negative person and jumps to say no first most times. However, I know it's best for him to come to it on his own, and I am sure he will when he is ready. So i am leading by example for now.
Anyway, today I am looking for some help. My son, who is 8 years old, would like to get an airsoft gun. We went to Wal-Mart today to check on prices and I told him that once we have enough to buy it (either me or him), we will discuss the best way for him to do so. We currently live in a condo, so there isn't a lot of space to use it, though he says some other kids use the tennis court to shoot theirs. I would need to talk to the condo association with him to see about using it here, but my parents also own a farm in the country, so we could use it there as well though it is an hour drive for us.
On the other hand, hubby is insisting that an 8 year old should not have a gun. I tried to explain that it is our job to be his partner and try to find a way to help him get what he wants, but we are still there to guide him. This way it doesn't turn into him using his friends' guns unsafely etc... I would love some help in how we can make this happen for our son safely and suggestions on how to better explain it to my husband. I am still so new, it's hard for me to work backward and come up with a creative solution to this.
I am at a point where I am ready and open to hearing honesty, so I appreciate any points you have on anything I have said here. Thank you so very much for your time.
Rachel
Sandra Dodd
-=-On the other hand, hubby is insisting that an 8 year old should not have a gun. I tried to explain that it is our job to be his partner and try to find a way to help him get what he wants,-=-
What about your job to be your husband's partner? If your husband is INSISTING, then why are you ignoring him?
Eight is young.
What if you the mom own an airsoft gun, and let your son shoot it when you're there? And put it away, locked up, other times.
Take it to your parents' house sometimes, or the tennis court, or somewhere carefully considered, and both of you can shoot it. Maybe your husband would prefer to own the gun.
Sandra
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What about your job to be your husband's partner? If your husband is INSISTING, then why are you ignoring him?
Eight is young.
What if you the mom own an airsoft gun, and let your son shoot it when you're there? And put it away, locked up, other times.
Take it to your parents' house sometimes, or the tennis court, or somewhere carefully considered, and both of you can shoot it. Maybe your husband would prefer to own the gun.
Sandra
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Pam Sorooshian
On Fri, May 25, 2012 at 6:08 PM, Sandra Dodd <Sandra@...> wrote:
helicopter and many police cars - swarm our park day group with guns drawn
- it was very frightening - because of some of our kids with air soft guns.
The police informed us that there was not anywhere in the entire city where
it was legal to shoot a pellet gun. I checked around and that was true in
pretty much all the towns around here.
-pam
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> Take it to your parents' house sometimes, or the tennis court, orAlso - check the local ordinances. We had the SWAT team - including police
> somewhere carefully considered, and both of you can shoot it. Maybe your
> husband would prefer to own the gun.
helicopter and many police cars - swarm our park day group with guns drawn
- it was very frightening - because of some of our kids with air soft guns.
The police informed us that there was not anywhere in the entire city where
it was legal to shoot a pellet gun. I checked around and that was true in
pretty much all the towns around here.
-pam
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athenagwis2
--- In [email protected], Pam Sorooshian <pamsoroosh@...> wrote:
Rachel
>Good point Pam. I think it would be good to talk with the town and with our condo association. We also have a gun range nearby, so perhaps if we went during the day when it might not be busy they could accommodate us too. And thank you Sandra, I spoke with hubby and he felt better when I suggested it could belong to him for now. I also spoke with my son and explained that we may have to wait till he is a little older since we want everyone in the family (including dad) to be comfortable with our decision). I am slowly learning that making these type of decisions isn't always about saying yes or no, but about learning to respect what my son would like to do and finding a way to help him come to that.
> On Fri, May 25, 2012 at 6:08 PM, Sandra Dodd <Sandra@...> wrote:
>
> > Take it to your parents' house sometimes, or the tennis court, or
> > somewhere carefully considered, and both of you can shoot it. Maybe your
> > husband would prefer to own the gun.
>
>
> Also - check the local ordinances. We had the SWAT team - including police
> helicopter and many police cars - swarm our park day group with guns drawn
> - it was very frightening - because of some of our kids with air soft guns.
> The police informed us that there was not anywhere in the entire city where
> it was legal to shoot a pellet gun. I checked around and that was true in
> pretty much all the towns around here.
>
> -pam
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>
Rachel