Sandra Dodd

-=- I have had to impose limits on some things as her freedom was
too much for me to deal
with.-=-

That was in e-mail. The mom did concede that she didnt' "have
to"impose limits, that she was choosing to, but she insisted she did
have to maintain her comfort level.

What's the Day Farenga quote from when she spoke in Florida? It
reminds me of that. That unschooling was allowing as much freedom as
the parent was comfortable with, or something.

I propose that parents either put their children in school, if
unschooling is too uncomfortable, or get a curriculum, or to stretch
their own comfort zone for the sake of their children.

Sandra

Kelly Nishan

--- In [email protected], Sandra Dodd <Sandra@...>
wrote:
>
> What's the Day Farenga quote from when she spoke in Florida? It
> reminds me of that. That unschooling was allowing as much freedom
as
> the parent was comfortable with, or something.
>
> I propose that parents either put their children in school, if
> unschooling is too uncomfortable, or get a curriculum, or to
stretch
> their own comfort zone for the sake of their children.
>
> Sandra
>

" I define unschooling as allowing children as much freedom to learn
in the world, as their parents can comfortably bear." Pat Ferenga

I think this is the quote you were thinking of. I agree with you
that it is possible to make the choice to stretch your own comfort
zone. I am continually challenged by Liz to get comfortable with my
discomfort. I also choose to challenge myself. It is not natural
or easy for me yet but I am ok with being uncomfortable until it
becomes easier.
Kelly

Kim Musolff

*** I propose that parents either put their children in school, if
unschooling is too uncomfortable, or get a curriculum, or to stretch
their own comfort zone for the sake of their children.***

See, this is the kind of thing that makes those of us new to unschooling
really frustrated to hear. It makes me feel like if I can't do it right,
then I might as well give up and put them back in school.

There is a such thing as balance. If I choose to impose some limits because
I'm uncomfortable, that doesn't mean school or a curriculum is better. It
just means I'm still on my journey.

Kim


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wisdomalways5

--- In [email protected], "Kim Musolff" <kmoose75@...>
wrote:
>
> *** I propose that parents either put their children in school, if
> unschooling is too uncomfortable, or get a curriculum, or to
stretch
> their own comfort zone for the sake of their children.***
>
> See, this is the kind of thing that makes those of us new to
unschooling
> really frustrated to hear. It makes me feel like if I can't do it
right,
> then I might as well give up and put them back in school.
>
> There is a such thing as balance. If I choose to impose some
limits because
> I'm uncomfortable, that doesn't mean school or a curriculum is
better. It
> just means I'm still on my journey.
>
> Kim
>

I think the point is to not stop and say "well we are mostly
unschoolers except for _____" - it is journey and no one said just
give up everything all at once you should go slowly but not stop
when you hit something you are uncomfortable letting go of but
examine it and work through it

Julie

Sandra Dodd

-=-See, this is the kind of thing that makes those of us new to
unschooling
really frustrated to hear. It makes me feel like if I can't do it right,
then I might as well give up and put them back in school.-=-

But his list exists to help you just do it right from the beginning.

-=-There is a such thing as balance. If I choose to impose some
limits because I'm uncomfortable, that doesn't mean school or a
curriculum is better. It just means I'm still on my journey.-=-

Hurry up with your journey, because your children get older every
day. Limitations involve recovery.

Read these things before you stretch and decide balance and a
leisurely journey are just as good as facing your discomfort for the
sake of your child now.

http://sandradodd.com/ifonly

http://sandradodd.com/unschool/gettingit

I'm not a salesman. I don't make money when you decide to unschool.
I'd rather put your writings on the "getting it" page than the "if
only" page, down the line.

-=-This is the kind of thing that makes those of us new to
unschooling really frustrated to hear. -=-

I would rather help some frustrated moms to keep their kids from
being frustrated than to soothe some moms so they'll feel better
about frustrating their kids. But those aren't the only two
choices. If you see yourself as your child's partner, neither of you
will have to be frustrated. This list can help.

This list isn't intended to help you feel better about imposing
arbitrary limitations.

Sandra

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Ren Allen

~~-=-There is a such thing as balance. If I choose to impose some
limits because I'm uncomfortable, that doesn't mean school or a
curriculum is better. It just means I'm still on my journey.-=-~~

Very true.

Every step towards freedom is a step towards joy and "balance".:) I
think the important thing is to recognize how totally brainwashed we
get through our own schooling and raising. Figuring out how to shift
into a whole new paradigm is not always easy, but worth the struggle.

Question everything, even your own limits.

Ren
learninginfreedom.com