kgagnier0424

I am new to unschooling and trying to figure it out. When I discuss unschooling with my husband he agrees with the philosophies. When he has a spat with our 3 year old and she cries for me bc he's tryig to force her into a time out. I ask him if I can help and he rolls his eyes and says go for it. I comfort her, calm her down and talk to her about why daddy's upset or whatever the situation is. She gets up and says she wants to say sorry to daddy. When she Apologizes he lectures her then turns to me and says I need to be more stern. It makes me frustrated/angry and insecure. Is there any advice you can give me on this topic?

Kristine

Deb

I struggle with the same thing on a smaller scale with my husband. He's all about unschooling when it concerns learning but tends to be strict in all other areas. I've tried just being a good example and I have seen some small changes in the way he responds to our son's behavior. I'd love to see more. I think the key might be fear. He's afraid if our son isn't disciplined enough he'll be anti-social and not get along in the world. I think my husband is also afraid to lose what he perceives as control of the family. I know it's hard and I wish I had more for you. I did come across a website for unschooling dads is you think he'd look at it. I'll go find it and give it to you in a few minutes. I the meantime, you keep doing what your mothering heart tells you to do.

Deborah











--- In [email protected], "kgagnier0424" <kgagnier0424@...> wrote:
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> I am new to unschooling and trying to figure it out. When I discuss unschooling with my husband he agrees with the philosophies. When he has a spat with our 3 year old and she cries for me bc he's tryig to force her into a time out. I ask him if I can help and he rolls his eyes and says go for it. I comfort her, calm her down and talk to her about why daddy's upset or whatever the situation is. She gets up and says she wants to say sorry to daddy. When she Apologizes he lectures her then turns to me and says I need to be more stern. It makes me frustrated/angry and insecure. Is there any advice you can give me on this topic?
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> Kristine
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Sandra Dodd

This site on dads might be helpful (lots of links):
http://sandradodd.com/dads

(Deborah found one, but it wasn't the one she had been thinking about.)

Sandra

Sara Evans

I signed my husband's email up for this Yahoo group. He admits he finds it
hard to read every single response but he likes being exposed to the
scenarios and tried to read as much as possible. It's worked out well for
him, he's now exposed to the concepts without me having to "teach" them to
him (kind of appropriate, I think....)


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Sandra Dodd

-=-It's worked out well for
him, he's now exposed to the concepts without me having to "teach" them to
him (kind of appropriate, I think....)-=-

If he didn't mind being signed up for the discussion list, then that's not so bad, but there are many options between him reading this discussion and you "having to 'teach'" him. :-)

http://sandradodd.com/haveto






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Sara Evans

Which is exactly why I chose to share, because he appears very interested
in learning more and so far between me suggesting books and attending
conferences, etc, this has been his favorite way, it seems. Or the place
he's gotten the most useable info from maybe? In reading responses he has
been linked to your site and other sources of information via specific
topics he found interest in and/or feel we relate to in some way, instead
of what I or someone else thinks he ought to read. :)

On Jan 9, 2012 2:48 PM, "Sandra Dodd" <Sandra@...> wrote:
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-=-It's worked out well for


him, he's now exposed to the concepts without me having to "teach" them to
him (kind of appropriate, I think....)-=-

If he didn't mind being signed up for the discussion list, then that's not
so bad, but there are many options between him reading this discussion and
you "having to 'teach'" him. :-)

http://sandradodd.com/haveto

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